Why the CU keep offering you free toasties. -An Atheists’ guide to Christian friends.

Hey boos,

This blog post is for my non-christian friends all over the globe who have christian friends and don’t understand what’s going on with them half the time, don’t worry I’ve got you.

So you’ve got one of these pesky Christians haven’t you? Always sharing something Jesus related on your feed amongst your memes, constantly inviting you for free food with subtle connotations of God chat, and let’s not even get started on the controversial beliefs that you both know they have but both pretend aren’t there. Also, what’s with this glow that they always have? Even. When. They. Are. Sad. Now that the ball is rolling, how on earth do they believe we were created? Helloooo, Evolution.

My name is Gedo Yamusa, your friendly online Christian and I’m here to give you some inside scoops on the thoughts going on in the head of your in-house friendly neighbourhood Christian. 

First of all, just like the whole “one size fits all” trend came and died because we realised, quite quickly, that not one size actually fits all, there is no “one size fits all” for Christians eithe.We come in all different shapes and sizes, all with different personalities and even beliefs. Some of us are baby Christians, some of us have been Christians since we came out of the womb, some of us were Christians and then we weren’t and now we’re Christians, some of us (wait for it..) aren’t even Christians yet (You’ll get there, I see you, right there at the back, don’t be shy, Jesus is knocking, you best open that door). You’ll probably meet many different Christians and they might not have the same ideas as the one outlined in this post and that’s okay, feel free to ask them questions on things they do that you don’t understand, they’ll probably be more than happy to explain it to you!

So why do Christians keep talking about God all the time? Are they trying to shove it down people’s throats?

Well, here’s one thing you must understand about the Christian. Take away God out of the Christian, and the Christian is nothing.

God is their life.

That might sound scary to you because well, as far as you know, your life is your own and you can’t imagine something else being your life. However the Christian understands and accepts that God has blessed them with this life, it’s a gift, but it’s also a gift that they cannot control and a gift they can’t take care of themselves, for example when a parent gives a young child a puppy as a present, the child cant control that puppy and most of the time it’s the parent that ends up taking care of the puppy.

(Where was I going with this?)

Yes, why do Christians talk about God all the time. Frankly, because they understand that without God, they wouldn’t be where they were. They would be way worse off and they probably were before they accepted God into their life. If you had your life changed wouldn’t you be shouting it from the rooftops? Wouldn’t you want your friends in on it too? It’s free, it’s got a lifetime warranty with the added bonus of Heaven for eternity.

And now you’re thinking, yea but Gedo, all that stuff doesn’t exist. This God stuff, it’s not real. You guys have just made it up cause it sounds nice and easy.

Well that’s going into real deep territory bud, I think that’d be a great conversation to have with your Christian. My explanation might not make sense to you but I’ll give it a shot. I know that God is real for 2 main reasons.

a. I know how I was before and how I am now, none of that could have been me. There is no way, something absolutely external had to have come into my heart and changed me because I could not have done it.

b. I look at the everyday miracles around; I’m really drawn to nature, I look at the skies, the trees, the mountains and I just can’t accept that that wasn’t made by God.

I know these aren’t as “scientific” or “evidence-filled” as you would probably like but many really smart people have written really smart books about this and I know a bunch of Christians that have read these books and for themselves compared the evidence for God’s existence and for God’s not existing, and well, they’re Christians now aren’t they?

Lemme let you in a little secret as well; being a Christian is not easy and it doesn’t feel nice all the time. Actually it’s kinda difficult sometimes. The world essentially hates you, people always questioning you and your beliefs and making you the enemy, I mean men in the Bible (which is a genuine historical account) died for this and Christians are still dying for this.

It’s not easy.

Yet we have a God who gives us the things we need to help us with these issues.

And now you’re saying, but you just said being a Christian was good.

Yea well, easy doesn’t mean good now does it? neither does good mean easy.

So we keep talking away about God because he’s the best thing that has ever happened to us and we want you to get on that. We invite you to all these things not because we want to force you into the church. We genuinely want you to just come along and see what’s up, obviously we want you to experience God for yourself but we aren’t going to hate you if you don’t. We are honestly extremely excited if we get so much as a “That was actually fun”. We’re just as stressed about this whole thing as you are, do you know how much Godly boldness and courage it took us to ask you in the first place? Don’t let that confident smile fool you, We’ve been thinking about this for a while.

If your Christian friend invites you to church next time, please don’t freak out. 9/10 it’s not as solemn and silent as you remember it to be, no one is going to look at you weirdly because you aren’t singing, no one expects you to pray, no one is going to judge you for not knowing where the chapter everyone is flipping to is (I don’t even know that) If you don’t want to go, decline. They’ll probably keep asking so go when you feel comfortable enough to and if you do want to go and they haven’t asked you yet, just ask them, they’re probably just scared. Remember also, just like clothes and Christians, Churches aren’t one size fits all, different churches have different personalities so just because you went to a really boring one when you were little, doesn’t mean you’ll have that same experience again.

The God chat? Just go with it, they just want to know where you’re at. Be honest but don’t be rude or disrespectful and I’m sure they will endeavour to do the same. Feel free to agree to disagree but let’s not stoop to name calling okay?

Which leads me to the next thing; the controversial opinions. Welp, sorry pal but those are staying. The bible is the bible is the bible is the bible, as I like to say,(…in my head)These are all good chats that your christian would probably love to have with you but are too scared (As you can probably understand why). Listen to what they have to say, you’ll probably disagree. Is this a fun and easy conversation starter? No but it’s a good conversation and you’ll never understand if you don’t talk so let’s keep it civilised. Will you change their mind? probably not. Will they change yours? Let us know how it goes. 

This is all not to say that the Christian community condemns you. We can condemn no one.

I know some people have unfortunately led with hate rather than with love which have given the impressions that Christians hate, we do not. We might not support the decisions made but you will not be shunned or treated like an outsider. You’ll learn soon, if you stick around long enough that Christian and controversy sometimes are hand in hand.

Jesus said some controversial things too back in the day. 

Does your Christian make you feel judged? useless? do you feel like they are treating you with contempt? disgust? or just being plain horrid? I think that’s a point to raise with them. We are not perfect people and sometimes it might feel like we are being judgemental but we really really really don’t want to do that, we honestly just want to help. Bring it up with them, talk about it and whenever you feel like they’re doing that, let them know.

Now let’s talk about this glow, the Godly glow. You know the one I’m talking about. That light? How does your Christian just seem so calm and even when they’re freaking out, they still seem kinda calm? Even when you absolutely dig into them with the toughest religious question you could probably think of to trip them up, they still seem kinda unscathed? That’s some real in the flesh God Glow baby. God scrubs us up so good on the inside that it actually starts showing on the outside, it’s almost the opposite of what the world teaches, scrub up on the outside and you’ll feel good on the inside. Pretty cool stuff ya feel?

The creation stuff, honestly man, I don’t know. I do not know. And yeah, your Christian may not have the answers all the time to your questions, and if they’re honest, which they should be, they should be able to say that.

I don’t know. All I know is that God said he created the earth and honestly, Imma believe it.

And before you write me off for just “believing blindly”. Think about all the things you’ve believed for granted. Maybe the belief that God doesn’t exist? You say science, but has science actually shown that God doesn’t exist or do you just believe that it has? Have you got the proof? Evolution. Have you read about the experiments? Do you actually know what you think you know, or do you just believe it cause everyone else does? 

Right now that we’ve successfully thrown you into an existential crisis, I suppose we can now conclude?

I think what your big take-away from this should be is that your Christian loves you and the God that your Christian believes in, loves you the most. You think your parents love you? Dude, Jesus literally died for you. Like he literally died. He died so that you wouldn’t have to. He died so that wrongdoings could be forgiven and forgotten, so that guilt can be taken away and so that peace can be brought to you.

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.- John 14:27

We just want you to know that, so you can now actually start really living the best life you’ve been called to live.

Oh, there I am talking about God again.

Man, us Christians can’t stop, now can we?

Hm..but then again, How could we?

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

 

Over weight: the food bit

Disclaimer: This post contains themes of like skipping meals, and the unhealthy desire to be skinny. I am not saying that being skinny is wrong, I am say the way I went about it IS. 

Hey boos,

How are you?

So I know this post is very late but listen, but here it is! If you’re a bit confused, the first part is here.

In the last episode, I talked about my story and gave a general overview of where it all began. Today, I’m going to speak about my relationship with food.

I don’t think, until now, I’ve ever had a good relationship with food, I used to see it as something that made me gain weight so on the days I went without it or ate little of it, I felt happy. I used to feel a certain novelty in being able to say I skipped breakfast or I hadn’t eaten lunch. I’m skipping ahead though, let’s start from the very beginning.

When I was very little, my parents told me that it used to be a struggle to feed me because I was very picky with what I ate (I don’t remember this) however that changed and I loved food, but not regular food, unhealthy food. I started eating a lot, and then I started eating, not because I was hungry, but because I was bored and I would eat big portions so obviously I was going to gain weight and I did (I remember this).

I wasn’t obese or anything but I was chubby and visibly bigger than all of my friends, well not friends, I didn’t have many friends in primary school (lol). Most of my female peers were slimmer than I was so that obviously didn’t really help my self-esteem. It also didn’t help that the popular girls in movies and TV were usually skinny and pretty with long hair and I wanted to be popular, so you can imagine I wasn’t exactly pleased with my chubby nature. I wanted to be skinny but I don’t remember ever actually doing anything to actively get me there.

The skipping meals didn’t start until boarding school, at the time I didn’t skip them because I wanted to lose weight, I just skipped it because I didn’t like the food they served so I lost a lot of weight, I lost so much weight. I wish I had a picture but I only have one picture from back then and I don’t even know where that picture is but I was so skinny then (I looked sick, it doesn’t look like me at all) and what is funny now that I think about it, I didn’t know I was skinny, I still thought I was chubby.

I don’t remember when I actively started skipping meals to lose weight, I think somewhere between The Netherlands and Scotland. I would skip meals and try to eat smaller portions and then binge on unhealthy food and feel guilty, it was just that never ending cycle. I didn’t see food as something that nourished my body or helped me grow, I never really saw it as a positive thing. I thought “healthy” meant “few” so the less calories I ate, the better.

This bring us to the beginning of last year when I started hanging out more with my friends, the thing about living with people is you get to see their life habits, habits like what they eat and in my case how much they eat. It made me extremely self conscious when my friends would eat half their meal and say they were full when there was me who was still hungry after eating the whole thing. This, interestingly enough, had never been a problem for me so I had no idea how to deal with it. What did I do? I tried to cut down on my eating which as you can imagine just left me hungry and wanting to snack on just about anything and everything, so now not only was I not eating enough nutrients for me, I was also filling the gap with a lot of snacks. I eventually realised that everyone has different needs and everyone has different food habits, that does not necessarily mean that mine are bad. What is good for the goose does not always have to be good for the gander.

My relationship with food is a lot better than it used to be, I try to eat when I am hungry and I try to eat enough to fill me. I try my best to watch what I eat and make healthy alternatives instead of just cutting it out of my diet completely. I try not to beat myself up when I binge on unhealthy food because I know now that this is a process and Rome wasn’t built in a day.

I’m doing these series just in case there might be anyone who could be going through their own health process right now and I would like for them to know that they are not alone and that this is a journey, everyday will not go exactly as you plan it and you need to learn to forgive yourself and let go.

I hope you enjoyed this and I’ll see you next week.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

August recap: Break, University, Self-reinvention

Hey boos,

It’s ya girl next door, how are you? (My flatmates are currently getting ready to go out and I can hear them discussing outfits, s/o to you sisters)

So it’s been very quiet on my end lately, both social media, youtube and blogging wise that’s because I have in fact moved back into University for my second year and I am currently juggling 2 jobs, education, social life and good life habits and let me tell you something it is not easy. I like it though I feel like now I have less time for idleness.

Anyway, my August recap, I feel like August was a really good month for me, I drew closer to God and was able to stick to the tasks I wanted to stick to. It’s hard to believe that summer is over though, a bit mad isn’t it?

I have decided that I am going to re-invent myself to become a better woman and to be have and portray myself in the way that God wants me to be and it’s a lot easier said than done especially at University when there is so much going on all at one time, you’re working and you’re making sure you’re eating right and seeing your friends and deadlines but I am really going to try my best to be the best I can be.

I think I might start doing something like a goal of the month where I set one goal for different categories in my life and blog about it to let you know how it goes.

How would you guys feel about that?

I’ve also been thinking about my purpose, and I think I might know what it is finally. Funnily enough, it was written in one of my old agendas and I read it and remembering thinking wow, 12 year old me had such a strong sense of purpose, because I wrote it down so well and beautifully that I feel like it couldn’t have been me that thought of it.

I will write about it when God has given me 100% confirmation but I feel as though that is what it is.

I am going to sign out now because I need to write out a grocery list for this weekend as well as meal prep ideas, then I need to read and write out some notes, respond to some emails AND come up with a schedule so that my days are as productive but spaced out as possible. The whole point is so to be productive, not burnt out.

Thank you for reading and let me know what your goals are for the month of September.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

GGTG: Gettin’ right with God

 

Hey boos,

How are you all doing? Hope your weekend has been all you’ve wanted it to be!

So if you’ve been following my blog consistently, you’ll remember that I posted a blog post Gospel Girltalk…or Guy: An honest Conversation. where I talked about how I didn’t love God as I should and how I only saw him as a military figure (either you do this or you’re out) and I think I can say that I am no longer on that route anymore.

This post is for Christians who are at the same point as me but have no idea how to get out of it, not all the things that worked for me are going to work for you and that’s perfectly fine, don’t beat yourself up about it, every person’s relationship with God is personal and there is no strict/distinct route that everyone must follow!

Here are the few things that I did that helped me.

  1. I constantly asked myself the question “Does this concern/affect my personal relationship with God?” and if the answer was no then I just left it alone.

If you spend a lot of time contemplating about the nitty gritty, thinking about what everybody is saying, taking everyone’s opinion to heart then it’s going to affect your relationship with God because then you’re not looking at him from your eyes, you’re looking at him from the eyes of everyone else.

2. Watch Transformation Church’s grace like a flood series (Grace).

It has helped me so much when it comes to rewiring what I once thought about who God was, it’s helped me see him in a different light. I 100% recommend, over and over again!

3. Listen to gospel music.

I actually enjoy listening to gospel music, I like Hillsong, I like Rend collective, Jesus Culture and some people might find it difficult finding gospel music that they enjoy so a list of gospel music could be something that I can look into.

4. Speak to God like how you’d speak to your friend or your mom.

God is like your closest friend, your dad so feel free to speak to him like your dad that he is. There is no one in this world that loves you and want to be your best friend more than he does so go for it.

5. Don’t put the pressure on yourself.

Don’t fear yourself into pushing him away by thinking you’re not a “good Christian”, God loves you and the moment you remove the pressure from yourself to be “the perfect Christian”, to believe in him, to appreciate all the things he has done for you. Make loving him your goal, not reading the bible everyday or praying twice a day.

From watching the Grace series there’s one thing I learnt that changed everything and that was, people don’t go to hell because of sin, they go to hell because they don’t believe. Human beings will slip and slide but God has already arranged for that, it’s your love he’s out for and once you realise that, it’s easy.

I was talking to one of my christian friends and I asked him how does he love God, how is he so close to him and he told me, I’m not really good at praying or reading the bible everyday and that left me stumped because I was praying and reading my bible everyday but I didn’t feel any connection with God because I didn’t love him. It was only after I retraced my steps, found out how I liked worshipping him (gospel music), learnt about his grace and how he will always love me that I finally began to understand.

Our relationship is not perfect, he is but I’m not and that’s fine because he loves me like that and I will regress sometimes but that’s also fine because he understands, all I need to do is cling onto his hand even when I can’t see his face because at the end of the day even though I may not be able to see him, he’s still carrying me along.

I really hope this helps and if you’re at the same place I was, please reach out because I completely, completely get it.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

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The raw side of blogging

Hi.

So you know how in the middle of almost every YouTuber’s career, they decide that they aren’t really doing what they love or what they want and they feel trapped and not really enjoying youtube etc etc, I don’t really know why I felt the need to start with that, anyway..

Ever since I started blogging on wordpress, the first thing on my mind was eventually gaining popularity from it, I instantly started making blog posts that every famous blogger makes, fashion related blogs, how to’s, I created a seperate instagram, I began using “hey boos” as kind of a brand thing, I really really wanted to fold myself into a mould that I felt would help me with my success (basically the clean cream modern blogger look) but I soon realised I really wasn’t good at it, it just wasn’t coming to me.

I’m not really into writing about what’s in my purse or beauty products, I also tried to schedule everything and making everything align and having categories and menus and themes and it never really worked out because it’s not really my thing you know? I mean I don’t really know much about stuff like that because if you know me I’m the most minimal effort person when it comes to things like beauty and makeup (literally my night routine is washing my face and brushing my teeth…if I can even get myself to do that)

What I’m good at and what I care about is genuinely talking (..about me) about things, about personal experiences, about ideas, goals, basically about myself ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and a couple days ago I decided I would do just that, so I changed my blog outlook completely into something that suits what I want to do so yeah expect a lot of posts about my take and opinion on things (if you care lol)

I’ve just been doing a lot of thinking these days because that’s what you do when exams are over, and I have a lot of things to say just nowhere to say them and I have a lot of things to share just not a lot of places to share them, so just expect a lot of writing, a lot of thoughts and a lot of things that I actually care about.

I’m kind of excited because I feel like I’m finally starting to see what my place is on the blogging scene, basically the raw side of blogging which people don’t really get much of nowadays (idk.)

Anyway enough of that, guys can we talk about The Royal Wedding real quick because I NEED a moment! I’m sure you are sick and tired of it on your feed at this point but I feel like I NEED to talk about it because I honestly loved it so much.

Let’s start off with the guests, I thought it was great that they had a nice range of guests and it was really fun trying to see how many of them I could recognize, not to mention I loved the clothing and seeing everyone dressed up in a way that wasn’t really typical of them. I also loved the flowers (so so pretty) and just the little touches which I will definitely be taking inspiration from for my own wedding.

Meghan’s wedding dress did disappoint me a little at first when she first came out because I thought it was plain but the more I looked at it and her in it, the more she really worked it and looked outstanding so she rocked it (although I have to add in that I loved her evening reception dress so much more.)

Meghan and Harry together were just the best thing, they honestly looked so in love and genuinely happy, you could see it in the way they looked at each other and held each other, it was so endearing.

I love love LOVED how they incorporated both Meghan’s culture and church into the ceremony, I have been listening to the Kingdom’s choir performance of “Stand By Me” over and over again, it was so beautiful. I also really appreciated the diversity; the violinist, the preacher at the wedding, the choir and can we talk about Meghan’s mom attire real quick? she AB-SO-LUTELY MURDERED IT, I loved the color on her, the hat, her hair, she looked graceful, she looked divine, she looked elegant, EVERYTHING!

I really enjoyed the wedding and it feels so weird now that it’s over because I feel like we’ve been talking about it FOREVER!

Hands up if you searched up young princes/princesses because same.

Thank you for reading this and if you’ve been supporting me by reading my blog posts, by commenting, by liking, I thank and appreciate you so much. Blogs have been coming on pretty slow for the past month or so just because I’ve been pretty busy, I’ve had exams, I’ve been applying for things over the summer, enjoying times in the sun with pals before everyone goes off for summer break but I’m home now which means a lot more time to blog and vlog and do things I want to do.

I’m going to love and leave you now because my head kinda hurts.

Thank you for reading! Get access to my social media by scrolling all the way down to the bottom (DO IT NOW!) Come back again next week for more gr8 content.

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx