Over weight: the food bit

Disclaimer: This post contains themes of like skipping meals, and the unhealthy desire to be skinny. I am not saying that being skinny is wrong, I am say the way I went about it IS. 

Hey boos,

How are you?

So I know this post is very late but listen, but here it is! If you’re a bit confused, the first part is here.

In the last episode, I talked about my story and gave a general overview of where it all began. Today, I’m going to speak about my relationship with food.

I don’t think, until now, I’ve ever had a good relationship with food, I used to see it as something that made me gain weight so on the days I went without it or ate little of it, I felt happy. I used to feel a certain novelty in being able to say I skipped breakfast or I hadn’t eaten lunch. I’m skipping ahead though, let’s start from the very beginning.

When I was very little, my parents told me that it used to be a struggle to feed me because I was very picky with what I ate (I don’t remember this) however that changed and I loved food, but not regular food, unhealthy food. I started eating a lot, and then I started eating, not because I was hungry, but because I was bored and I would eat big portions so obviously I was going to gain weight and I did (I remember this).

I wasn’t obese or anything but I was chubby and visibly bigger than all of my friends, well not friends, I didn’t have many friends in primary school (lol). Most of my female peers were slimmer than I was so that obviously didn’t really help my self-esteem. It also didn’t help that the popular girls in movies and TV were usually skinny and pretty with long hair and I wanted to be popular, so you can imagine I wasn’t exactly pleased with my chubby nature. I wanted to be skinny but I don’t remember ever actually doing anything to actively get me there.

The skipping meals didn’t start until boarding school, at the time I didn’t skip them because I wanted to lose weight, I just skipped it because I didn’t like the food they served so I lost a lot of weight, I lost so much weight. I wish I had a picture but I only have one picture from back then and I don’t even know where that picture is but I was so skinny then (I looked sick, it doesn’t look like me at all) and what is funny now that I think about it, I didn’t know I was skinny, I still thought I was chubby.

I don’t remember when I actively started skipping meals to lose weight, I think somewhere between The Netherlands and Scotland. I would skip meals and try to eat smaller portions and then binge on unhealthy food and feel guilty, it was just that never ending cycle. I didn’t see food as something that nourished my body or helped me grow, I never really saw it as a positive thing. I thought “healthy” meant “few” so the less calories I ate, the better.

This bring us to the beginning of last year when I started hanging out more with my friends, the thing about living with people is you get to see their life habits, habits like what they eat and in my case how much they eat. It made me extremely self conscious when my friends would eat half their meal and say they were full when there was me who was still hungry after eating the whole thing. This, interestingly enough, had never been a problem for me so I had no idea how to deal with it. What did I do? I tried to cut down on my eating which as you can imagine just left me hungry and wanting to snack on just about anything and everything, so now not only was I not eating enough nutrients for me, I was also filling the gap with a lot of snacks. I eventually realised that everyone has different needs and everyone has different food habits, that does not necessarily mean that mine are bad. What is good for the goose does not always have to be good for the gander.

My relationship with food is a lot better than it used to be, I try to eat when I am hungry and I try to eat enough to fill me. I try my best to watch what I eat and make healthy alternatives instead of just cutting it out of my diet completely. I try not to beat myself up when I binge on unhealthy food because I know now that this is a process and Rome wasn’t built in a day.

I’m doing these series just in case there might be anyone who could be going through their own health process right now and I would like for them to know that they are not alone and that this is a journey, everyday will not go exactly as you plan it and you need to learn to forgive yourself and let go.

I hope you enjoyed this and I’ll see you next week.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

5 TIPS FOR MOVING INTO HALLS!

Hey boos,

How are you? I know I haven’t written on this blog in what feels like a while, but I have just been really busy lately. I am going back to University very soon (yupp, summer came and went so quickly) so I’ve been preparing for that.

I know a lot of people, like me, will be preparing for University so I thought I would make a guide to make your moving in as easy and as stress free as possible.

  1. You don’t need half of what you’re taking.

When I moved into halls during first year, I definitely took a lot of things, games, bits and bobs, decoration pieces that I felt were cute but in retrospect, all they did was take space and collect dust. Try to pack minimally, there is nothing wrong with a few decorative pieces here and there to make your room feel homely but do you really need two rugs?

2. You don’t need to take all your clothes.

The closet space at University tends to be smaller than what you’re used to and there is a big likelihood you’ll buy more things whilst you are there so don’t take all of your clothes with you no matter how tempted you are to do so, I would suggest taking 1/3 of your current closet.

3. Remember that this isn’t your forever home.

Remember that you will be packing up all your stuff again at the end of (1st year) so don’t fill it up with big furniture and big plants because you will have to pack it all away again and you do not need that extra hassle, trust me.

4. Keep the boxes.

I know this isn’t the most aesthetically pleasing suggestion but try to keep some of the boxes you used perhaps under your bed or on top of your closet so that when you move out again at the end of the year, you don’t need to scramble around looking for where to pack your stuff into.

5. Make lists and then make them again.

People always says this, but it is so important to make lists and then make them again! I say make them again because you might forget some things and if you revise your list again you might find some things you don’t need.

I hope this has helped you even if it’s just a little bit!

Make sure to check my youtube channel (theshenarrative) because I will be posting a lot more University content on there!

Have a blessed weekend,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

How to stay at ease during the exam period.

Hey boos,

Happy April aka one of the greatest months because 1. Jesus appreciation I mean I appreciate Jesus everyday, he died for our sins so we can all go to heaveeenn. 2. Springtime 3. Warmer weather 4. Summer soon 5. Acceptable splashing of cash.

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However before we get to all that good stuff, some of us, if not most of us have to go through exams.

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During exam season, I find that mental strength is kind of low, we’ve got people panicking, feeling like they’re not going to pass their exams, crying and a lot of self-deprecation. So I just wanted to spread some love, some positivity, some virtual hugs (I am cute, I know) and also some tips for how you can keep your sanity this exam season.

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  1.  Do not sleep late.

There’s this stigma that students who go to sleep late are the students that are working the hardest which isn’t essentially true. Going to sleep early means you can wake up earlier meaning that you can head to the library when everyone is still sleeping and work more efficiently.  Don’t thank me, thank science.

No but seriously, make sure you sleep early so that you can get enough sleep. If your body is relying on minimum amounts of sleep, energy drinks and caffeine, you can bet that you’re going to reach breaking point a lot faster and a lot harder than someone who is sleeping at 10 pm. Also going to sleep late means waking up later in the day and waking up later in the day means spending a lot of daytime you could have used studying to prepare yourself for the day.

2. Eat well.

Eat well and eat good. There’s this whole thing were eating whatever you want at whatever time you want is acceptable because it is exam season. Don’t punish your body please, it has done nothing wrong. Eat unhealthy foods at unacceptable hours will make you a lot more sluggish, a lot more tired and a lot more uncomfortable (because you will be bloated) and after exams, you’ll jump straight into trying to lose weight which isn’t probably what you want to think about around this time. (Trust me, I know what I’m talking about, I have had….a lot…of experience)

3. Take time out to breathe.

When I say take time out to breathe, I don’t mean lying in your bed and using your phone (which..let’s not kid ourselves is probably what’s going to end up happening..again…a lot of experience) I mean going outside and taking a walk or doing some colouring or talking to a friend or family member or praying or just breathing. Taking some recuperating time when you’re feeling mentally drained can be extremely useful (recharging your battery and ting).

4. Find a creative outlet.

(Weyhey what I’m doing right now) Find yourself a creative outlet, whether it be writing or painting or whatever it is, find something for yourself to do that can keep your mind away from the stress of exams.

5. Take showers or baths. (if you have time)

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They are a good stress relief.

Your exams are important because they help you develop study habits, boost your grade and you should study (deep how I boldened it, it means you should study), it’s also important that you take care yourself and don’t let yourself burn out until you’re a twitching, nervous wreck.

Now if you don’t mind, I’m gonna go back to studying.

If you enjoyed these tips, comment what class you feel the most prepared for, if you want to hear more from me, click the follow button and if you still want me you can follow my social media on the right.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

A post you didn’t know you needed.

Hey boos,

How has your week been?

…doesn’t matter because it’s the weekend!!

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(sike it matters, you matter, I love you, wholesome content only)

How was your Easter? What did you do? Did you get April fooled? Where you doing the one that was doing the April Foolery? Let me know how it went. My Easter was so so good, my family and I went out for lunch and no one April fooled me 😦 (I wanted to be..)

We thank Jesus for dying for us and giving us another chance even though we didnt deserve it. Thanks Jesus (woohoooOoOOoOo0)

Anyway today’s post is a guide of how to get back on your feet after you’ve had a mental slump. What’s a mental slump? That period where you’re lazy, unfocused and unmotivated, you ask yourself what’s the point and why are you even doing the things you do and you feel like you’re watching your life fall apart but you cant do anything about it. Coming out of a mental slump feels so good but can sometimes be overwhelming because you don’t even know where to start, and that’s why you’re reading this post right now so let’s get straight into it.

  1. Do your dirty dishes.

You don’t realize how much of a burden dirty dishes are until your sink is nice and empty so put some indie tunes on and get those dishes done.

2. Cook.

Being in your mental slump, you probably haven’t been eating a lot and if you are, it probably has been food that isn’t good for you, or is frozen. Which is why cooking and eating a fresh meal feels so good. If you don’t like cooking (I feel your pain), the hardest part is starting, once you get started and have glorious food on your plate, you’ll find that it was totally worth it. Cooking also gives you this odd sense of having your life together already so there you go.

3. Clean your room.

Whether we want to admit it or not, a messy room is very inconvenient (trust me I know) and sure in its messy state you might know where everything is but it’s not the same story when you’re in a hurry to get out the door and all of a sudden, you can’t find your keys. Having a tidy room helps you get into that fresh, organized #bosslady or #bossman zone a lot quicker.

4. Go over your goals and re-write them.

When in a mental slump we often completely forget our goals because we’re so busy trying to do the bare minimum (get up, get dressed, go to class, do assignments) and that’s why it’s extremely hard to stay motivated because you’re just doing the bare minimum and you don’t even know why you’re doing it, everything just seems so pointless. Looking at your goals, and re-writing them a couple times helps to motivate you because as you look over them, you can imagine yourself checking them all off and you imagine how you’d feel checking them off and that is such a strong motivator.

5. Fill in your planner/calendar.

I really like this task because even though it’s such an easy task, it’s very helpful. Filling in all the plans and events you have into your planner/calendar helps you get into a productive state of mind. It helps you feel organized and it helps you feel motivated enough to move on to more difficult tasks.  If you don’t have a planner or a calender (get one) you can always make a list of all the things you need to get done and when you need to get it done by and just check that off as you go.

So those are 5 things you can do when you’re just out of a mental slump and you don’t even know where to start, I also encourage watching an encouraging preaching as well as “productivity” videos on YouTube.

I hope you found this helpful, let me know in the comments what things you do to help you get your life back on track.

If you really like this blog post, make sure you leave it a like and a comment telling me so and if you really like me, you can follow my social media on the right.

Have a blessed weekend,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

The struggle of not texting back.

Hey boos,

How are you guys doing? How was your week? Ride on the weekend, not that I have anything planned for it. I literally said, about a year ago when I wrote The struggles of not getting a text back and I never did, so a year later, here I am, doing what I said I would (a year ago but really who’s counting).

Presenting, The struggles of not texting back.

Stage 1: Overwhelmed 

It’s like people only ever know to text you when you’re busy or talking to someone else or finishing up your essay that is due by 12 A.M. So there you are, minding your business, doing your task and you get the unexpected beep and you’re overwhelmed because people don’t normally text you.

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“What is going on?”

Stage 2: Distracted

So you’ve seen the notification, you’ve registered the text and you kinda feel popular because your phone buzzed. You put the essay writing away for a bit and prepare to send the text, you’ve even prepared what you’re going to text back in your brain because you are just organized like that. However just at that moment, your best friend tags you in a meme or you see a youtube notification and before you know it, 5 hours have passed and you’re watching slime videos or somehow on your cousin’s friend’s sister’s boyfriend’s cousin’s page, laughing because she has a good taste in memes.

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Stage 3: Forgetfulness.

By now you’ve completely lost all memory that someone texted you earlier and as far as you’re concerned, your phone is just as dry as you started. You put your phone away and get on with your business, completely oblivious to the fact that someone is rethinking their relationship with you.

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“Why is my phone always so dry..?”

Stage 4: Recollection. 

Sometime during the day (or days, depending on how bad you are) you recollect that someone sent you a text and this can either go two ways, either you assume that you responded them back and get a little bit annoyed at the fact that they texted you first and never responded back so you go to check or you have no idea if you responded back so you check.

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“Why would they text me and not text me back…wait..”

Stage 5: Guilt. 

There it is.

There it is.

The text the person texted you several hours ago, cold and unloved.

You never responded to it.

It is at this point that the guilt rushes through your brain and you remember all the times people left you on read.  As far as you’re concerned you’re a hypocrite undeserving of this person’s love and affection so you decide not to text back because you feel that texting them back after so many hours is rude and they might have forgotten about the text by now.

So you just leave it and hope it doesn’t continue to haunt you.

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Stage 6: The Apology/response/make-up.

Sometimes, you apologize and respond to their text and they respond back with almost (almost) no animosity and everything is good again, the guilt completely dissipated and life is back to being the sunny daze you know that it is.

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“I am AN AMAZING friend..”

I did it guys! I completed this “series”

I hope you enjoyed!

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Disclaimer: I own none of the gifs and this is a joke, dont take it too seriously or seriously at all tbh. 

Get to know me tag: 2017 version

Hey boos,
How are you? How is it going? Exam season is upon us and you know what that means..
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Dw, if God got us then we gon’ be alright. 
I wanted to throw it back to 2012,  the year of morning routines, night routines and sweet, sweet tags.
Today I’m gonna do the get to know me tag, I did it 2 years ago but I change every minute so I decided to do another one. I did 30 questions 2 years ago so this year I am going to do 60!
Sit back, relax and prepare to learn more about me than you probably care for.
What is your full name?
Ojoagedo Zainab Yamusa

Are you named after anyone?

Not that I know of

What does your name mean?

Ojoagedo means God judges not from your outward appearance but by what is inside your heart.

Where are you from?

Kogi state, Nigeria.

Where do you live?

Scotland.

Where were you born?

Zaria, Nigeria.

Which of your parents are you closest to?

Both, it just usually depends on who is location-ally closest to me, perhaps my mom but my dad and I get along very well.

Which of your parents are you more like?

My dad, I think,

What is your favorite drink?

At this very moment, a virgin shirley temple, or a diet pepsi.

What is your favorite food?

At this very moment, Nandos chicken thighs with peri salted chips, perri-tamer sauce and garlic bread.

What is your favorite holiday destination?

Spain.

What is your favorite childhood memory?

Holidays with the fam.

What is your favorite way to pass time?

Editing or watching youtube videos.

What is your favorite snack?

Sweet popcorn and wafers.

What is your favorite sport?

Lol. Does dance count as a sport?

What is your biggest regret?

My rebellious stage.

Are you a fan of any sports team?

HAH funny.

Are you a dog person or cat person?

floofers (dogs)

Are you scared of heights?

Not really.

At what age did you go on your first date?

Never been on one (oops..)

What is an ideal first date for you?

As long as I like the person and it’s thoughtful then any date is an ideal first date.

What is at the top of your bucket list?

Success.

What is something you are gifted at?

Probably writing.

What is something you look for in a partner?

Jesus’s nod of approval.

What is something you wish you were gifted at doing?

Painting.

What is the one item you can’t leave home without?

Clothes.

What is the best compliment you have ever received?

“You’re my favourite person.”

What is the first book you remember reading?

those ladybird books with my mom. (Thanks mom)

What is the first movie you remember seeing?

I don’t even know

What is the last book you read?

I don’t remember what it’s called, I didn’t get to finish it. In my defense, the book was in a library in Nigeria and I’m no longer there.

Do you like pets?

oh do I??????? (love ’em)

Do you have any pets?

No :(, I want a pig and a puppy.

What is the name of your first pet?

Her name was Lady, from Lady and the tramp.

What is your best physical feature?

Smile.

What is your biggest accomplishment?

Getting through this past year.

What is your eye color?

Brown.

What is your favorite color?

Pink.

What is your favorite fairytale?

Hercules or Pocahontas.

What is your favorite ice-cream flavor?

Salted Caramel.

What is your favorite music genre?

I don’t really know, it depends on the time you catch me but right now probably mainstream pop lol.

What is your favorite nickname?

Princess.

What is your favorite quote?

“And now these three remain, faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love” (1 corinthians 13:13 NIV)

What is your favorite type of clothing?

Culottes.

What is your most commonly used swear word?

I don’t swear.

What is your star sign?

Sagittarius but I dont believe in horoscopes and such.

Do you have a best friend, if so, then who?

Not a best friend, a soul sister, her name is Ehi.

Do you have a tattoo?

YeaA..a tattoo of Jesus’s love in my heart (LOOOooLLlllL) No I don’t have a tattoo.

Do you have any allergies?

No.

Do you have any birthmarks? If so, where?

Yea, on my arm, forehead, below my eye, I think there’s one next to my lip as well.

Do you hold any convictions that you would be willing to die for?

None that I say confidently.

Do you prefer kissing or cuddling?

Cuddling.

What piece of technology can you not live without?

Phone.

What was the first concert you ever attended?

I haven’t, but I had always hoped it’d be one direction.

What was your favorite subject in High School?

History.

What was your first job?

Paper girl, I hated it.

What was your least favorite subject in High School?

Chemistry.

What is the furthest you’ve ever been from home?

eh, probably America.

What is your biggest fear?

All the people I love dying.

When did you suffer your first heartbreak?

2016

When was the first time you were on a plane?

When I was a wee babe.

 

I hope you enjoyed getting to know more about me, comment down below what your favourite memory is and don’t forget to hit that follow button on the right to be updated when I post. Like and comment and share with your friends!

Have a blessed weekend,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

Questions gotten from https://www.tagquestions.net/get-to-know-me-tag/

Gospel Girltalk…or Guy: dressing God-appropriate. (COLLAB)

Hey boos,

How are you doing? How has your week been? Pause this reading and let me know in the comments below.

Happy First day of September! We thank God that we all got here in one piece, all safe, all sound, all healthy and all together. We pray for a greater month than the last and for God’s blessings and love to forever be upon us Amen? Amen.

We’ve gotten to the last quarter of the year guys! 2017 is whizzing past. Has the year been going as you expected? Have you accomplished the things you wanted to? Let me know! I haven’t let me be honest, but the year hasn’t ended yet so let’s wait and see.

Anyway to the post at hand, today’s post is a collaboration with Arin from LAACY (Life As A Christian Youth) Make sure you check out her blog post on Modesty and why she doesn’t like that word as well as read her other content, just like me she is a christian youth blogging about her experiences and thoughts with Christ.

For my post though, I am going to give some tips and pointers to my girls who don’t really know the boundaries or where to draw line because sometimes it’s honestly hard.

Before I get to that though I just want to briefly talk about why modesty or rather God-appropriacy is encouraged in the bible. We know ourselves, humans are very judgmental and first impressions are everything, whether we like it or not, the way we dress is the way we are going to be addressed, not everybody that comes up to you knows who you really are in your heart, they just know what you have on. So that’s one, God was trying to save us from unnecessary harassment and possible embarrassment. There are a couple of other reasons such as some people might not know where to draw the line and some people could take things too far and forget about God.

I see it happening, it even happened with me. I was so into the clothes that at one point I was going to church to be seen in my cool clothes than for God but I reminded myself why I was going and what was important to me and I’m better now.

Moving on to what this blog post is actually about.

Here are some tips and pointers for my girls who just don’t know where to draw the line.

1.Cleavage who?

I don’t do cleavage.

I don’t wear low necked things because I feel like it can go south very quickly, not to mention the constant re-checking and re-arranging, I just can’t be bothered. I think it’s very possible and very good to look fashionable and not sexy, you can look good without looking sexy you know what I mean? So that’s my first pointer, aim to look good not to look sexy. Looking good doesn’t mean looking sexy just like looking sexy does not mean looking good.

2. When in doubt just wear fishnets.

There are some dresses that I’m just not sure if they are too short or not and I don’t want to wear leggings, I just put on fishnets, but the ones with the small holes and it works for me. Remember to wear shorts underneath!

As for how do you know when to put leggings on, I would say if you bend over and your skirt or dress rides up and your underwear is showing. For me, if the dress is the length of shorts then I wear leggings underneath.

3. Put a jacket on it.

I just love jackets, can you tell?

They are just so great because they can turn an outfit into whatever you want it to be, and they also make for very fashionable cover ups. Personally I have no problem with arms but if you feel like you don’t want to show your arms but still wanna wear that cute top, pop a jacket over it. The best part about jackets is it doesn’t even have to be a jacket, it could be an over sized button down, a zip up mesh top, anything.

4.  Fitted dresses

Personally, I don’t wear fitted dresses a lot because I don’t think I look good in them but if you have the shape for it and think you look good in them then go for it. However keep in mind that by fitted dresses I don’t necessarily mean body-con, classy not trashy. I feel like there is a very thin line when it comes to this type of dresses so I’ve included some pictures to give you an idea of what I mean by fitted dresses that look good.

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5.  Crop tops

I wear crop tops but I wear mine with high waisted jeans because 1. tummy fat and 2. discomfort. My tip is to keep your pants high waisted, so high waisted culottes, high-waisted jeans, but I feel like that’s just something that’s already widely known and done.

So those are all my tips and pointers for girls who don’t know where to draw the line. I think all of this is relative because it all just depends on your relationship with God and what you are comfortable with and your body shape so I think my biggest tip of all is to simply ask yourself, would Jesus say “Yes go girl!” if he saw you in that?

I hope you enjoyed this, let me know what you think in the comments below. Don’t forget to click that follow button on the right to be updated when I post. Follow me on Instagram and twitter, all links will be on the right. Definitely check out Arin’s blog post and show some love!

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

 

Dear Bugs,

Hey guys,

So following #HumorMondays, I decided to write another funny post today! I hope you guys have nothing short of an amazing week. Let’s get started.

Dear Bugs, 

Look, this is getting completely out of hand. 

It’s been called to my attention that this bug thing is just getting way out of hand. You guys wander around my house as if it’s yours, in my room, sometimes my bathroom, my kitchen, like come on get a life! 

I don’t want to be rude but you guys need to understand that you’ve crossed just too many boundaries. You came into my house completely uninvited and now you refuse to leave, what’s that about? It’s extremely rude, it’s bad enough that I have to fend for myself but now even stuff I do end up getting for myself, you put your grimy insect paws all over it which is completely rude and bad manners by the way, you need to stop doing that. 

Why can’t you just go home? And by home I do not mean my home, I mean yours, Y O U R S, yours. Like come on, you don’t see me in your house, in your room, constituting a nuisance and freaking people out. Why? Because I understand social interaction, and you need to too. Here are the three main rules of social interaction. 

  1. You dont just go into random people’s houses that you don’t know
  2.  You don’t just decide not to leave 
  3.  You don’t go all over their food, whether they left it out or not. It’s not yours. Leave it. 

Okay so maybe your house is a bit lonely and boring? Well get a job then! You don’t see bees hanging around inside other people’s houses willingly. Why? Beecause they’re busy doing important stuff like spreading pollen and making honey, nobody really questions why bees exist, atleast not often. Why again? Because bees are beeusy! They work for what they have! No one likes a free-loader. 

Listen, just because I might have left the door open for like 5 seconds okay maybe more like 30 minutes. Does.Not.Mean.You.Can.Just.Walk.In. And just because sometimes I get lazy and leave food bits on the counter or something, that doesn’t mean anything! It’s my house and I was planning to clean it at some point, we all make mistakes okay. 

Look, if you must stay in my house, pay rent! Make dinner! Do the dishes! Tidy your room up once in a while! (it was mine but since you came, it feels more like yours) Buy me cute presents and make me tea when I’m having a rough day. Most importantly, stay on your side! (I’m talking to you spiders). 

Remember, roommates should neither be seen nor heard (especially un-wanted ones) 

Yours sincerely, 

The human that does everything in the house. 

 

I hope you enjoyed this humorous letter. Make sure to like, comment and click that follow button on the right to be notified whenever I post something new.

Let me know in the comments below if you feel the same way when you see bugs in your house and what your strategy is to get rid of them!

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

How to look “cool”.

Hey boos,

How is your week going? How are you feeling? Pause this reading and let me know in the comments below.

In today’s blog we are going to talk about how to look “cool”. Obviously, everyone has different ideas of what looking cool is. The definition of cool, for the sake of this blog post is how to dress like those Instagram fashion models or bloggers or even youtubers that you see on your timeline everyday without busting your budget or losing your own personal style completely.

My first tip is a very typical tip but also a very important one.

The first step to looking “cool” is feeling it and the only way you can feel cool is if you are confident (or it’s winter and you’re without a jacket…..okay Gedo, bad joke but I’m not sorry). You have to be confident in yourself in order to rock whatever you wear. You can be wearing the nicest outfit in the world but without the confidence, it just won’t look right. Love yourself, be confident (you know the confidence I’m talking about, not the annoying over confidence one that everyone seems to be pushing but I digress) and you’re already 50% of the way there.

 

My second tip is to have statement, one of a kind pieces.

You don’t have to put in a lot of effort or too much money to look good. For example, a statement jacket with a nice white t shirt and jeans could look really good, or a one of a kind bag can transform a simple outfit in seconds. An interesting pair of sunglasses can change an outfit from regular to “Instagram worthy”. You’ll be able to find such pieces in places like thrift stores, yard sales and such. The items don’t even have to big (bags, shoes) they can be little things like scarves, sunglasses even earrings.

 

My third tip is to play with color.

Feel free to be free with color. You should never feel entrapped in your style. If you want to wear red for example but you’re not completely comfortable with that, I would suggest going for darker shades of red and then slowly making your way to the lighter shades or you could have small accessories in that color so earrings, rings, necklaces, maybe even a belt which leads me to my next tip.

 

My fourth tip is to remember that it’s all in the detail.

It is all in the detail. Just small tweaks and the way you accessorize can change the look of your outfit. A belt for example can bring shape to an outfit as well as accessorize it. A nice choker or even a bandana can go a long way.

 

My last tip is, I touched on it briefly in my first tip, and that is to shop at thrift stores. You can find really  amazing, authentic even designer clothes, bags, accessories even shoes at thrift stores for very affordable prices. Some of the things that are sold in there are one of a kind products that are still great quality.

That’s all I have for today, if you liked it because like and comment. Don’r forget to push the follow button on the right to stay updated on when I post!

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Honestly tho: The Internet has been lying to you.

Hey boos,

What’s up? How is your week going?

Mine has been pretty good, we thank God. The month is almost ending, like omg where is this year going? There is literally 5 more days till the month of July goes, and then we’ll be in August and then September and then I’ll be 19 and then we’ll be in 2018? Wow, I’m excited though, 2017 let’s go!

Anyway, I want to talk about something that I realized and since then I seem to see it everywhere and that’s this lowkey hatred for everything that the internet is hyping. Everything that we think is great, in reality kinda sucks. Let me show you.

Let’s take being petty for example, according to the internet; Petty is this “trendy” term and anyone who is being petty is immediately funny or cool or even goals. Girls, especially will be the first to call themselves petty, you’ll find “petty queens” and etc.

Shows of pettiness go viral instantly. When people are being “petty”, they are congratulated like as if they are doing something good but according to dictionary.com petty is defined as “mean and ungenerous in small or trifling issues”, Urban dictionary’s definition of petty isn’t nice either; it’s defined as “making things, events, or actions normal people dismiss as trivial or insignificant into excuses to be upset, uncooperative, childish, or stubborn”. Imagine? All this time that your friends have been calling you petty queen they’ve been insulting you.

I’m not trying to ruin anyone’s fun or anything (Lol I don’t care) but what happened to forgiveness? Why are people so afraid to forgive now? People are so afraid of being humans now because they feel like as if doing anything kind or nice or normal will be regarded as soft or look as though they are being walked over. Everyone wants to be “strong” but it’s like they’ve forgotten what being strong actually means.

Now everyone is seeking revenge, have we forgotten that it’s not our place to punish? Don’t you know that it takes a great person, a strong person to forgive?

Let’s take another term, Finesse, this is definitely girls’ favorite one.

According to the internet, Finessing is what strong, sexy, smart, clever people do to get what they want.  Sounds cool doesn’t it? Now let’s see what google dictionary (idk that dictionary that comes up when you google a definition) has to say about it, Finesse is “great subtlety and tact in handling or manipulating people or difficult situations”. Whilst Urban dictionary defines it as “persuading someone out of their belongings, or to do you a favor”. Sis, I’m sorry but if you’re a finesser then you’re just a glorified thief and dream seller. I don’t completely have an issue with finessing, like for example convincing your parents to get you pizza (without any corruption), I am completely for that but my problem with finesse is why it’s become viral; which is because people literally steal and are then proud of themselves. People who go on dates with people they have 0 interest in and want nothing to do with just to get a free meal (You will now be shouting MenareScum) or keeping a person around because you know they’ll splash money on you? (You will now be saying Women are the downfall of man)

Please wake up, don’t celebrate that kind of finessing.

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the #MenareScum (okay I’m raising my hands up, I say this sometimes but as a joke I’m going to try and stop, I’m sorry) I’m just so over that hashtag, men are not scum bruh. Sorry but I literally need to ask, is your father scum? I didn’t think so.

I agree, there are some really, really, really, really whack minded men out there but that doesn’t mean we should categorize all men as scum. Let’s not be blinded, the hashtag just gives us a blanket where we can all just lie under and hate guys. I know a lot of people say, no that’s not true, we’re just talking about the ones that actually but let’s think about it for a second.

You’re scrolling on twitter or Instagram, maybe even Facebook, you’ll see something about MenareScum once, or someone will say it, maybe you even start saying you continue to see and say such everyday or almost everyday.  It’s all fun and games till you repeat it so many times that you actually start believing it and one day wake up and realize you have an in depth hate for men and you don’t know how it started, then you’re in my office talking to me about how your relationships just aren’t working out for you and you don’t trust men and you think you might be lesbian which just isn’t the case.

See how easy it is to be misled? 

Not all men are scum okay? I’m tired. 

Another example of this repetition situation is the idea that women are the downfall of man, how many times have you watched a movie were the woman is the distraction or used as a distraction? Ever since Eve handed Adam that apple at the beginning, we just haven’t heard the end of it, giving men an excuse not to have real and good relationships. Do you know how many girls are out there in the “talking” stage because the guy believes she will be a distraction?

Do you want your children to grow up hating men? 

Another one, is the whole “Me and my 8 boyfriends” thing that just seems to be annoyingly everywhere (again, may or may not have joked about this sometimes, but that was before I deeped all of this okay? I’ve stopped, I am a changed woman). So cheating is the new rave isn’t it? And guys, what’s this cheating thing that my ear just can’t stop hearing? It’s like all I’m hearing is how someone cheated on another person.

What is so funny about not being able to commit? Why are we condoning such behavior? 

Why have we started treating things that are wrong as trivial matters? Have we just all lost our moral compasses?

So basically what does this all come down to?

Can we kill the year of the savage and change it into something that is actually cool? Like the year of self betterment?

Okay, well I hope you all have a great day/night and do something nice for someone. Let’s not be shouting spread love but be sharing things that undertone hate mmkay?

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx