Vlog on a Blog: 06/04/2017

Hey boos,

How has your week been? Mine has been pretty great although it’s 12:45 am right now and I am honestly trying to do this really quickly so I can go to bed. Let me be honest, I wanted to get a blog post up but I wanted to do something that would take the least amount of time, I actually googled blog post ideas and everything but at the end of the day what I came up with was completely my idea.

So I thought to myself I was like what is one thing I often like to watch on youtube and that is vlogs so why dont I do a vlog but on a blog, so here we are, vlog on a blog.

So today, the 6th of April 2017 was a pretty okay day. I intended to wake up at 7:00 am to go on a jog but I ended up sleeping in till 11:00 am so that was kind of a failure. I thought I could outsmart myself, what usually happens is I tend to wake up after my alarm has set off so if I put my alarm at 7:00 am and I dont have to get up at seven am I will probably sleep till 7:30 am. I actually wanted to go jogging at 7:30 so I put my alarm for seven, it ended up failing on me because I didn’t actually end up waking up at 7:30.

I got up at 11, I was on my phone for a while checking all my social media and then I prayed and used the bathroom before finally going to eat. I had rice (for breakfast and well lunch). I had rice because I wanted something filling so I wouldn’t have to eat lunch at work. I took a shower, brushed my teeth, all that jazz and put on my work clothes before doing my makeup. My cousin and I left the house at 1:31 because our shift start at 2, if you didnt know (and probably don’t know), I have a job now, I work at this clothing store as a “sales associate” which is just a fancy word for sales girl lol.

 

We had to walk all the way out of the estate and it was boiling hot, then we took a commercial motorbike (known as okada) to the store. We got there at 2 and clocked in. I had dark blue jeans on which apparently isnt allowed *insert eyeroll here*. Let me tell the truth, I’ve been work this job for 3 days and it’s not as cute as I thought it would be, for some reason I  never realised that in these type of jobs you have to stand your ENTIRE SHIFT which is SEVEN HOURS with only one break of FORTY FIVE MINUTES and then FIFTEEN MINUTES of bathroom break. Let me not complain too much though in case this post blows up and I somehow end up making the company look bad.

The place is very high end for Lagos standard, the people that shop there tend to be very rich and blow thousands of Naira in one shopping trip and they also tend to be rude but let me not get into that right now.

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So anyway I was wearing dark blue jeans and the team lead aka head sales girl was like you’re not allowed to wear that, like it’s kind of annoying that I cant wear dark blue jeans but whatever, your store your rules I guess.

Then I went out and shared flyers, before I started the job, sharing flyers was something I dreaded but I actually kind of enjoy doing it. It helps me put myself out there and so far most of the people I come in contact with are not as rude as I expected them to be so that’s pretty great cause ya girl is not trying to look like a fool in front of people.  I also got to see so many fine specimen of the male species. All shapes and all sizes.

I dont really talk to the other sales girls like that, whenever they gather together, I kinda just work or dont really pay attention. I dont know, I just dont really care, I am not there to make friends, I am there to make that cash flow.

So that’s basically what I kinda did the entire day.

OH, I had to call the I.T. guy so he can sign me into the system, it was a glorious 2 minutes because I got to hear his voice. I have a tiny crush on the I.T. guy if that’s what you’re wondering, but it’s one of those crushes that you know could never happen but you’re fine with that because honestly you just needed a reminder that you can still develop human feelings for people.

This lady came in and bought some stuff, another one said she would come tomorrow. We are just trying to make as much sales as possible so we can meet our target because if we dont meet it consecutively for three months, we all could lose our jobs. Although to be fair, it’s not really our fault if people don’t buy, we can’t really force a customer to buy if they don’t want to buy but again, your store your rules, man is not trying to get in trouble with anybody, you get me.

So we did that, I took my break at 7:40, it was chill, I just ate my rice cakes and went on my phone whilst enjoying the cool evening breeze. At 9, we clocked out, closed shop and my dad came to pick my cousin and I to take us home. I came home, talked with my dad for a bit before retiring to my room (with a cup of water, kit kat and a pack of oreos). I watched youtube videos and snacked, I watched Saffron Barker first, gotta love me some Saf and then I watched Daina and Ahmet, I didnt finish watching their video because they were getting all couple-y and I couldnt handle it.

I just really want to meet and be with my future husband already, but man cant force these things, you feel me.

I then had granola and yoghurt, I had a lot. I have never felt this way before like I feel like I am gaining weight that I geniunely feel like I can feel the weight of the weight on me and its not good, so I am going to try and jog tomorrow but we will see how it goes.

I had my granola, watched TV, did the dishes, took out the bin then came back into my room again to ponder about a blog post.

Right at this moment I am writing this blog post but when you will be reading this, I will probably be watching youtube videos or eating or posting something on my instagram which is datgedogirl by the way, follow me.

I am going to take a shower probably, change and go to bed because I am exhausted, hot and bothered and I feel dizzy and just need to sleep. It is 1:27 now which means I NEED to go to bed.

I hope you enjoyed this vlog on a blog, it was actually really therapeutic to write so let me know if you would like to read more.

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

Yours heartbroken: sad

To whom it may concern,

It’s been a week since the physical breakup. This has been probably one of the worst weeks of my life. I have tried to immerse myself in work, focusing only on school, on work but every time I am finally in focus, whenever I am finally on my grind, I remember him and then the tears fall and I can’t help it.

I want to disappear, I just want to stop existing, I want to do anything that will make this pain stop. I just want to stop crying, I just want him to want me back.

What was wrong with me? I was happy, I thought he was happy, what did I do?

It’s so hard to drag myself out of bed, I dont even wear makeup, I just keep remembering how we were last week. He came to see me. I can”t even think about it.

I remember when he told me

shit.

I just want to forget. I just want it to stop.

How can anyone do this.-

I dont want to see anybody, everytime I hear my phone dings my heart stops because I think it is him but everytime I check it isn’t.

What is life if he’s not in it?

I dont remember a time when he wasnt there

Everyone is telling me Im better off that he just lost something really good but its a lie, I’m not better off

I’m not

I’m so tired

All I want is for him to hug me and tell me he made a mistake, or that he was just joking

I thought he needed me the way I needed him.

I told my mother about it, she doesnt understand, I am not as strong as her, she wanted me to forget about him, she wanted me to be angry at me, she wanted me to be not upset but I can’t, I wish I could but I can’t. I love him,

I want to tell you how the break up happened but everytime I think about, I just cry.

It’s not fair, I am here listening to shitty break up songs feeling shitty about myself because of some shitty boy who doesnt think I was good enough for him.

I just dont understand why anyone would play someone they claimed that they loved, several times. Don’t I deserve happiness too?

I miss him

I miss him so much

 

Yours heartbroken,

-me

 

 

How to wear culottes

Hey boos,

So I thought since I rave so much about culottes why don’t I just dedicate an entire post to them. Basically you know how you have this specific outfit and if the top is dirty then you just can’t wear the pants because you don’t know what else to wear with them. That’s how I feel like it is with culottes, whenever most people wear them they’re worn with tight crop tops which don’t get me wrong is super cute but there is more than one way to wear culottes so let me teach you, young padawan.

  1. Turtlenecks

Can I hear a resounding “I love turtlenecks”. Turtlenecks are so pretty, they give you that classy, intellectual look and they are so great for layering. One more thing they’re great for are culottes.

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Look at this queen rocking this look, this could be you too hunny.

You see fashion doesn’t need to be difficult or expensive, she’s wearing a turtleneck, culottes, some heels and a clutch bag. The outfit looks very clean and put together and I love the fact that the colour is blue because it makes the outfit stand out.

2. Collared work shirts

This would make a really nice work outfit. A simple collared shirt and culottes make for a very office appropriate wear. You can pair this up with heels or flats.

3. A  shirt dress

Yes, this sounds very strange like those two don’t go together. Well girl, let me tell you. A loose shirt dress and culottes is what I would call an abstract outfit because it’s very baggy outfit, there’s no distinct shape. It’s actually a very daring outfit but worn with confidence and a good pair of sandal heels, you can look fantastic.

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So those are three unconventional ways you can rock culottes. If you try these out make sure you send me pictures and rock all your outfits with confidence. Jesus loves you.

 

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

 

 

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Spring

Hey boos,

guess what time it is?? SPRING TIME

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I feel like I’m that one friend that gets overexcited about the smallest things, but you know, in life it’s all about the little things. But it’s spring time which means birds song, no more finger numbing cold and thick, thick jackets that you have to put on everyday even if it to just walk to the car, Thank you Jesus. 

But spring is always a difficult time for some people, especially at this point because it’s not cold enough for your winter clothes and not warm enough for your summer clothes, everyday is a new episode of how long am I going to spend in my towel just dwelling on how to beat this weather. 

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Well not to worry, I got your back best friend. Here is a condensed list of clothing you can rock in the springtime.

  1. Outerwear

Starting of with this article that is so important, I’m talking about your jean jackets, your hoodies, duster coats. Embroidered jean jackets are very in trend right now and can you blame it, they are so  beautiful. I also highly recommend duster coats, they are a very light version of winter coats, so you can just pop it on in the morning and take it off when you’re feeling warm.

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2. Dungarees

I love dungarees so much, I raved about them in my Clothing pieces you didn’t know you needed post and they are just amazing. I don’t even need to convince  you to get these, because you’re already convinced, that’s just how good dungarees are.

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3. Ankle boots

So it’s too cold for your cute sandals but too warm for your winter boots, sis if you don’t have a pair of ankle booties what are you really doing? You need to budget and go and get some ankle boots. They’re perfect because they go with almost every outfit, they keep your feet covered and they are stylish.

4. Knee and thigh high socks.

These are fantastic because sometimes you just can’t be bothered to wear leggings and you also cant be bothered to wear jeans, so what do you do? you put on some knee high or thigh high socks. They’re amazing if what you’re wearing is a little on the short side and you want to cover up a little. Knee high socks also make your outfit look so much more put together even if you’re not.

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5. Culottes

If culottes was a guy, he’d probably be my husband, I’m just saying. I will never not rave about them. They are comfortable, they are stylish, they are loose, they go with everything, with any shoes, what more do you want? TELL ME.

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So there you have it, I hope I have helped you reduce the amount of time you take contemplating what to wear.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

yours heartbroken

To whom it may concern,

I might regret this however I am slightly intoxicated with the glasses of red wine I have had not to mention very heartbroken so it is allowed. I should have known this would happen, if you’re going to take away from anything in this letter, I want you to know that no one can be trusted and if it looks too good to be true then it probably is.

I’m not quite sure what I plan on getting out of this but I heard that paper is the most patient friend and at this point, a patient friend is what I need.

To be honest, I should have known, I should have known better but as every lovesick fool states “I was blinded by  love” not that I know what love feels like, I thought I did but I refuse to admit what I felt was love.

fuck.

fuck

fuck

FUCK.

I fucked up.

I should have known, it was my fault. I should have never shown myself to him like that, the one time I let myself be vulnerable and this is what happens

can you believe they warned me about him? They said stay away, watch out, don’t do this but I didn’t listen now look at me, I’m crying, I’m crying over a boy, a regular boy.

But he wasn’t regular, not to me he wasn’t, I loved him, I would give him everything, I would have died for him.

My heart hurts, I feel like I have been stabbed right inside my chest. I’m trying not to think about it but I keep thinking about it and when I think about it, I cry harder.

Why am I crying this much?

I just want him to knock on my door and tell me it was a cruel prank, I would be angry but I would forgive him.

Why would he just let me go like that? Why would he just throw away years?

My time, I put so much time.

You know I prayed for him, I told God to take him away if he was just going to lead me to heart break, I prayed for him, I cared about him so much. I can’t believe this.

My head hurts so much, my eyes feel so heavy.

I want to sleep but I can’t

I just keep thinking about all our future plans, we had so many. We were going to go travelling in two years, during the summer he was supposed to come down to me.

I can’t believe this.

I love him.

How could you do this to someone you deeply cared about? it doesn’t make any sense, this doesn’t make any sense.

I need him.

I need to sleep, I am so tired

I hurt so much

I’m so tired

He’s throwing it all away, he’s throwing me away.

How can he not love me anymore?

Why doesn’t he love me

Why is this happening to me

fuck

I fucked up.

 

yours heartbroken,

me.

A single girls guide to a Happy Valentine’s day

Hey boos,

So as we all know valentines day just passed

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It’s a time for showing love to loved ones but also a time to shove the fact that us single girls are, well single. It’s not easy, I get it but I’m here for you and here are some tips to help you get through the Valentines period.

 

1.Do NOT listen to your sad playlist on repeat whilst eating ice cream and watching chic-flicks

Sure you’ll see a lot of tweets and posts and even blogs condoning such behavior but honey we both know it’s only for retweets, you’re not actually supposed to spend the entire day feeling miserable.

2. GO out by yourself

People think going out by yourself is such a sad and depressing thing to do on Valentines day but honestly there is nothing more liberating than going out and doing something by yourself. And yea you’ll definitely see couples and romantic things but it is a little bit comforting watching cute couples, it reminds you there is still love in the world.

3. Have a Galentines day

Go out and have dinner with your friends! It can be as easy as asking everyone to bring a meal and having dinner together and then finishing the night with a movie marathons! Netflix binging is always best in threes!

4. Glam up

Dress up, do your makeup, anything that will make you feel like a boss-lady, even if it means walking around the house in your heels.

5. Pray

Show love to Jesus, spend time with him, nobody loves you more than him after all.

6 Call your family 

Spend time with your family, call them up, remind them you love them. The valentines period is all about love but that doesn’t restrict it to your significant other, it can and should be spread out to your family and people in need and just random people.

7. Treat yo’self

By treat yourself I dont mean go out and get yourself hopelessly drunk or having a one-night stand or anything close to that, when I say treat yourself I mean do something that you will love and will pretty much love you back. Go get some ice cream (not out of self-pity see point 1) , watch movies, have a lovely breakfast, take care of yourself, love yourself.

 

People like to say “ohhh Valentines day should be everyday, not just one day”

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and I agree, showing love should be done everyday but don’t be a Valentine’s day Grinch, have fun, show love, get it girl.

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Lots of love,

Have a blessed week,

Gedo xx

 

Gospel Girltalk..or Guy: trials.

Hey boos,

How was your weekend?

Okay so I know there was no post on Sunday but that was because instead of staying at home and working on a blog post, I decided to go and see Moana instead (which was amazing, it is such a beautiful movie although it has a lot of mythology in it, some of you might not be interested in that, but I thought it was a bautiful movie.)

I decided it has been a long while since I did GGOG (Gospel Girltalk….or Guy) and so here we are, today we are going to be talking about trials.

What even are trials?

Trials are basically tests of faith from God to us, it’s when things don’t go exactly the way we want them to and we have to lean on God and put our trust and faith in God to do what’s best for us.

What is the difference between trials and temptations? 

Trials are from God, temptations are from the devil. God would never tempt his children to sin. In James 1:13**, it says “When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone;”. It even goes on to say “But each person is tempted when they are dragged way by their own evil desire and enticed”. Temptations come from your own evil desires, but today’s focus is not temptations but trials.

Why does God give us trials?

In James 1:2-4, it says “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

Sometimes God puts us through trials to teach us something that will in turn make us ready and mature for something else greater in the future.

Sometimes God puts us through trials just to test us. Being in a relationship with God, you learn a lot, you also learn a lot through reading the bible, when you are facing a trial, all your knowledge, all that you have been taught gets put to the test, literally. You keep on reading about having faith in the bible and you’re like YES! YES! YES! I CAN MOST DEFINITELY DO THAT, THAT IS EASY! but then when you’re facing a trial and you literally need to put your faith in God, that’s when you know if you actually can do it and if you have actually learnt how to put your faith in God.

We also face trials so that God can show us that we cannot do on our own. Sometimes, as humans, we can get quite cocky and believe completely in our own abilities as well as take credit for every good thing that has happened to us but when we face trials, we have no choice but to depend on God and that’s when you realize that you really cannot live life on your own and that you NEED God.

Sometimes we go through trials to help other people, our stories after a trial can be so encouraging and so motivational that it can help someone in as similar situation. After being in a similar situation yourself, you are in a position to give real advice that you know can benefit that other person’s life. Just the fact that you made it through the situation can give another person so much encouragement, it shows them that they can get through their situation as well.

So I am facing trials right now, and it is so hard, what do I do, how can I carry on, it feels like God isn’t listening. 

Oh trust me sweetheart, God is listening and I know it is hard but just know that God is going to bless you double of what you are even asking for right now or he is going to give you even better than you ask for. It isn’t that he is not listening, he is just waiting for the perfect time. Say you wanted to defrost something in the freezer, you don’t place it in the microwave for one minute and expect it to be defrosted, neither do you put a seed in soil, water it and expect it to have grown fully overnight. No, you have to leave whatever it is you are defrosting in the microwave for a certain amount of time in order for it to completely defrost, just like you have to give the plant time to grow. You cannot expect yourself to gain all the experience and growth and maturity that you need to gain all of a sudden, you have to face the trials as they come and know that the second it is time for it to be over, God will take all the pain and stress away and leave you with joy, laughter, blessings and happiness.

How do you carry on? 

  • 2 Thessalonians 2:15 says “So, friends, take a firm stand, feet on the ground and head high. Keep a tight grip on what you were taught” and that’s just what you do.
  • Continue to exercise your faith (“exercise daily in God- no spiritual flabbiness, please! Workouts in the gymnasium are useful but a disciplined life in God is far more so, making you fit today and forever” 1 Timothy 4: 6-9 The Message version)
  • Whenever you are afraid remember that Isaiah 41:10 says “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
  • Have somebody, another christian, maybe older, act as someone who can encourage you. For me that is my mom, whenever I am facing something, I know I can go to my mom for encouragement
  • Pray, pray because your life depends on it. Talk to Jesus, he understands. He grew up as a man like us, he understands all our emotions (except for sin) so whenever you are feeling sad, or disappointed or let-down or just anything at all, know that you can talk to Jesus because he has been there like you, he has felt it like you and he completely understands.
  • Continue to hound him for whatever it is you’re praying for (make sure he does not rest from hearing it *laughing emoji*)
  • Listen to encouraging gospel songs, I recommend Sovereign God by Maurette Brown Clark and He’s Able by MusiqCityWalls.
  • You can also contact me, my links are on the right hand corner.

Just know that whatever you are facing, God would not put you through it if he did not believe that you can face it. Ask him for strength, lean on him, he is your God, your father, your best friend, your creator, and he loves you with all his heart, he is doing this all for your betterment and you can do it, you can get through this storm.

So keep on going, you’re almost there.

** (disclaimer, I did not know these verses by memory, I just remembered reading it in the bible so I googled it to know exactly what it said and most of them I have screenshotted on my phone, although I should know how to quote the bible by memory)

(All the bible verses are in NIV, the New Internation Version, except one which is in the Message version, I have indicated above)

Have a blessed week,

lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

killjoy

Hey boos,

for this post, I decided to post this continuation of “Killjoy”, I hope you enjoy.

 

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Ejura yawned and scrolled down Instagram idly. She was on summer break and had nothing to do, her father had come back to visit 3 days ago and her brother was due to arrive at London any minute now, her parents had just gone to the airport to pick him up. Her parents had said when they got back they had something important to speak about. Ejura wasn’t too bothered, it was probably about her report card, she hadn’t done too well in a few subjects, C’s scattered round here and there but she already knew how to handle her parents with a formula her brother had taught her.

“Yes I’m sorry I did badly in …… I think it was because of my ………, I think if I do …………………… and …………………. And got a tutor in …………………………… I will get better grades” then after a couple of weeks complain that the tutor is teaching something a different method than your actual teacher at school is teaching you or your tutor told you this but your teacher told you that if you did it that way during the final exams you won’t get any points on it, after a couple of weeks your parents are bound to give up on the tutor. Several minutes, Poe began barking and Ejura knew someone was at the door, seconds  later the doorbell rang

“Right as always Poe” she said and opened the door

“Ugbede!” she said and opened her arms to hug him, she’d never admit it but she secretly enjoyed it whenever he came to visit, the house would be less quiet and finally there’d be someone else available to take Poe on his walks.

“Jurior” Ejura cringed, he’d been calling her that since she was an enfant, when he was seven he thought he was smart and put together Jur, her nickname and Junior together and it’s never left him. Not to mention, he was only 6 years older than her.

“shut up, where’s mommy and daddy”

“they’re coming” he wheeled in his bag and took it into his room, her dad and her mother followed after

“welcome back” she said to her parents

“ah, Ejura,  A  egbó?” her father responded in her native language

“Lafia” Ejura couldn’t speak her native language, she could understand it and she knew the basic greetings but she could not speak it, something she would grow to regret.

“Go and call your brother, we have something to discuss with the both of you” her mother said

“Now? We just got back home, Ugbede hasn’t even sat down”

“Sooner than later, they need to know, I’m tired, he can sit down afterwards” her mother responded

“Okay, go and call your brother Ejura” Ejura walked to her brother’s room, she was very confused, why were they involving her brother, wasn’t it just her grades?

“Ugbede” she called for him as she entered into his room. He looked at her annoyed

“Can’t you knock?” Ejura ignored him and looked over his shoulder, he was facetiming someone, a girl.

“Who is that? Who are you talking to? Is that a girl?” she walked in closer to get a better look, completely forgetting what her mother had called her to do.

“It’s none of your business” her brother said, defensively, blocking her.

“Oh defensive, defensive” she responded, she could hear a little laugh coming from his phone.

“Is that your girlfriend?” she asked

“Maybe, shut up, don’t tell mom and dad, I’ll tell them myself”  he replied lowering his voice so the girl wouldn’t hear. Ejura suddenly remembered why she was there.

“Mom and dad are calling you; they say they have something to tell us”

“Okay go then, let me finish this call, and close the door after you” Ejura shrugged and left his room, closing the door after her but she did not leave, she stuck her ear through the keyhole and listened.

“Sorry, yeah that was Jurior, I mean Ejura, yeah okay I have to go, my parents need me, yeah, okay, yeah, love you” Ejura’s eyes widened, her brother just told a girl he loved her. Flashbacks of him in high school crossed her mind, girls coming to meet her to ask if her brother had spoken about them, if they knew who he liked, if they could get his number from her. He had made her quite popular at their school. She never thought she would see the day where she heard him say the words “I love you” to a girl. Strange things truly were happening.

She walked to the living room where her parents had already made themselves comfortable. Her dad sat on the massage chair at the end of the room whilst her mother sat on the sofa next to him. Ejura took the chair opposite them; Poe came and sat at her feet whilst Ugbede took the seat next to her.

Her dad cleared his throat, Ugbede and Ejura looked at each other. They both knew that their father clearing his throat before speaking was a bad omen. The last time he cleared his throat was when he was announcing the death of their grandfather, Ugbede’s best friend at the time.  Ejura became uncomfortable in her cushioned chair.

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Have a blessed day,

Gedo xx

The art of hitting up

Hey boos,

How has your week been so far? mine has been pretty good, my day has been pretty relaxed. Today on the blog though, we are going to be discussing the art of hitting up or in this case, the art of keeping in touch. So I was watching a video earlier this morning and the lady in it, was talking about how people are slowly withdrawing into themselves and about how it’s important to keep in touch. I sat back and I was like wow, that’s true tumblr_nia4uhhifc1qzxbu6o1_500

If you know me, you will know that I am the worst at keeping in touch, it’s almost like once I am no longer physically in contact with you, there is no need to keep talking which is completely wrong because once a friend, always a friend.

I also feel like the whole “if they wanted to talk to me, they could hit me up” attitude is also a contributing factor. A lot of us are either proud (why do I need to be the first person to speak, why can’t they speak first) or insecure (what if I am bothering them, I am so annoying) or busy (I can’t right now, I have to do this). However I see all of these as just ways to procrastinate. Okay so you’re busy right now but when you’re taking your 5 minute break scrolling through instagram, reading all the messages on instagram, you weren’t busy then. You can’t tell me you can’t tak atleast 10 minutes out of your life, to speak to an old friend. As for the “why can’t they speak first” excuse, most of the time, it’s not even that deep. The person might just not be thinking about you and there is absolutely nothing wrong or insulting about that. Just because for example, I am not thinking about you does not mean that A. I do not care about you or what you have to say, B. I do not want to talk you, C. I will not make time for you (Just because I might be busy now does not mean I will be busy for the rest of my life.)

Keeping in touch is so important because you genuinely never know how long you have with a person, you never know what a person is going through, you never know how far a simple “what’s up?” could go. Catching up with people is also so fun, memories just come back and it’s healthy to relive moments once in a while. Who knows, you could be the person that God is sending to that other person as perhaps a comforter or an adviser but you can’t do your job if your pride keeps getting in the way.

So let’s try and make 2017 a year of keeping in touch, just a simple “hey” and smiley face could go a long way. This is a plea for people like me, You have to remember that it’s not just about making new friends, but keeping the old ones as well.

Have a blessed week,

lots of love,

Gedo xx

4 times when you’ve wanted to leave the groupchat

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I have missed you guys so much, I have missed blogging so much. I love you all so much, Gedo is never going to leave you for this long anymore. But wow, you’ve all grown so much hotter than I last remember, look at you stuntin’, looking beautiful, okay boo, you do THAT.

I’m so excited to be back, okay Gedo, composure. 

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What do you even say after you have been away for 2 months? Happy new year? Merry Christmas? Happy birthday?

So lemme give a little update about my two months before we get to this juicy post. My birthday was on the 14th of December and I am now 18 years old (although I wont lie I still feel exactly the same as I did when I turned 14 so), I spent Christmas with my best friend in the entire world (Ehi) and then I spent new years bonding with my extended family, it was all very lit.

Enough about me, let’s talk about today’s topic, groupchats. I tried to search up the statistics for how many people in the world are in groupchats but instead all I saw were questions about the limit of how many people you can have a groupchat, (did you know you can have up to 256 members in a groupchat on whatsapp? Thats like 3/4 of my facebook friends.)

Anyway groupchats, so here are 4 struggles you will probably face if you are in a groupchat.

  1. When the groupchat is lit the night you decide to go to bed early 
    tumblr_inline_ngjmaqczlc1rlpk9c                                                 why do these things happen to me?                                                                One of the heartbreaking things in this day and age is waking up and checking your messages only to find that a once dry groupchat became lit overnight and not just any kind of lit, but that kind of lit where you would be real life laughing if you were there. That kind of lit were even the quiet ones that usually just read, actually speak. That kind of lit were the groupchat really becomes one and all you can do is think about all the memes you have been saving in your special folder that you could have sent or all the greatest one liners you could have delivered. It just ain’t fair. 
  2. When everyone consistently ignore your messagesgiphyIt’s bad enough when one person airs your message but when 10-20 people are doing it and consistently, you really start thinking about your importance. If they hated me this much, why even add me to this groupchat? It’s even worse if it was a question or a meme, how can you ignore a meme?
  3. When nobody acknowledges your witty remark
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Do you ever think about something so witty or funny that you even start laughing only for you to say on the groupchat only for nobody to acknowledge it, not even a “ha” not even a “lol” not even one simple smiley emoji. Feeling so unappreciated..

4. Trying to catch up whilst a conversation is still happening 

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This needs to be listed as one of the 7 stresses of the world. Just when you think you’ve reached the very top, you’re brought right down to the bottom again because they’re still going, you cant read fast enough because they’re still going and you cant decide not to catch up because you wont understand. stttttrrrreeesssssss

I hope you enjoyed and related to this post because I can relate with this on a very deep level,

Have a blessed week,

Gedo xx