“What is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?” Psalm 8:4
How are you? I’ve literally been working on this blog post for a while now, trying to get it right but I’m going to let God take reign and let him tell me what he wants me to write.
Basically, I wanted to speak about God’s love because I feel like sometimes we forget, sometimes we get so wrapped up in the mediocrities of life that we forget about the wider picture, the blessings, God even.
I was at church a couple weeks back for a programme called peniel, it’s held every year during the summer and this year was my first time attending. One of the preachers in the programme said something along the lines of, God sits of the throne with millions of angels who praise him perfectly, exactly as they should yet when one person, one person who’s voice cannot even match the quality of your favourite singers much less the angels, God tells them to stop so he can listen to that one person. Can you imagine a love like that? telling a great room of the best singing you have ever heard in your life to stop singing so you can hear one human voice?
Who am I that God should love me? the creator of things that I cannot even begin to understand, who created the dots on strawberries and causes dew to fall on the grass in the early morning, who am I that he should love me?
“Greater love has no one than this; to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” John 15:13
It’s hard to understand this because as humans we’re a bit selfish, although we boast about loyalty and “ride or dies” when it comes to it, there would only be a small population of people who would actually die for their friends. Do you know who did? and who would again a 100 million times if he had to? Jesus Christ. Did you know that the night before Jesus died on the cross, his heart was heavy? Do you want to know why? Because he was dreading it. Matthew 26:39 says “Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will but you will” then he goes on to pray “My father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done.” (Matthew 26:42)
Basically he’s saying, “God I dont really want to go through it but if it’s your will for me, if this is what I have to do then I’ll do it”. Have you ever seen such an amazing display of self sacrifice? to first be betrayed by someone you love and called your own and sold for money, then publicly taken away only to have the very person promising he would never deny you, deny you three times, to then have the public choose to free a criminal over you, to carry your cross AND then be nailed to it and be left there for three days whilst the guards make fun of you?
Jesus did all that, for you.
And your parents and your siblings and your friends and your grandparents.
He did it so we could all get a chance to God’s real real children, to be tight with God, to be Gods’ daughters and sons, to be brothers and sisters with Jesus.
He did it, so you could be family.
So do you understand now why the price if you don’t believe in God is so high? someone had to die a despicable death for it.
“The Lord watches over you- the Lord is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night.” Psalm 121: 5-6
Soften your hearts and hear me, look at this, the sun will not harm you by day nor the moon by night, look at this love. Do you know what that means? it means that even at your most vulnerable stage, when you are not conscious and when you cannot do anything for yourself, God is protecting you, he is there, his angels are there, they are guarding you and keeping you safe. (Man I’ve teared up so many times with this post)
“The Lord will keep you from ALL harm- he will watch over your life; the Lord with watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.” Psalm 121: 7-8
Not some, not a few, but ALL, meaning every single harm, and not just today and tomorrow but for ALL of your life. Is that not love? Is that not real love?
“When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. Have no fear of sudden disaster or of the ruin that overtakes the wicked, for the lord will be at your side and will keep your foot from being snared” -Proverbs 3: 26
Do you know what he is saying here? he says do not be anxious, he says do not be afraid, I know there are a lot of people who get anxious at night, anxious for life, anxious that they might die in their sleep, anxious that something bad will happen and here God is, God is “saying hey, hey listen, don’t worry about that, don’t be anxious about that, I got your back, just sleep, I got you”. Is that not real love?
What do you know about the God that leaves 99 sheep for the one that was left behind? What do you know about the God that says bring ALL of your burdens to me and take my own because mine is lighter? (I’m crying now) What do you know about the God that says I will carry you on my back and have my wings protect you? What do you know about the God that says “look I know you, I know you inside out, I know your weak points, I know the things you’ve done, I know you’ve said and done some things that hurt me and hurt yourself and the people around you, and even though the people might not have forgiven you, even though you may not have forgiven yourself, I forgive you.
I. Forgive. You.
I forgive you and I still love you.
To me, you are perfect, to me you are whole and you are clean and you are worth it and I love you.”
What do you know about that God? About my God? about Your God?
What do you know about the God that genuinely wants the best for you? That even in times of trial, he holds your hand, he tries to help it be as smooth as possible for you?
What do you know (I am quite literally bawling my eyes out, I’m gonna insert a picture to prove it) about the God that feels your pain? That feels your heaviness? The God that sees you crying in your pillow at 3 AM because your heart hurts and feels that pain?
(crying me x, in this house we love God and cry when we write about him, Alexa play reckless love by Cory Asbury)
I don’t know what people have tried to tell you, I don’t know what you’ve heard or what you’ve read but if you take one thing away from this, I want it to be this;
In all that noise, in all that white noise, people talking, shouting, hustle and bustle, traffic, hardships, heartbreaks, God is there. God is there and he loves you. God sees you and he sees your pain and he pats your back and he says,
“My child, the storm is coming to an end, I’m here, I’m right here. I love you and I’m right here.”
Thank you God.
I could probably write on forever but I need to keep this a readable length.
(It was cloudy and immediately I ended this blog post, the dark clouds went away and the Sun shone, like immediately, if that’s not a sign of someone’s breakthrough, of someone’s rainy days coming to an end then I dont know what is)
Have a blessed day,
Lots of love,
Yes I’m back to the “hey boos” that is something I can NEVER get rid of, that’s my thing now. How has your day been going? Mine has been going pretty well, I got up really early today, 6 AM to be exact and I haven’t taken a nap yet even though I’m really tired.
Anyway enough about me (funny cause all I’m going to do for the rest of this blog is talk about…well..me..) I’ve decided to do something quite scary but at the same time really exciting this summer, I’m going to churn out content every day for a month this summer, well churn out content every day for the whole summer but I’m telling myself a month because that’s easier for my brain to comprehend. I really hope I do this and don’t just give up after 3 days, so make sure you come back to this place everyday for content!
Today I’m going to be discussing something that I’ve really been noticing about myself this year and that’s the feeling of change, I can feel myself slowly changing and I can’t lie it’s a bit of an uncomfortable feeling because it’s not something that can be easily explained. I can feel myself changing, I can feel my thoughts little by little, I am very very slowly becoming the type of person I want to be.
I can feel my thoughts changing extremely slowly from wanting popularity and wanting every single person to love me and want to be my friend to wanting success in my future, to wanting my children to have the best in life. I realize that the things that used to make me very upset, still make me upset but just not as much as it usually would. Let me give you an example, in my psychology class I can confidently say I have NO friends, I come into class, I sit alone, I take my notes, close my laptop and leave and younger me would have hated it, younger me would have tried to force people to make friends with but now I actually prefer not knowing anyone, I love walking into class without feeling the pressure of “oh I don’t really feel like talking to anyone today but I don’t want to be rude..” When I first got into University, the fact that I didn’t have any friends in my psychology class really bothered me but now I just do not care. I also don’t really mind that much when people don’t invite me to things, I mean it still stings a little but I don’t dwell on it like I would have when I was younger.
I find myself being attracted to and being drawn to people that are successful and are dedicated in helping other people succeed, I just keep finding myself attracting stuff like that even when I try to avoid it because 1. Self-help books bore me and 2. Watching people who are more successful than me makes me feel like I’m not, yet it just seems to attract me whether through a video format or an Instagram ad or just something.
I feel like there is something great stirring inside but I’m not sure what it is or how to wake it up properly.
I’ve been thinking a lot about my accomplishments and how I don’t really have that much (heheh) but that is going to change soon, and how I want to make my parents proud and make all the sacrifices they’ve made worth it, I want them to be able to say with full confidence that it was all worth it in the end.
I also find myself becoming more aware when it comes to achieving goals, I’m no longer just writing out resolutions for the new year and never looking at them again, I’m actually trying this time, researching, failing but getting back up again and not giving up. An example of this would be that I’ve always wanted to be someone who was organized and woke up early in the morning and had money and ate well and had a good relationship with God, day by day I’m getting more aware about what I eat, I’m trying to read more books about God, I’m setting alarms and looking at my goals and just actually trying this time.
I suppose it’s all just to do with maturing and growing, I just never knew that you could be aware of the maturing process.
But that’s just my opinion.
Let me know if you feel like this, if you’re at this point where you can feel yourself growing and what does it feel like to you?
Have a blessed day,
Lots of love,
Honestly, this one is for my ladies and gentlemen out there who are their own motivators because I don’t think they get enough credit.
I’m talking about my ladies and gents who even when they are constantly being shot at, they continue to march.
For my people who don’t get the recognition they deserve, who don’t get appreciated but still have the heart to appreciate.
For those people who don’t get noticed but are brave every day.
For those ones who are afraid but don’t let fear cripple them.
The ones that get out of bed everyday and even though they carry the weight of the world on their shoulder, they smile because it’ll be one less thing for someone else to worry about.
The ones that have been stabbed in the heart many times, been disappointed many more but still have the courage to love.
For those who have been bruised, broken and beaten but every time they get up, dust themselves up and keep going.
The ones that are proud of their battle scars.
For my girls and guys who don’t walk into the room expecting heads to turn, because they understand that sweetest fruits are tougher to see, and hardest to reach.
For those who make no apologies about who they are. Who have started a storm inside of them. Who look at their skin and smile because it reminds them that they are alive, and to be alive is assurance enough.
For those ones who have dined with pain, who have dealt with disaster, who have danced with the fire and dribbled with terror but still laugh.
The ones that have accepted themselves for the complicated, awkward, graceless, strange, beautiful mess that they are.
There is beauty in your strength.
There is grace in your fight.
For that, you are glorious.
I feel like I should stop doing the “Hey boos” thing but I have been doing it for so long now that I don’t really want to, it’s kinda like our thing.
Anyway today I wanted to talk about self-opinion (this isn’t a word is it?), it’s something every person with a blog talks about at some point in their blog life but it’s an important topic that people need to know. People have a low opinion of self these days I feel like, they look at what other people have or what other people have done and immediately see themselves as inferior. Especially since we’re at the age where literally anybody at any age can do and be anything. Of course, it’s great that an 8-year-old, a 12-year-old, a 90-year-old can be successful and run businesses and do great things with their life. However, there’s a dark side to that because it means everyone else who has not accomplished these things at that age or even in their lifetime have a low opinion of themselves and with social media, it is so easy to see the successes of other people and compare yourself.
One can argue that hard work is the answer which is true in a way but how do you know where to exert that hard work because everyone is trying to be successful. Everyone is trying to work hard, everyone is trying to do what they think will help them increase their opinion of themselves whether it be right (achieving goals) or wrong (chugging pints of beer). It’s a difficult conversation to have and it’s hard to give advice about it because I feel like it’s something we all struggle with and have different ways of dealing with. For me, it happens sporadically, one moment I’m alright and the next I am feeling extremely unaccomplished. These days, I wonder what my purpose is, what am I really here for? Where should I be putting my energy? As you all know, I am a Christian and I know God has a purpose for me but what is it? what am I doing here? Sometimes I wonder why I’m the way I am, why I’m so strange and not being able to do ANYTHING normally but sometimes I fear I’m too normal with nothing to set me apart.
I think acceptance is important when it comes self-opinion (I’m highly doubting this word) It’s important to accept yourself the way you are, no you’re not an extrovert and that’s alright, you aren’t good at singing and that’s fine, you’re not charming and extremely awkward and you know what, that’s absolutely okay.
See, because once you learn to accept the way you are, you can look at the things you don’t have and rationalize. You say okay I don’t have this and that’s okay and if it’s something you need or really want, you can make further steps to getting it instead of throwing yourself into panic or rage.
Acceptance isn’t the easy way out, acceptance doesn’t have to mean not pushing yourself or setting goals or trying to be a better you. It can be whatever and however you want it to be. I think it’s really important that as people we never lose sight of how good we really are, that’s why self-deprecating jokes are kind of the worst because you do start believing them at some point. They are so bad for self-opinion (okay this is definitely not a word).
Get healthy yea? Then let yourself be better.
Have a blessed week,
Lots of love,
I hope your Monday is going better than you expected and if it’s not, I hope this blog post cheers you up!
Here are 4 struggles of a shopaholic and of-course, I can’t relate
- Lists don’t work.
So regular people usually have an idea of what they are going to get before going into a store or they make a list of things that they need before they go in, this doesn’t work for a shopaholic. A shopaholic might make a list but as soon as they get into the store, everything they had intended to buy will seem unimportant and they will walk out with goods completely different from what they had planned initially.
I can always buy a white shirt later, this is on sale and I have been wanting it since forever.
I can’t just leave it here, it was made for me!
2. Window shopping doesn’t work either.
A shopaholic knows that window shopping doesn’t work so if they want to save money, they just don’t go out (literally ME). Window shopping just doesn’t happen, it’s like torture. A shopaholic can only window shop if they’re going somewhere where they absolutely cannot afford and even that would probably be one of the hardest and most painful feeling. If a shopaholic goes out to just look around not planning on getting anything, they will most likely get something.
Woah, this is so cute.
I’ve been looking at this for forever!
I don’t know if I’ll see it again..
It’s on sale though….
3. “Who took my money?”
A shopaholic NEVER knows where their money has gone. I’m not a shopaholic
However I do find myself often wondering if there’s a little gnome that comes into my room every night to take my money only to realize that that gnome has taken the form of a new top I definitely didn’t need and food that I don’t even remember buying.
4. You can never find anything.
I know I put it here or..maybe I didn’t..
“Have you seen my dark purple shirt? with the big sleeves?”
I could have sworn it was here yesterday.
You can never find anything because you have too much stuff and when you ask someone if they’ve seen what you’re looking for they never miss the opportunity to remind you that you have way too much stuff.
But at the end of the day, it’s not your fault you like good things.
I hope you enjoyed this blog post, make sure to tap that follow button on the right to know where I am going and if you really want to come, make sure you to follow me on my social media as well!
Have a blessed day,
Lots of love,
Disclaimer: I am not condoning aimless spending of money. Budgeting and money management are very important skills. Learn them.
Okay I know, I know, I may or may not have been M.I.A but I have a reason okay? It’s a pretty good reason.
I am back in the UK and I have started University! (We thank God) I am so glad I am back, even though I was away for only a year I’ve missed everything and I feel so blessed to be back.
Now without further ado, here are 10 things I learn’t whilst I was in Nigeria.
- You can trade in newspapers for suya (however don’t expect much though!)
2. How to be alone.
3. How to say “no”
4. Life goes on.
5. Kids are cute.
6. I’m not ready for a real relationship.
7. Everything has an end.
8. God has a sense of humor.
9. God answers prayers.
10. There’s a wedding going on every Saturday.
(Image from here)
So those are 10 things I learn’t whilst I was in Nigeria, would I do it again? On my own terms, yeah, probably but in the far, far, far, far future and again completely on my own terms. Was it necessary for my growth and who I will end up being? Yes, definitely.
I am very excited for the new content I will be able create now that I am back and very very excited about life! I have great Uni-related blog posts in the works and so much stuff that I want to do so definitely watch this space.
Lots of love,
Have a blessed day,
How are you guys doing? How’s your week and your weekend? I didn’t post on Wednesday and Friday because I just didn’t know what to post (good blogger) but I’ve got some ideas for this week so it’s lit, let’s go!
Today following my #humourMonday trend, I’m going to do the 5 stages of your fitness journey. I am not sure if I am the only that goes through this cycle but I figured I’d write a blog post about it so now you know what I go through when I decide to be “healthy”.
Stage 1: The Motivation.
So this stage is usually a day of two before you’re meant to start. You usually get motivated probably by seeing someone look really good on Instagram and you get really into it, you look up exercises to do and then you even try to set up a time to work out. You watch a ton of videos about people who have lost weight in months and their story including what they did and tips they have.
I’m so hyped to start and I tell myself “I can do it!” I even set myself a time limit so that it’s more doable, so I’ll be like “Yeah! I am going to do this for one month!”
Stage 2: The Uncertainty.
This is usually a couple of minutes before your workout, this occurs before you put your gym gear on. You’re in a little bit of doubt Do I really want to do this? Can I really do this? Do I have to do this?
Usually though, you get past it because you’re so motivated from the day before.
Me: Do I wanna do this? really though?
Also me: You better.
Stage 3: The Realization.
This one occurs whilst you’re doing the workout you’ve decided for yourself and you realize you’re not as good at working out and being healthy as you thought. You can’t do half the exercises right and the other half, you have to take a break in between doing them. It’s definitely a very eye-opening time.
The pain you feel after the workout too is another eye opener, like people really subject themselves to this?
Stage 4: Procrastination
This happens after some time, maybe a week or some weeks or even just a couple of days. The after-workout pain isn’t as bad anymore and you figure you deserve a break, or something happens and you don’t end up doing the workout for the day. You tell yourself you’ll do it tomorrow, which is often the deadly mistake.
The “tomorrow” comes and you manage to convince yourself that you’re just happy with the way you look and then another tomorrow goes by and another and another, before you know it you’ve stopped the exercises you were doing.
Workout? Who is she? I don’t know her.
This is usually where it stops for some (people like me) but then we have the determined ones amongst us who carry on to stage 5.
Stage 5: Success
This is the very last stage when you finally reach the goal you set for yourself and it’s now completely up to you what you want to do next. By this time, you’ve already accustomed yourself to this strange world that is fitness and officially become someone else’s motivation (#goals)
So those are the 5 stages you’ll experience on your fitness journey!
Let me know if it’s something you relate to and comment if I’ve left out any other stages. Make sure you leave a like to let me know if you enjoyed it and don’t forget to click that follow button on the right to be updated whenever I post.
Have a blessed day,
Lots of love,
What’s up? How is your week going?
Mine has been pretty good, we thank God. The month is almost ending, like omg where is this year going? There is literally 5 more days till the month of July goes, and then we’ll be in August and then September and then I’ll be 19 and then we’ll be in 2018? Wow, I’m excited though, 2017 let’s go!
Anyway, I want to talk about something that I realized and since then I seem to see it everywhere and that’s this lowkey hatred for everything that the internet is hyping. Everything that we think is great, in reality kinda sucks. Let me show you.
Let’s take being petty for example, according to the internet; Petty is this “trendy” term and anyone who is being petty is immediately funny or cool or even goals. Girls, especially will be the first to call themselves petty, you’ll find “petty queens” and etc.
Shows of pettiness go viral instantly. When people are being “petty”, they are congratulated like as if they are doing something good but according to dictionary.com petty is defined as “mean and ungenerous in small or trifling issues”, Urban dictionary’s definition of petty isn’t nice either; it’s defined as “making things, events, or actions normal people dismiss as trivial or insignificant into excuses to be upset, uncooperative, childish, or stubborn”. Imagine? All this time that your friends have been calling you petty queen they’ve been insulting you.
I’m not trying to ruin anyone’s fun or anything (Lol I don’t care) but what happened to forgiveness? Why are people so afraid to forgive now? People are so afraid of being humans now because they feel like as if doing anything kind or nice or normal will be regarded as soft or look as though they are being walked over. Everyone wants to be “strong” but it’s like they’ve forgotten what being strong actually means.
Now everyone is seeking revenge, have we forgotten that it’s not our place to punish? Don’t you know that it takes a great person, a strong person to forgive?
Let’s take another term, Finesse, this is definitely girls’ favorite one.
According to the internet, Finessing is what strong, sexy, smart, clever people do to get what they want. Sounds cool doesn’t it? Now let’s see what google dictionary (idk that dictionary that comes up when you google a definition) has to say about it, Finesse is “great subtlety and tact in handling or manipulating people or difficult situations”. Whilst Urban dictionary defines it as “persuading someone out of their belongings, or to do you a favor”. Sis, I’m sorry but if you’re a finesser then you’re just a glorified thief and dream seller. I don’t completely have an issue with finessing, like for example convincing your parents to get you pizza (without any corruption), I am completely for that but my problem with finesse is why it’s become viral; which is because people literally steal and are then proud of themselves. People who go on dates with people they have 0 interest in and want nothing to do with just to get a free meal (You will now be shouting MenareScum) or keeping a person around because you know they’ll splash money on you? (You will now be saying Women are the downfall of man).
Please wake up, don’t celebrate that kind of finessing.
the #MenareScum (okay I’m raising my hands up, I say this sometimes but as a joke I’m going to try and stop, I’m sorry) I’m just so over that hashtag, men are not scum bruh. Sorry but I literally need to ask, is your father scum? I didn’t think so.
I agree, there are some really, really, really, really whack minded men out there but that doesn’t mean we should categorize all men as scum. Let’s not be blinded, the hashtag just gives us a blanket where we can all just lie under and hate guys. I know a lot of people say, no that’s not true, we’re just talking about the ones that actually but let’s think about it for a second.
You’re scrolling on twitter or Instagram, maybe even Facebook, you’ll see something about MenareScum once, or someone will say it, maybe you even start saying you continue to see and say such everyday or almost everyday. It’s all fun and games till you repeat it so many times that you actually start believing it and one day wake up and realize you have an in depth hate for men and you don’t know how it started, then you’re in my office talking to me about how your relationships just aren’t working out for you and you don’t trust men and you think you might be lesbian which just isn’t the case.
See how easy it is to be misled?
Not all men are scum okay? I’m tired.
Another example of this repetition situation is the idea that women are the downfall of man, how many times have you watched a movie were the woman is the distraction or used as a distraction? Ever since Eve handed Adam that apple at the beginning, we just haven’t heard the end of it, giving men an excuse not to have real and good relationships. Do you know how many girls are out there in the “talking” stage because the guy believes she will be a distraction?
Do you want your children to grow up hating men?
Another one, is the whole “Me and my 8 boyfriends” thing that just seems to be annoyingly everywhere (again, may or may not have joked about this sometimes, but that was before I deeped all of this okay? I’ve stopped, I am a changed woman). So cheating is the new rave isn’t it? And guys, what’s this cheating thing that my ear just can’t stop hearing? It’s like all I’m hearing is how someone cheated on another person.
What is so funny about not being able to commit? Why are we condoning such behavior?
Why have we started treating things that are wrong as trivial matters? Have we just all lost our moral compasses?
So basically what does this all come down to?
Can we kill the year of the savage and change it into something that is actually cool? Like the year of self betterment?
Okay, well I hope you all have a great day/night and do something nice for someone. Let’s not be shouting spread love but be sharing things that undertone hate mmkay?
Have a blessed day,
Lots of love,
I hope your week has been going really well, tomorrow is Friday, thank God it’s Friday!
Yesterday, my cousin and I did something that I have been needing to do for a while now, we had a mini photoshoot and in the pictures, I wore one of my absolute favourite dresses.
Funny thing is I haven’t actually worn the dress anywhere, I have been waiting for the perfect event to showcase the dress.
The dress is a perfect contrast (is that even correct?) I say this because the way the dress flows, as well as the cream colour and the bell sleeves give the girliness but then the black lace detailing brings the attitude. I think if I was a dress, I might be this one.
The combination of edge-y and girly together is kind of a reminder that you don’t have to stick to a stereotype, you don’t have to stick to a “type”, you can mix and match, you can change, difference is good.
I hope you enjoyed this, and this beautiful dress.
Lots of love,