Why the CU keep offering you free toasties. -An Atheists’ guide to Christian friends.

Hey boos,

This blog post is for my non-christian friends all over the globe who have christian friends and don’t understand what’s going on with them half the time, don’t worry I’ve got you.

So you’ve got one of these pesky Christians haven’t you? Always sharing something Jesus related on your feed amongst your memes, constantly inviting you for free food with subtle connotations of God chat, and let’s not even get started on the controversial beliefs that you both know they have but both pretend aren’t there. Also, what’s with this glow that they always have? Even. When. They. Are. Sad. Now that the ball is rolling, how on earth do they believe we were created? Helloooo, Evolution.

My name is Gedo Yamusa, your friendly online Christian and I’m here to give you some inside scoops on the thoughts going on in the head of your in-house friendly neighbourhood Christian. 

First of all, just like the whole “one size fits all” trend came and died because we realised, quite quickly, that not one size actually fits all, there is no “one size fits all” for Christians eithe.We come in all different shapes and sizes, all with different personalities and even beliefs. Some of us are baby Christians, some of us have been Christians since we came out of the womb, some of us were Christians and then we weren’t and now we’re Christians, some of us (wait for it..) aren’t even Christians yet (You’ll get there, I see you, right there at the back, don’t be shy, Jesus is knocking, you best open that door). You’ll probably meet many different Christians and they might not have the same ideas as the one outlined in this post and that’s okay, feel free to ask them questions on things they do that you don’t understand, they’ll probably be more than happy to explain it to you!

So why do Christians keep talking about God all the time? Are they trying to shove it down people’s throats?

Well, here’s one thing you must understand about the Christian. Take away God out of the Christian, and the Christian is nothing.

God is their life.

That might sound scary to you because well, as far as you know, your life is your own and you can’t imagine something else being your life. However the Christian understands and accepts that God has blessed them with this life, it’s a gift, but it’s also a gift that they cannot control and a gift they can’t take care of themselves, for example when a parent gives a young child a puppy as a present, the child cant control that puppy and most of the time it’s the parent that ends up taking care of the puppy.

(Where was I going with this?)

Yes, why do Christians talk about God all the time. Frankly, because they understand that without God, they wouldn’t be where they were. They would be way worse off and they probably were before they accepted God into their life. If you had your life changed wouldn’t you be shouting it from the rooftops? Wouldn’t you want your friends in on it too? It’s free, it’s got a lifetime warranty with the added bonus of Heaven for eternity.

And now you’re thinking, yea but Gedo, all that stuff doesn’t exist. This God stuff, it’s not real. You guys have just made it up cause it sounds nice and easy.

Well that’s going into real deep territory bud, I think that’d be a great conversation to have with your Christian. My explanation might not make sense to you but I’ll give it a shot. I know that God is real for 2 main reasons.

a. I know how I was before and how I am now, none of that could have been me. There is no way, something absolutely external had to have come into my heart and changed me because I could not have done it.

b. I look at the everyday miracles around; I’m really drawn to nature, I look at the skies, the trees, the mountains and I just can’t accept that that wasn’t made by God.

I know these aren’t as “scientific” or “evidence-filled” as you would probably like but many really smart people have written really smart books about this and I know a bunch of Christians that have read these books and for themselves compared the evidence for God’s existence and for God’s not existing, and well, they’re Christians now aren’t they?

Lemme let you in a little secret as well; being a Christian is not easy and it doesn’t feel nice all the time. Actually it’s kinda difficult sometimes. The world essentially hates you, people always questioning you and your beliefs and making you the enemy, I mean men in the Bible (which is a genuine historical account) died for this and Christians are still dying for this.

It’s not easy.

Yet we have a God who gives us the things we need to help us with these issues.

And now you’re saying, but you just said being a Christian was good.

Yea well, easy doesn’t mean good now does it? neither does good mean easy.

So we keep talking away about God because he’s the best thing that has ever happened to us and we want you to get on that. We invite you to all these things not because we want to force you into the church. We genuinely want you to just come along and see what’s up, obviously we want you to experience God for yourself but we aren’t going to hate you if you don’t. We are honestly extremely excited if we get so much as a “That was actually fun”. We’re just as stressed about this whole thing as you are, do you know how much Godly boldness and courage it took us to ask you in the first place? Don’t let that confident smile fool you, We’ve been thinking about this for a while.

If your Christian friend invites you to church next time, please don’t freak out. 9/10 it’s not as solemn and silent as you remember it to be, no one is going to look at you weirdly because you aren’t singing, no one expects you to pray, no one is going to judge you for not knowing where the chapter everyone is flipping to is (I don’t even know that) If you don’t want to go, decline. They’ll probably keep asking so go when you feel comfortable enough to and if you do want to go and they haven’t asked you yet, just ask them, they’re probably just scared. Remember also, just like clothes and Christians, Churches aren’t one size fits all, different churches have different personalities so just because you went to a really boring one when you were little, doesn’t mean you’ll have that same experience again.

The God chat? Just go with it, they just want to know where you’re at. Be honest but don’t be rude or disrespectful and I’m sure they will endeavour to do the same. Feel free to agree to disagree but let’s not stoop to name calling okay?

Which leads me to the next thing; the controversial opinions. Welp, sorry pal but those are staying. The bible is the bible is the bible is the bible, as I like to say,(…in my head)These are all good chats that your christian would probably love to have with you but are too scared (As you can probably understand why). Listen to what they have to say, you’ll probably disagree. Is this a fun and easy conversation starter? No but it’s a good conversation and you’ll never understand if you don’t talk so let’s keep it civilised. Will you change their mind? probably not. Will they change yours? Let us know how it goes. 

This is all not to say that the Christian community condemns you. We can condemn no one.

I know some people have unfortunately led with hate rather than with love which have given the impressions that Christians hate, we do not. We might not support the decisions made but you will not be shunned or treated like an outsider. You’ll learn soon, if you stick around long enough that Christian and controversy sometimes are hand in hand.

Jesus said some controversial things too back in the day. 

Does your Christian make you feel judged? useless? do you feel like they are treating you with contempt? disgust? or just being plain horrid? I think that’s a point to raise with them. We are not perfect people and sometimes it might feel like we are being judgemental but we really really really don’t want to do that, we honestly just want to help. Bring it up with them, talk about it and whenever you feel like they’re doing that, let them know.

Now let’s talk about this glow, the Godly glow. You know the one I’m talking about. That light? How does your Christian just seem so calm and even when they’re freaking out, they still seem kinda calm? Even when you absolutely dig into them with the toughest religious question you could probably think of to trip them up, they still seem kinda unscathed? That’s some real in the flesh God Glow baby. God scrubs us up so good on the inside that it actually starts showing on the outside, it’s almost the opposite of what the world teaches, scrub up on the outside and you’ll feel good on the inside. Pretty cool stuff ya feel?

The creation stuff, honestly man, I don’t know. I do not know. And yeah, your Christian may not have the answers all the time to your questions, and if they’re honest, which they should be, they should be able to say that.

I don’t know. All I know is that God said he created the earth and honestly, Imma believe it.

And before you write me off for just “believing blindly”. Think about all the things you’ve believed for granted. Maybe the belief that God doesn’t exist? You say science, but has science actually shown that God doesn’t exist or do you just believe that it has? Have you got the proof? Evolution. Have you read about the experiments? Do you actually know what you think you know, or do you just believe it cause everyone else does? 

Right now that we’ve successfully thrown you into an existential crisis, I suppose we can now conclude?

I think what your big take-away from this should be is that your Christian loves you and the God that your Christian believes in, loves you the most. You think your parents love you? Dude, Jesus literally died for you. Like he literally died. He died so that you wouldn’t have to. He died so that wrongdoings could be forgiven and forgotten, so that guilt can be taken away and so that peace can be brought to you.

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.- John 14:27

We just want you to know that, so you can now actually start really living the best life you’ve been called to live.

Oh, there I am talking about God again.

Man, us Christians can’t stop, now can we?

Hm..but then again, How could we?

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

 

Gospel girltalk…or guy: Anxiety

Hey boos,

How are you? I’m supposed to be completing my business notes right now but instead, I’m by the window in the library writing this #iluvuni.

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Anyhow, I feel like I haven’t done a GGTG segment in a while but that’s because, just like you, I’m still on this walk with God and I still don’t really know what I’m doing (lol). Sometimes I feel like I know some stuff and sometimes, I feel like I know nothing and these days I’ve been feeling like I know nothing. I’m not perfect and neither is my relationship with God, which is what brings us into our topic for today.

I feel like a lot of people see Christians as beings that are incapable of feeling anything that is not synonymous with good (I wish it were true, I really do) but fortunately or unfortunately, that is not the case. They see Christians as these people that don’t face disappointment or confusion or even depression and anxiety, all we do is quote bible verses (please, I wish I could quote bible verses whenever I wanted toand attack and judge anyone else who is not Christian (false yet again, we’re actually nice people pls

If you’re reading this and going through something, I don’t  expect you to read this and be healed or feel better, I just want to assure you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can’t see it yet.

Anxiety according to Google dictionary is defined as a feeling of worry, nervousness or unease about something with an uncertain outcome, another definition is a nervous disorder marked by excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks. GAD, according to NHS, Generalised Anxiety Disorder is a common condition that is estimated to affect up to 5% of the UK population which doesn’t sound like a lot until you realize that GAD is only one type of anxiety disorder.

If anxiety or anything at all is physically stopping you from living your life, physically stopping you from performing tasks and LIVING please, please, please get help, it does not make you weak, it does not make you a bad christian, please get the help you need. 

What does the bible say about it? 

God loves us. Say it with me. 

One.

Two.

Three.

God. Loves. Me.

God loves us, and the last thing he wants to see us is in pain, the last thing he wants to see us do is suffer and go through rough times and be anxious and depressed, and honestly his heart breaks for us when he sees us sad, just like your heart breaks when you see your mother or father or siblings or someone really close to you depressed.

1 Peter 5: 6 says “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” and then in Matthew 11:28, it states “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest”. He understands that we all go through these rough times and he does not blame you for that, he genuinely just wants to take all the hurt away.

The problem is sometimes we’re so deep in our sorrow, like even when we try to push our head up against the water, the devil pushes our head right back into it again (which is why, when you first feel yourself going down that hole, you get out of it because the more you sink, the more you’re stuck)

In Matthew 6:26, the bible states “Look at the birds of the air, they do not sew or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” and it’s so encouraging because it reassures that everything is going to be alright eventually because if God takes care of the birds and the wild flowers, things that can be considered insignificant, he definitely has our back, I mean, this is the same God that sent his son, Jesus to die for you, he’s got this, this message is so important that it’s in the bible twice, there is an identical passage to this one in Luke 12: 24. In fact, Romans 8:38 to 39 even says “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels or demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our lord”. Not even your anxiety or your depression can separate you from God’s love, no matter what it tries to tell you, whether it be that he’s not listening, or that he doesn’t love you or that you’re not a good christian or that you’re not doing enough, he still loves you.

What do I do then?

  1. Go to church

I know it sounds like such a typical thing to say but I am serious. Going to church when you feel anxious is such a great thing, being in the house of God brings about some sort of comfort and there you can just lay all your worries and your sorrows and whatever it is that is weighing you down on the cross. My cousin once told me the story of a girl who got broken up with and used going to church as a way to cry without people judging her and it actually ended up helping her relationship with God. Now, I’m not saying you should go to church when you need a good cry but it is one of the first places you should go with a heavy heart because it is the Lord’s house. Where did Hannah go when she had a very heavy heart in the bible? She traveled to church and there she let down the troubles of her heart out so well that the priest there, who had probably seen so many people pray, thought she was drunk and what does the bible say at the end? “Then she went away and ate something and her face was no longer downcast” (1 Samuel 1:18). So go to church,get something to eat and let your face not be downcast. You might not get the answer you’re looking for but you will find comfort, and peace and people who you can confide in and can pray for you.

2. Get someone to pray for/with you.

Whenever I get sad, I find it a little bit difficult to pray and sometimes getting someone to pray for and with you can be so beneficial. Matthew 18: 19-20 says “Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am among them.” and James 5:14-15 says “is any amongst you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven”. It’s okay to ask for support, that’s what we are here for. If you don’t have someone to pray for or with you, feel free to message me anytime.

3. Listen to gospel.

Another typical thing to say but it does help. I recommend songs like “Live!” by Tye Tribbett, “Take me to the King” by Tamela Mann and Kirk Franklin and my favourite right now, “Road trip” by Kirk Franklin, that one always manages to put me in a good mood, also “Rescuer” by Rend Collective (issajam) but yes, I get it, sometimes you’re really just not up for it but putting on those gospel tunes really does help with the calm, comfort and peace.

When I get into times of need, I also try my best to watch preaching about God’s love for me, and faith and hope and just things that are really encouraging. Most importantly, pray, prayer is so important, even though it’s just a couple words, let God know, ask for help. He wants to help you just as much as you want to be helped. And if you feel like he’s not listening, he is, just not in the way that you think he is. Christianity can be difficult sometimes especially in times like this,  because you don’t get the direct answer or the direct feeling of being better, sometimes you have to wait. Ibuprofen and pain reliefs don’t work instantaneously, they take about 30 minutes before they start kicking in.

Listen to me darling, times like these are one of the times where it feels difficult to be a christian but these are also the times where you have to hold on to God the most, I promise you and I don’t promise a lot, but I promise you, hang on to God baby, you are going to make it.

It is going to be okay.

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Also here’s some more encouraging bible verses for ya..

Proverbs 3: 5-6

Philippians 4:6-7

John 14:27

Colossians 3:15

Psalms 55:22

Proverbs 12:25 (such a cute one this one)

1 Peters 5:6-8 (Important! do read)

Hebrews 13:5-6 (if material things are worrying you/people are scaring you)

Psalm 56:3 (A prayer to God)