Kind for kindness sake

“Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else” 1 Thessalonians 5:15

Hey boos,

How are you?

I haven’t been on this scene in such a long time, I apologise. I’m probably the worst blogger ever at this point but never fear, I’m genuinely going to try and upload more times a week because I have a lot of thoughts. Shall we try Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays? 

Today, I want to talk about kindness and why it is so important for us to make sure we show kindness to everyone, every single person.  The definition of kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. We live in a society today, and I say this all the time, where being mean is glorified. It’s worse in Western societies where we have individualistic values, so instead of pouring into the community, pouring into each other, we’d rather pour into ourselves which is good, but not all the time.

I really believe that kindness is often times the right choice, we can’t read each other minds or know what the other person is thinking and because of that, it’s so important to treat each and everyone with kindness and respect.

The things that I remember the most and love to remember the most are kind actions that people have done to me, like once I had to carry my suitcase up some flight of stairs and I remember being a little bit stressed because I had to carry it and this guy, randomly out of nowhere comes and he takes my suitcase and helps me carry it up the flight of stairs, (S/O to you dude, I hope you’re good). I remember when I was ill and my friend went and got paracetamol for me and another time when I was ill and one of my friends helped me get something from the supermarket.

When we put ourselves in the mind of kindness, we make small yet powerful impacts in the lives of others. I truly believe that the world smiles back at us when we are kind,  kind consistently and kind for kindness sake. Call me cheesy but I wholeheartedly believe in the phrase “when you smile at the world, the world smiles back”. When we are kind to other people, we become more positive, life is a little sweeter, we enjoy things a lot more.

Myself for example, I spent a long portion of my life believing that being mean was cool, that if I didn’t smile and if I pretended I was cold and unfeeling, people would respect me and want to get to know me but I wasn’t really content*, the relationships I had never really ran deep, I honestly just wasn’t having a good time. Then I got closer to God and my faith and saw how much God talked about love so I embraced that idea and honestly my life is a lot better, I feel a lot more positive, I’m genuinely excited about life and I genuinely love people (people still annoy me A LOT tho, dont get me wrong)

I’m not saying that there will be one big overnight change, you smile at one person and all of a sudden your anxiety goes away but I think if we take small steps to get outside of our heads, the moment we learn to do things for another person’s benefits; small things like open doors, smile more, be there for friends and family, be encouraging, be more appreciative, rather than thinking about what WE might gain from it, we are one step closer to finding contentedness in this fast paced, over-achieving world.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this tidbit, let me know what you think in the comments below!

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

*Now I’m not saying that everyone is like or should be like me, there are some people who are naturally reserved or really shy or are just not very good at being there for other people. Being kind can be different for everyone depending on who you are and what you’re like, for some people being kind can look like not making someone who looks extremely uncomfortable speaking, speak all the time. It can look like not asking someone to do something for you because you know that they are extremely busy, it can look like giving someone the change they need. Any way in which an action is not necessary and not beneficial to you but beneficial to someone else can be seen as kindness, I reckon.

** If you go to hug someone and they say “no, thank you. I’m not comfortable with hugs.” and you don’t hug them, that’s not kindness, that’s what you should do. If you see them later on and they are looking a bit down and a bit upset, you encouraging them and listening to them not because you want to go talk about them with your friends later or because it’ll make you seem like a good person but simply because they need it, that’s kindness.

ALEXA PLAY RECKLESS LOVE BY CORY ASBURY (I CRIED whilst writing this)

“What is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?” Psalm 8:4

hey boos,

How are you? I’ve literally been working on this blog post for a while now, trying to get it right but I’m going to let God take reign and let him tell me what he wants me to write.

Basically, I wanted to speak about God’s love because I feel like sometimes we forget, sometimes we get so wrapped up in the mediocrities of life that we forget about the wider picture, the blessings, God even.

I was at church a couple weeks back for a programme called peniel, it’s held every year during the summer and this year was my first time attending. One of the preachers in the programme said something along the lines of, God sits of the throne with millions of angels who praise him perfectly, exactly as they should yet when one person, one person who’s voice cannot even match the quality of your favourite singers much less the angels, God tells them to stop so he can listen to that one person. Can you imagine a love like that? telling a great room of the best singing you have ever heard in your life to stop singing so you can hear one human voice?

Who am I that God should love me? the creator of things that I cannot even begin to understand, who created the dots on strawberries and causes dew to fall on the grass in the early morning, who am I that he should love me?

“Greater love has no one than this; to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” John 15:13

It’s hard to understand this because as humans we’re a bit selfish, although we boast about loyalty and “ride or dies” when it comes to it, there would only be a small population of people who would actually die for their friends. Do you know who did? and who would again a 100 million times if he had to? Jesus Christ. Did you know that the night before Jesus died on the cross, his heart was heavy? Do you want to know why? Because he was dreading it. Matthew 26:39 says “Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will but you will” then he goes on to pray “My father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done.” (Matthew 26:42)

Basically he’s saying, “God I dont really want to go through it but if it’s your will for me, if this is what I have to do then I’ll do it”. Have you ever seen such an amazing display of self sacrifice? to first be betrayed by someone you love and called your own and sold for money, then publicly taken away only to have the very person promising he would never deny you, deny you three times, to then have the public choose to free a criminal over you, to carry your cross AND then be nailed to it and be left there for three days whilst the guards make fun of you?

Jesus did all that, for you.

For you.

And your parents and your siblings and your friends and your grandparents.

He did it so we could all get a chance to God’s real real children, to be tight with God, to be Gods’ daughters and sons, to be brothers and sisters with Jesus.

He did it, so you could be family.

So do you understand now why the price if you don’t believe in God is so high? someone had to die a despicable death for it.

“The Lord watches over you- the Lord is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night.” Psalm 121: 5-6

Soften your hearts and hear me, look at this, the sun will not harm you by day nor the moon by night, look at this love. Do you know what that means? it means that even at your most vulnerable stage, when you are not conscious and when you cannot do anything for yourself, God is protecting you, he is there, his angels are there, they are guarding you and keeping you safe. (Man I’ve teared up so many times with this post)

“The Lord will keep you from ALL harm- he will watch over your life; the Lord with watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.” Psalm 121: 7-8

Not some, not a few, but ALL, meaning every single harm, and not just today and tomorrow but for ALL of your life. Is that not love? Is that not real love?

“When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. Have no fear of sudden disaster or of the ruin that overtakes the wicked, for the lord will be at your side and will keep your foot from being snared” -Proverbs 3: 26

Do you know what he is saying here? he says do not be anxious, he says do not be afraid, I know there are a lot of people who get anxious at night, anxious for life, anxious that they might die in their sleep, anxious that something bad will happen and here God is, God is “saying hey, hey listen, don’t worry about that, don’t be anxious about that, I got your back, just sleep, I got you”. Is that not real love?

What do you know about the God that leaves 99 sheep for the one that was left behind? What do you know about the God that says bring ALL of your burdens to me and take my own because mine is lighter? (I’m crying now) What do you know about the God that says I will carry you on my back and have my wings protect you? What do you know about the God that says “look I know you, I know you inside out, I know your weak points, I know the things you’ve done, I know you’ve said and done some things that hurt me and hurt yourself and the people around you, and even though the people might not have forgiven you, even though you may not have forgiven yourself, I forgive you.

I. Forgive. You.

I forgive you and I still love you.

To me, you are perfect, to me you are whole and you are clean and you are worth it and I love you.”

What do you know about that God? About my God? about Your God?

What do you know about the God that genuinely wants the best for you? That even in times of trial, he holds your hand, he tries to help it be as smooth as possible for you?

What do you know (I am quite literally bawling my eyes out, I’m gonna insert a picture to prove it) about the God that feels your pain? That feels your heaviness? The God that sees you crying in your pillow at 3 AM because your heart hurts and feels that pain?

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I don’t know what people have tried to tell you, I don’t know what you’ve heard or what you’ve read but if you take one thing away from this, I want it to be this;

In all that noise, in all that white noise, people talking, shouting, hustle and bustle, traffic, hardships, heartbreaks, God is there. God is there and he loves you. God sees you and he sees your pain and he pats your back and he says,

“My child, the storm is coming to an end, I’m here, I’m right here. I love you and I’m right here.”

Thank you God.

I could probably write on forever but I need to keep this a readable length.

(It was cloudy and immediately I ended this blog post, the dark clouds went away and the Sun shone, like immediately, if that’s not a sign of someone’s breakthrough, of someone’s rainy days coming to an end then I dont know what is)

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

Gospel girltalk…or guy: Anxiety

Hey boos,

How are you? I’m supposed to be completing my business notes right now but instead, I’m by the window in the library writing this #iluvuni.

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Anyhow, I feel like I haven’t done a GGTG segment in a while but that’s because, just like you, I’m still on this walk with God and I still don’t really know what I’m doing (lol). Sometimes I feel like I know some stuff and sometimes, I feel like I know nothing and these days I’ve been feeling like I know nothing. I’m not perfect and neither is my relationship with God, which is what brings us into our topic for today.

I feel like a lot of people see Christians as beings that are incapable of feeling anything that is not synonymous with good (I wish it were true, I really do) but fortunately or unfortunately, that is not the case. They see Christians as these people that don’t face disappointment or confusion or even depression and anxiety, all we do is quote bible verses (please, I wish I could quote bible verses whenever I wanted toand attack and judge anyone else who is not Christian (false yet again, we’re actually nice people pls

If you’re reading this and going through something, I don’t  expect you to read this and be healed or feel better, I just want to assure you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can’t see it yet.

Anxiety according to Google dictionary is defined as a feeling of worry, nervousness or unease about something with an uncertain outcome, another definition is a nervous disorder marked by excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks. GAD, according to NHS, Generalised Anxiety Disorder is a common condition that is estimated to affect up to 5% of the UK population which doesn’t sound like a lot until you realize that GAD is only one type of anxiety disorder.

If anxiety or anything at all is physically stopping you from living your life, physically stopping you from performing tasks and LIVING please, please, please get help, it does not make you weak, it does not make you a bad christian, please get the help you need. 

What does the bible say about it? 

God loves us. Say it with me. 

One.

Two.

Three.

God. Loves. Me.

God loves us, and the last thing he wants to see us is in pain, the last thing he wants to see us do is suffer and go through rough times and be anxious and depressed, and honestly his heart breaks for us when he sees us sad, just like your heart breaks when you see your mother or father or siblings or someone really close to you depressed.

1 Peter 5: 6 says “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” and then in Matthew 11:28, it states “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest”. He understands that we all go through these rough times and he does not blame you for that, he genuinely just wants to take all the hurt away.

The problem is sometimes we’re so deep in our sorrow, like even when we try to push our head up against the water, the devil pushes our head right back into it again (which is why, when you first feel yourself going down that hole, you get out of it because the more you sink, the more you’re stuck)

In Matthew 6:26, the bible states “Look at the birds of the air, they do not sew or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” and it’s so encouraging because it reassures that everything is going to be alright eventually because if God takes care of the birds and the wild flowers, things that can be considered insignificant, he definitely has our back, I mean, this is the same God that sent his son, Jesus to die for you, he’s got this, this message is so important that it’s in the bible twice, there is an identical passage to this one in Luke 12: 24. In fact, Romans 8:38 to 39 even says “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels or demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our lord”. Not even your anxiety or your depression can separate you from God’s love, no matter what it tries to tell you, whether it be that he’s not listening, or that he doesn’t love you or that you’re not a good christian or that you’re not doing enough, he still loves you.

What do I do then?

  1. Go to church

I know it sounds like such a typical thing to say but I am serious. Going to church when you feel anxious is such a great thing, being in the house of God brings about some sort of comfort and there you can just lay all your worries and your sorrows and whatever it is that is weighing you down on the cross. My cousin once told me the story of a girl who got broken up with and used going to church as a way to cry without people judging her and it actually ended up helping her relationship with God. Now, I’m not saying you should go to church when you need a good cry but it is one of the first places you should go with a heavy heart because it is the Lord’s house. Where did Hannah go when she had a very heavy heart in the bible? She traveled to church and there she let down the troubles of her heart out so well that the priest there, who had probably seen so many people pray, thought she was drunk and what does the bible say at the end? “Then she went away and ate something and her face was no longer downcast” (1 Samuel 1:18). So go to church,get something to eat and let your face not be downcast. You might not get the answer you’re looking for but you will find comfort, and peace and people who you can confide in and can pray for you.

2. Get someone to pray for/with you.

Whenever I get sad, I find it a little bit difficult to pray and sometimes getting someone to pray for and with you can be so beneficial. Matthew 18: 19-20 says “Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am among them.” and James 5:14-15 says “is any amongst you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven”. It’s okay to ask for support, that’s what we are here for. If you don’t have someone to pray for or with you, feel free to message me anytime.

3. Listen to gospel.

Another typical thing to say but it does help. I recommend songs like “Live!” by Tye Tribbett, “Take me to the King” by Tamela Mann and Kirk Franklin and my favourite right now, “Road trip” by Kirk Franklin, that one always manages to put me in a good mood, also “Rescuer” by Rend Collective (issajam) but yes, I get it, sometimes you’re really just not up for it but putting on those gospel tunes really does help with the calm, comfort and peace.

When I get into times of need, I also try my best to watch preaching about God’s love for me, and faith and hope and just things that are really encouraging. Most importantly, pray, prayer is so important, even though it’s just a couple words, let God know, ask for help. He wants to help you just as much as you want to be helped. And if you feel like he’s not listening, he is, just not in the way that you think he is. Christianity can be difficult sometimes especially in times like this,  because you don’t get the direct answer or the direct feeling of being better, sometimes you have to wait. Ibuprofen and pain reliefs don’t work instantaneously, they take about 30 minutes before they start kicking in.

Listen to me darling, times like these are one of the times where it feels difficult to be a christian but these are also the times where you have to hold on to God the most, I promise you and I don’t promise a lot, but I promise you, hang on to God baby, you are going to make it.

It is going to be okay.

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Also here’s some more encouraging bible verses for ya..

Proverbs 3: 5-6

Philippians 4:6-7

John 14:27

Colossians 3:15

Psalms 55:22

Proverbs 12:25 (such a cute one this one)

1 Peters 5:6-8 (Important! do read)

Hebrews 13:5-6 (if material things are worrying you/people are scaring you)

Psalm 56:3 (A prayer to God)

 

 

A trip down Peppercorn Avenue

Hey boos,

How is your week going? Mine has been really chill, so basically I have decided that I want to be serious again (with my blogging) kinda like I was last year and since I am not really doing anything,  I decided to bring back the blogging schedule. I will be posting three times a week now, Monday, Wednesdays and Sundays at 4 pm GMT and then “Sis say what” will be on Saturdays, only on Saturdays.

Just for clarification, I will be posting Monday, Wednesdays and Sundays and then on Saturdays “Sis say what” will be posted (that is if I have any to post)

Anyway back to the post at hand, so I know it is difficult finding a good place to eat or chill especially in Lagos where there are too many places to eat (and chill) and it can be so difficult to choose so as the helper of the people, I am making a guide to help you make better choices. Let us keep in mind that I literally know nothing about cuisine, I am not a food critic, I just like food and will try anything once (when it comes to food) so let’s just see how it goes.

Name: Peppercorn Avenue

Address: 6A Otunba Adedoyin Ogungbe Crescent, Lekki Phase 1, Lagos

Price range per plate: 2500 – 3000 Naira

I went to Peppercorn Avenue, two weeks ago I think and I actually had a really amazing time. Their parking wasn’t expansive, only enough space for about 10 cars.

The outward appearance of the place is not much to write home about, in fact I was a bit disappointed when I first laid my eyes on it. Just a big grey building with the words “Peppercorn” written on it, doesn’t sound very aesthetically pleasing does it? but the moment the nice security man opens the door for you, you begin to warm up the place.

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I didn’t like the interior at first but it began to grow on me, plus it has these lush booth chairs that are white and perfect for taking pictures.

The service was really great, the waiters were really nice and attentive and the one that attended to us knew how to pronounce the thai names which I thought was really impressive.

Oh my gosh I am terrible, I forgot to say, Peppercorn Avenue is a thai and indian food restaurant. It’s a weird combination but they make sure to specify which is thai and which is indian (the menu is colour coded so you don’t make any mistakes) 

My dad and I had a lot of food which I don’t remember the names of ( because I am terrible and didn’t write them down)

The culinary experience began (oohh fancy) with some complimentary lemongrass tea and these cracker things, that you dip in the sauce. The cracker things are kind of tasteless but they’re still somehow good without the dips. The green one tastes minty (which I didn’t like), the white one was sweet and so was the brown one but the brown was like a sticky kind of sweet, again I literally don’t know what they were made of, but they were good, that is, if you like sweet things. 19875757_757558904417228_1371817836_o

As for the Lemongrass, I think I will stick with my green tea (which I don’t even like but for the sake of health). It looked really pretty though, it had the color of prosecco so it was a perfect addition for a boujie styled picture.

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My dad and I ordered spring rolls as appetizers, he had vegetable and I had chicken, they were literally the biggest spring rolls I had ever seen. I don’t know about you but I’m used to thin crunchy spring rolls but these ones had a crunchy outer layer but the inside was soft (ah-may-zing), probably the best spring rolls I have ever tasted. But then it makes me wonder, are spring rolls supposed to be like this because I have never had spring rolls like those, but then again my experience with spring rolls are the ones that come from a box. 

For main course I had thai green curry with chicken and prawn noodles. 

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Not only was my food drop dead gorgeous, it also tasted drop dead gorgeous. So I had eaten the curry at another thai place called Thaikhun (not in Nigeria) and the curry was spicier there and thicker so that was a little bit disappointing (it says on the menu that it’s going to be spicy but it just isn’t), the noodles were really good too, definitely not indomie noodles.

We also had garlic naan bread which I didn’t take a picture of but the naan bread was really good too, it was warm, they had an interesting twist on the naan bread but it still tasted really nice.

My dad had fish that he didn’t like because he didn’t like the sauce.

For drinks I had a mocktail called cool cat, it was really sweet (again) I feel like everything I ate was really sweet and really good and I regret nothing.

We didn’t get any dessert but I was completely stuffed so I didnt mind (too much)

I would give the place a 4.5/5 all round, we were literally the only ones there so I don’t know how service is during busy hours.

Would I go back again? Yes, so I can try out their indian menu.

Let me know your favourite restaurant in the comments below.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Gospel girltalk or….guy: Sex, gives, porn and Masturbation

“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realise that your body is the temple of the Holy spirit who lives in you and was given to you by God, You do not belong to yourself” 1 Cor 6: 18-19 (Girls life application study bible version) *

Hey boos,

How has your week been? How was Easter, mine was pretty chilled and laid back. On Sunday I went to church, the service was really good, I actually cried. The rest of my week is just going to be work, even Saturday and Sunday but it’s okay man must grind for what man wants.

So we all know, at this point what sex is and if you don’t know what sex is, stay that way, it wont be too long now before the world strips you off your innocence. (Lowkey it is important to learn about it biologically so maybe wait for sex ed or a biology class or something).

Sex is a topic that has really intrigued the human race, it’s the type of thing you will find pretty much everywhere, in music, television,etc, it’s pretty much become normal (unfortunately).

Don’t get me wrong, sex is great but God gave us an inch and we took 5 miles. We will get to why in a bit but I want to talk about something else, in Nigeria they call it “gives” which is just another word for foreplay or hooking up.

A lot of youth like to fool themselves and think oh this isn’t sex so this is fine. tenor

No baby no, it is not fine, let me tell you something. Foreplay is defined as sexual activity that precedes sexual intercourse. Foreplay and masturbation are both not okay because they prepare your body for sexual intercourse. As Christians, it is very important to understand that the actions we take have serious spiritual consequences, especially us young Christians. By subjecting yourself to foreplay, physically you are opening yourself to  unnecessary stress because when you partake in foreplay and you get used to it, you start getting “needs” and urges that unless you do something about, can start affecting your mind, your emotions and your concentration which can then leak into things like your education and your relationships. Not to mention, it can put you in very compromising situations, say your partner does not have the same level of self control as you and then begins to pressure you to have sex or worst of all, has sex with you without your consent (rape).

Spiritually, let’s say you used to “give” in your past and you give your life to Christ in order to take your relationship with God to the next level and God forgives you, don’t you think that these thoughts and these urges will persist or do you think oh because you asked God for forgiveness, everything will be perfect. I like to give the example of a person who has committed murder, although the person has asked God for forgiveness (let’s call this person Jane) and mercy and he has forgiven Jane and Jane’s place in heaven is secure, Jane is still going to go to prison. God will help Jane whilst she is in prison by giving her the strength to go on, he’ll make the wardens like her so things might be easier for her but she will still  go to prison. This scenario is similar to sexual sin, although you ask God for forgiveness and God forgives you. Those sexual thoughts will still be there and the urges will still be there and they will be very strong and you will struggle, you will struggle so hard to overcome it, you will feel so much guilt every time and even though you don’t want to have the thoughts you are having, you will still have them. This is because the devil doesn’t want you out of the trap that he has placed you in so he makes you feel like you can never come out of it and if that doesn’t work he will try to make you feel guilty and miserable so that you wont be happy with the decision you have made.

Slowly with the grace and the strength of God you will overcome the urges and the thoughts and the guilt but even then, sometimes you might get them again and it will scare you because you’d think you’re over it. Whenever this happens, just know that the devil is trying to tempt you, he is trying to lure you back into your trap, he thinks that if he has succeeded before then he can succeed again but again with the grace and strength of God you will overcome.

You will always overcome the devil and his tricks with God but the road is long, painful and difficult, the pleasure you think you are having is certainly not worth the long and painful struggle.

Pornography, “gives”, hooking up, masturbation, it can completely destroy your mind. Your brain doesn’t forget, especially what your eyes see. So even if you’ve seen something for 10 seconds, the image will be stored in your brain to be replayed at the most inconvenient of times, at church, at school, wherever and whenever.

So no, gives and hooking up and masturbating and pornography just because it’s not actually sex or it’s not you that’s having the sex or you’re not having it with someone, still has an effect on you and not a good one.

Now here are the reasons why sex before marriage is not a good idea, I am going to do it in list for so neither you nor I get lost in the stew.

  1.  Some of the people that are having sex before marriage are not mature enough to handle it, how can you be having sex but you can’t even say the word vagina or penis or even the word sex?

2.    Having pre-marital sex can cause issues for your marriage sex.

Let me tell you how, say you’ve been having oral pre-marital sex, the girl you have proposed to says she is celibate you say okay, you guys get married and you like oral sex, you have experienced oral sex you know what it feels like and you really like it but she doesn’t want to even think about giving it a go. That’s the beginning of trouble because then you’re going to say she is not satisfying you so you might begin to look elsewhere and that’s the beginning of the end of your marriage, something that you could have avoided just by doing what you were supposed to do and waiting till marriage.

3. Urges and needs that you really don’t need to be thinking about.

Being youth is already hard enough, being Christian isn’t always going to be easy so why would you add more weight on your back? Think about it really, all the time you spent trying to get that girl to have sex with you or grooming yourself for the encounter, all the times that you have had sex which only gave you a short amount of pleasure, imagine if you had spent that time on something useful or something that you were actually passionate about, think about were you would be right now. You already have to stress about school, about your parents, your friends, now you also have to think about the next time you’re going to get “gives” or how to hide whatever it is you’re doing from people like your parents, it’s just too much.

4. Jesus gave his life for that body, God gave up his son for that body and now you’re just going to give it away to someone else, just like that?

In 1 Corinthians 6 MSG it says “for God bought you with a high price(sending his son, Jesus Christ down to earth to die for our sins) you must honor God with your body”

  Imagine if you worked so hard for something, maybe a birthday present for your mom, you worked so hard for 3 years to get that present and then she just gave it away to someone else with no remorse at all or maybe the flimsy excuse of “oh I really felt a connection with the person” or “I just wanted to know what it feels like” or even “all my friends were doing it”, would you not feel absolutely terrible and just very angry, so imagine what God feels like. God gave up his son, Jesus gave up his life for you and your body and you just want to give it away like that? I know a lot of people like to say oh well I feel a strong connection with the person and we have been together for a long time so we thought why wait? But let me counter that, if you know you’re going to end up with the person at the end of the day and you feel the connection, why not wait and just know that when you finally get to have sex it will be worth it because it’s with someone you love, someone who has promised to stick with you and someone who you’re going to share your life with. You’re going to have sex eventually, you might as well just wait till you find the person you really and truly love (God’s kind of true love though not the human type of true love, check out 1 corinthians 4 to know what I mean)

5. You will find that people who partake in casual sex often feel lonely and bleak after the sex is over, God knew what he was doing when he was telling us what to do, you just need to take the time to understand it.

6.  You could potentially get STDS.

If someone came up to you and gave you a cookie and said oh, have this cookie but if you eat this you may or may not suffer severe diarrhea for a couple of days or death, your call. Think about it carefully, would you still eat the cookie? You know you would just smile and say thank you and dump it in the nearest bin because aint nobody got time for sitting in the toilet for hours because of one cookie that I could probably make myself. So why are you willing to do something that similar for sex?

People like to say well the reason for a lot of underaged/undercooked marriages is because the couple want to have sex and then the marriage doesn’t even end up working because they jumped into it 

What I have to say to that is, if the main reason you want to get married is because you want to have sex then you need to analyse the relationship and analyse yourself first because that says a lot more about you than it does about the boundary.

Personally I like to think that when you love someone and you really want to be with them, sex wont or shouldnt be that big of a deal because there is more to your relationship than sex, it is so much easier to be in a sex-less or give-less relationship when you have not experienced either. It is so much harder for a person who has experienced gives or sex to be in a relationship with someone who hasn’t because the person with experience will feel and express urges that the experience-less person cannot understand and that can cause issues in the relationship.

So straight up, I think sex before marriage is bad, I think gives are bad, I think pornography and masturbation are bad and should be avoided.

I just wanted to talk about this because I feel like it could be difficult for a budding christian to understand because you will find Christians who say they are Christians but comfortably have sex before marriage and don’t think there is anything wrong about it when it is. Not just only sex but “gives” as well or anything of that nature.

I hope this shed more light to any confusion.

Here are some bible verses* to show that fornication (sexual intercourse between two people who are not married) is not actually acceptable.

Galatians 5:19-21

“When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear. Sexual immortality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, bursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties and other sins like these.  Let me tell you again as I have said before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the kingdom of God”

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

“God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from ALL sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor- not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways”

 

If you have fallen into the trap (pretty much) that is sex before marriage and all activities pertaining to it and you are guilty and you see it is definitely affecting your life negatively and you dont know how to stop, definitely talk to God first, ask for his forgiviness and ask for his strength to help you go forth with this journey and then as crazy as this might sound, make sure you tell somebody else preferably an authoritative figure that can help you like your parents, mentor, aunt, youth pastor, whoever.

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

*That is my bible, all the bible quotes on this post are from my bible.

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Gospel Girltalk..or Guy: trials.

Hey boos,

How was your weekend?

Okay so I know there was no post on Sunday but that was because instead of staying at home and working on a blog post, I decided to go and see Moana instead (which was amazing, it is such a beautiful movie although it has a lot of mythology in it, some of you might not be interested in that, but I thought it was a bautiful movie.)

I decided it has been a long while since I did GGOG (Gospel Girltalk….or Guy) and so here we are, today we are going to be talking about trials.

What even are trials?

Trials are basically tests of faith from God to us, it’s when things don’t go exactly the way we want them to and we have to lean on God and put our trust and faith in God to do what’s best for us.

What is the difference between trials and temptations? 

Trials are from God, temptations are from the devil. God would never tempt his children to sin. In James 1:13**, it says “When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone;”. It even goes on to say “But each person is tempted when they are dragged way by their own evil desire and enticed”. Temptations come from your own evil desires, but today’s focus is not temptations but trials.

Why does God give us trials?

In James 1:2-4, it says “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

Sometimes God puts us through trials to teach us something that will in turn make us ready and mature for something else greater in the future.

Sometimes God puts us through trials just to test us. Being in a relationship with God, you learn a lot, you also learn a lot through reading the bible, when you are facing a trial, all your knowledge, all that you have been taught gets put to the test, literally. You keep on reading about having faith in the bible and you’re like YES! YES! YES! I CAN MOST DEFINITELY DO THAT, THAT IS EASY! but then when you’re facing a trial and you literally need to put your faith in God, that’s when you know if you actually can do it and if you have actually learnt how to put your faith in God.

We also face trials so that God can show us that we cannot do on our own. Sometimes, as humans, we can get quite cocky and believe completely in our own abilities as well as take credit for every good thing that has happened to us but when we face trials, we have no choice but to depend on God and that’s when you realize that you really cannot live life on your own and that you NEED God.

Sometimes we go through trials to help other people, our stories after a trial can be so encouraging and so motivational that it can help someone in as similar situation. After being in a similar situation yourself, you are in a position to give real advice that you know can benefit that other person’s life. Just the fact that you made it through the situation can give another person so much encouragement, it shows them that they can get through their situation as well.

So I am facing trials right now, and it is so hard, what do I do, how can I carry on, it feels like God isn’t listening. 

Oh trust me sweetheart, God is listening and I know it is hard but just know that God is going to bless you double of what you are even asking for right now or he is going to give you even better than you ask for. It isn’t that he is not listening, he is just waiting for the perfect time. Say you wanted to defrost something in the freezer, you don’t place it in the microwave for one minute and expect it to be defrosted, neither do you put a seed in soil, water it and expect it to have grown fully overnight. No, you have to leave whatever it is you are defrosting in the microwave for a certain amount of time in order for it to completely defrost, just like you have to give the plant time to grow. You cannot expect yourself to gain all the experience and growth and maturity that you need to gain all of a sudden, you have to face the trials as they come and know that the second it is time for it to be over, God will take all the pain and stress away and leave you with joy, laughter, blessings and happiness.

How do you carry on? 

  • 2 Thessalonians 2:15 says “So, friends, take a firm stand, feet on the ground and head high. Keep a tight grip on what you were taught” and that’s just what you do.
  • Continue to exercise your faith (“exercise daily in God- no spiritual flabbiness, please! Workouts in the gymnasium are useful but a disciplined life in God is far more so, making you fit today and forever” 1 Timothy 4: 6-9 The Message version)
  • Whenever you are afraid remember that Isaiah 41:10 says “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
  • Have somebody, another christian, maybe older, act as someone who can encourage you. For me that is my mom, whenever I am facing something, I know I can go to my mom for encouragement
  • Pray, pray because your life depends on it. Talk to Jesus, he understands. He grew up as a man like us, he understands all our emotions (except for sin) so whenever you are feeling sad, or disappointed or let-down or just anything at all, know that you can talk to Jesus because he has been there like you, he has felt it like you and he completely understands.
  • Continue to hound him for whatever it is you’re praying for (make sure he does not rest from hearing it *laughing emoji*)
  • Listen to encouraging gospel songs, I recommend Sovereign God by Maurette Brown Clark and He’s Able by MusiqCityWalls.
  • You can also contact me, my links are on the right hand corner.

Just know that whatever you are facing, God would not put you through it if he did not believe that you can face it. Ask him for strength, lean on him, he is your God, your father, your best friend, your creator, and he loves you with all his heart, he is doing this all for your betterment and you can do it, you can get through this storm.

So keep on going, you’re almost there.

** (disclaimer, I did not know these verses by memory, I just remembered reading it in the bible so I googled it to know exactly what it said and most of them I have screenshotted on my phone, although I should know how to quote the bible by memory)

(All the bible verses are in NIV, the New Internation Version, except one which is in the Message version, I have indicated above)

Have a blessed week,

lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

Gospel Girltime….or Guy: Halloween

So as Halloweekend is drawing to a close with it rounding off on Monday, and the hype spreading to all countries, there is the really important question; Should Christians celebrate Halloween? This is what I think, feel free to write down your opinions and reasonings in the comment section below.

So before I can begin, we must do our research.

So what is Halloween and how did it begin?

Halloween is thought to have started by the Celts, those who used to occupy what is now known as Ireland. The Celts celebrated their New year on the 1st of November, they saw it as the end of the summer and harvest and the beginning of the dark and cold days usually associated with a lot of deaths. The eve before, they celebrated an ancient Celtic festival titled the Samhain (the sow-in) on October the 31st, they believed that the boundaries between the physical world and the spiritual world blurred and dead people visited and roamed the earth. They burned animals and sacrifices to their Celtic deities. The Romans then conquered the majority of Celtic territory and brought their own 2 celebrations and remixed it with the Samhain. The first was Feralia, a day in late October where they commemorated the passing of the dead and the second was a day to honor Pomona, the roman goddess of fruit and trees. The symbol of  Pomona is the apple (this explains the bobbing of the apple practiced at Halloween).

And now you’re like wha, wha, wha Gedo hollup what does this have to do with Christianity?

Alright let me tell you, on May 13 , 6.0.9 AD, Pope Boniface IV dedicated the Pantheon in Rome in honour of all Christian martyrs, and the Catholic feasts of all Martyr day was established in western churches. Pope Gregory III later expanded it to dead saints and Martyrs and moved it to November 1. By the 9th Century Christian influences had spread to Celtic lands. The church then made November 2nd All Souls day, a day to honour the dead. They titled the eve before this, All Hallows eve which eventually became Halloween.

Information gotten from: Halloween

Okay Gedo, I get it, but was does dressing up have to do with all of this?

Well, I’ll tell you. The Celtics used to dress up so as to blend in with the “ghosts” and according to Eddie J. Smith, in his book Halloween, Hallowed is Thy Name, offers a religious perspective to the wearing of costumes on All Hallows’ Eve, suggesting that by dressing up as creatures “who at one time caused us to fear and tremble”, people are able to poke fun at Satan “whose kingdom has been plundered by our Saviour.” Images of skeletons and the dead are traditional decorations used as memento mori.

Information gotten from: Halloween

So now that we’ve done our research, what is my verdict?

I don’t think as Christians, we should celebrate Halloween and here’s why. First I will explain it spiritually and then I will talk about physically.

Celebrating a holiday like Halloween is not healthy spirit-wise because when you celebrate holidays like Halloween where the devil and evil spirits (witches, demons) are basically welcomed, even though you yourself may not be dressed as a devil or so on, you are basically fraternizing with the enemy. Have you ever heard of passive smoking? That is the inhalation of smoke from another person’s cigarette, cigar or pipe so although you yourself are not doing the act of smoking, you’re still inhaling that smoke. That is a bit like how celebrating Halloween and going to a Halloween party is, although you yourself are not dressed like the devil, you are opening your spirit to these bad spirits, you’re welcoming them. Some people might say “oh but I don’t believe in that part of Halloween” Those dark spirits don’t play like that, if you’re there, you’re there, they don’t care if you don’t believe in that part of Halloween, as far as they’re concerned, just by being there and taking part, you’ve shown yourself to them.

Now a lot of people will say, but isn’t Halloween a christian holiday so what are you talking about?

Okay but do you seriously think that Halloween is a holiday that exalts God? Do you think God is going to be happy looking down and watching you dressed like/among those that dress like devils, witches and demons? Do you think he loves seeing angels and demons together, taking pictures and holding hands? Do you think he loves seeing his most prized possession dressed as something he despises? Good and evil cannot mix, good and evil can never be friends, you know that and I know that so why are you participating in a celebration that tries to do exactly that. And I know some of you will be like, But Gedo your quote says-, I know what my quote says but notices how it says that Eddie J. Smith merely suggested and no offence Eddie J. but I think that’s silly, it’s just as silly as saying because God has given us sexual organs we should have sex with everyone to give thanks for having it.

Think about it, houses that are decorated with witches and wizards and skeletons and gravebeds, don’t you think by doing so you’re spiritually inviting these horrible spirits into the home? As Christians we should not only be physically aware but also spiritually aware, some things have much more of an effect on us than we think.

So that’s why I don’t support Halloween spiritually, now physically. Even if I wasn’t a christian I would still not support Halloween, why? Because people take the holiday too far. Look at costumes for examples, the other day I was telling my friend about how a costume was made out of Kim Kardashian’s Paris robbery, you’ll find costumes playing around with mental illnesses, it’s almost as though the holiday brings out the cruelty and darkness in people. (Sidenote: the same way having costumes playing around with mental illnesses disgusts you is the same way having costumes with devils and demons should disgust you, it just isn’t something to be played or joked around with). 

I love dressing up and I love costume parties, but I don’t love Halloween and what it stands for.

What are your thoughts and opinions?

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

Gospel Girltalk….or Guy: Why is following God so hard?

Heyy boos, how was your Sunday and your Monday? As you can tell, I’m back again with the favourite, Gospel Girl and Guy time with today’s question, Why is being a Christian so hard?

The simple answer is, it’s not really that hard because when you think about it as a whole, and by as a whole I mean when you think about what God has gone through for you and what you keep getting out of it and what you get out of it then you’ll see that it all really is worthwhile and once you realise that, it becomes less and less difficult. So instead of talking about why following God is so hard, we should talk about why it’s actually not that difficult (cheeky huh)

So first of all, God has given us choices, he’s not militaristic or anything like that and he has given you flexibility. He doesn’t say you must pray 3 times a day, morning, afternoon and night and there aren’t specific things you must say in prayer either. Think of God as a friend who always has their phone with them and always text you back, doesn’t matter what time you text, there will always be a response. Your friend wouldn’t like it if you picked a specific time to talk to him or her and whenever it got to that time, conversation seemed like a chore and when the time was up you just ignored him or her for the rest of the day. In fact you wouldn’t like it if someone did that to you. That’s how it is with God, so do it from your heart. But doesn’t God like it when we pray even though we don’t feel like it? There is a difference between praying even after something devastating and or disappointing happened to you (which is what God wants) and praying just because it’s part of your daily routine with no heart in it.

It may also seem hard because people make it seem boring, like you can’t have fun but the truth is, you can. God wants us to have fun but he wants us to do it in a way that isn’t harmful for our spirits. People think Christianity is all about cold, big churches and slow music that makes you want to sleep and just plain discomfort but it’s really not like that. In our church we have youth group which is literally so fun, we sit around and talk about just different topics, we have church trips that focus on getting to know God and having a one on one relationship with him, we have zoo trips and lemme tell you something, at my church praise and worship is so lit like music you can actually dance to and have fun in. I’m a Christian but I still go to parties and have a good time, obviously I don’t drink any alcohol neither do I get all physical (you know what I mean) but I still dance, I talk to people, I wear normal clothes. I’m basically a normal person except I have the greatest best friend and father ever and that’s God.

Like yeah there are some things you have to give up but it’s mostly little things that you probably wouldn’t even notice if you start doing them early like obviously sex before marriage (read my earlier post about dating for all that good juice) and with God’s help and guidance, you’ll see that it’s not as extremely difficult as people make it out to seem. And ofcourse you have to spend time with God and you do this by reading the bible and praying and praising and worshipping God. The thing is when you do all this, you grow a closer relationship with God and when you have a closer relationship with God you begin to see that you’re a lot more happier, you are more peaceful, you get to speak to God and see and know things that people can’t even dream of knowing. The gifts that God gives you become  more and more and you just find yourself succeeding on all levels, it’s a good life. There’s also something calming and soothing knowing that God knows what’s best for you and all you have to do is hand whatever you’re going through to him and he’ll take care of it.

But you know me, I wont lie, sometimes it will get tough, there will always be some sacrifices that you have to make that will seem rather uncomfortable and sometimes don’t make sense but just remember that God’s got your back, always has and always will. He has given you all you have and if he takes it away it probably means he’s about to give you something better. And how can I forget eternal life? what would you rather do, live eternally as an angel in gold and loveliness without ever having any worries or issues or any of those bad emotions OR do that thing that will only give you a feeling of joy for a couple of minutes, at most a couple of years?  Do you even really need to think about it?

So yes, being a Christian isn’t as hard as people make it seem and you will make mistakes, we aren’t perfect and God knows this. He’s willing to forgive you as long as you actually learn from these mistakes and try not to repeat them. Remember God can see your heart.

Alright that’s me signing out, if you want to talk to me more about this or anything. You can comment and I have my social medias on the side so you could shoot me a message on there.

Have a blessed week,

Gedo xx