3 positive affirmations you deserve to hear

Hey boos,

I am now officially on Summer break! You know what that means, I can actually pay attention to things! (YEEAAAA BOIIIII!)

So this week hasn’t been the easiest of weeks mentally, it’s not been bad but it’s not been great either and sometimes, actually very often, I watch ASMR to help me sleep (and it really helps me, some people think its really creepy but like get that negativity away from me, thank u x) anyway, at the end of this specific video, the youtuber said something along the lines of “You are loved, you are strong and I am proud of you.” and that really gave me comfort and joy. I think in this time, a lot of us still have exams, a lot of us are graduating, summer is coming and a lot of us don’t really know what we are going to be doing, we could all do with some positive affirmations. The bible has so many, like God’s word just encourages me so much and gives me so much comfort, it’s great.

  1. You are loved.

Romans 8; 37-39, possibly one of my favourite verses says “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

I love this passage so much because sometimes you think, how can God ever love someone like me? or you think that you’ve made him so angry and he doesn’t love you anymore, you think now that he’s seen how filthy my heart is, he wants nothing to do with me. This passage always comforts, and is like nah, there is nothing in creation that can separate us from God’s love, that can stop God from loving us, no matter how grimy and dirty you are, your heart is, how disobedient and stubborn your spirit is, God still loves you and you can’t stop that. It’s insane to think that even when you feel like no one in this universe loves you or cares for you, the creator of everything in this universe and more loves you. (happy reacts only) 

Not only has God loved you, he has also given you people that love you. “No one who has left home or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or fields for me and the gospel will fail to receive a hundred times as much in this present age; homes, brothers, sisters, mothers, children and fields -along with persecutions-and in the age to come eternal life” -Mark 10; 29-30

God has given us so many Christian brothers and sisters and mothers and fathers that love us and are there for us*****, it truly is amazing. You have so many people in Christ that support you and love you and want the best for you. (I also put the rest of the verse because I wanted us all to see that Christianity is not all sunshine and rainbows but like its fine, our strength is in God)

2. There will be hard, trying times but the hard times don’t last.

Sometimes when you’re in a hard situation, in a rut, it’s just so hard to see the end of it. You feel like you might never leave there and just the thought of that is almost too hard to bear. Have no fear, you won’t be there forever.

“This is what the Lord Almighty says: “The fasts of fourth, fifth, seventh and tenth months will become joyful and glad occasions and happy festivals for Judah. Therefore love truth and peace” Zechariah 8;19. From my understanding, those fasts and times were times of mourning for Judah but God put an end to those fasts of mourning and turned them into glad and happy occasions, much like whatever it is you might be going through in this time. These days of sadness for you will be turned into days of joy and happiness, by God; in Jesus’s name, Amen.

“In that day I will restore the fallen house of David. I will repair its damaged walls. From the ruins I will rebuild it and restore its former glory” Amos 9;11****

God is will rebuild you from the ground up and restore whatever it is you think you might have lost. I can honestly say, it’s going to be fine. (..that is, if you let God come into your life and do the work that needs to be done in you to restore you and be pruned, you can’t grow and be better if you don’t let yourself get pruned)

3.  You’re not weak for asking for help.

So my friends and I were taking our love languages test the other day (well I was forcing everyone to take it, but that’s a different story) and the least love language sign for me was acts of service, which is like when someone helps you out. No surprise because I have always felt bad asking for help, I feel like when I ask for help, I am weak, that’s just my human pride speaking and not letting me get better and I need to work on it.

Accepting help does not make you weak at all. 

In fact Matthew 10: 9-11, Jesus urges his disciples to accept help from others.

“Do not get any gold or silver or copper to take with you in your belts- no bag for the journey or extra shirt or sandal of staff, for the worker is worth his keep. Whatever town or village you enter, search for some worthy person and stay at their house until you leave.”

There is no shame in asking for help when you need it, sometimes you need that extra support and that’s fine, that’s what the rest of us are here for.

In 2 Corinthians 1: 3-4, it says “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ……….who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” God has helped us and we are here to help you with the help God has given us, it’s all good darling.

So those are the 3 positive affirmations, I think this is very important and I will be posting more on my blog as the Lord continues to reveal more to me. I plan on making another blog post on how the Word of God has comforted and confronted the beliefs I had about myself and I’m excited to put that up, should be good.

I hope we are all enjoying the lovely sun? (It’s so sunny in Edinburgh right now, I am absolutely THRIVING, Golden hour is literally the best time of my day)

Anyway, have a blessed weekend.

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

*****Also I am aware that not everyone is currently surrounded by people that truly mean and want the best for them and that’s sad because God obviously want us to have that comfort and I think church is a really good place to get that so I’d say a good first step is to get plugged in to a good church where you’re fed and loved (even if you aren’t a christian, I find a lot of joy and comfort and love just being at church, you can go on your own or ask your local friendly neighbourhood christian friend)  and of course, I’m always down to listen to anyone that needs a-listening.

****** That’s the version in my personal bible, the NIV says “I will restore David’s fallen shelter- I will repair its broken walls and restore its ruins- and will rebuild it as it used to be, so that they may possess the remnant of Edom and all the nations that bear my name”

down with perfection

Hey boos,

How are you?

So I’m currently on my 4th day? 5th day? of my project to produce content every day and I think it’s going alright? I’m especially enjoying vlogging so that’s pretty great.

Today, I want to talk about the media and content creators on the media (I’m saying, in general, okay, not everyone is going to be the same) but I think there is a certain lack of rawness when it comes to social media, vloggers, Instagram models, and influencers they all give the impression that life is perfect and scripted which is not how youtube began. I was watching a talk by JacksGap, if you don’t know who he is then google him lol, it was a talk that really inspired me and he starts off by talking about how the thing that attracted him to youtube was how “real” and “raw” it was and how content was “scripted” or “sexy” and it got me thinking because that’s almost exactly what youtube is nowadays, it’s what social media is nowadays, everyone trying to portray their “perfect” life with “perfect white teeth” and “perfect clothing” and “perfect friends” doing “perfect activities” whilst suffering in silence, he goes on to talk about how the pressure of having a big youtube channel got to him and he used to go to bed and cry every night because he didn’t know what to do. This story tends to be consistent amongst youtubers or social media influencers who can no longer bear the weight of their pretense.

It’s not like I blame them either, because that essentially is what the people want to see, whether we want to admit it or not, people like to see perfection, we like to see pretty things, we like to see people with expensive things, it’s a love-hate relationship. We try to pick them apart to make ourselves feel better but at the same time go back every week to see what they’re doing, we’re also curious beings, we want to know what the next person is doing at every moment.

Which is why I ask for us to be more appreciative of rawness, to be more welcoming of people who aren’t “perfect”, and to accept people for who they are behind the filter.

What do you think? Let me know..

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

The raw side of blogging

Hi.

So you know how in the middle of almost every YouTuber’s career, they decide that they aren’t really doing what they love or what they want and they feel trapped and not really enjoying youtube etc etc, I don’t really know why I felt the need to start with that, anyway..

Ever since I started blogging on wordpress, the first thing on my mind was eventually gaining popularity from it, I instantly started making blog posts that every famous blogger makes, fashion related blogs, how to’s, I created a seperate instagram, I began using “hey boos” as kind of a brand thing, I really really wanted to fold myself into a mould that I felt would help me with my success (basically the clean cream modern blogger look) but I soon realised I really wasn’t good at it, it just wasn’t coming to me.

I’m not really into writing about what’s in my purse or beauty products, I also tried to schedule everything and making everything align and having categories and menus and themes and it never really worked out because it’s not really my thing you know? I mean I don’t really know much about stuff like that because if you know me I’m the most minimal effort person when it comes to things like beauty and makeup (literally my night routine is washing my face and brushing my teeth…if I can even get myself to do that)

What I’m good at and what I care about is genuinely talking (..about me) about things, about personal experiences, about ideas, goals, basically about myself ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and a couple days ago I decided I would do just that, so I changed my blog outlook completely into something that suits what I want to do so yeah expect a lot of posts about my take and opinion on things (if you care lol)

I’ve just been doing a lot of thinking these days because that’s what you do when exams are over, and I have a lot of things to say just nowhere to say them and I have a lot of things to share just not a lot of places to share them, so just expect a lot of writing, a lot of thoughts and a lot of things that I actually care about.

I’m kind of excited because I feel like I’m finally starting to see what my place is on the blogging scene, basically the raw side of blogging which people don’t really get much of nowadays (idk.)

Anyway enough of that, guys can we talk about The Royal Wedding real quick because I NEED a moment! I’m sure you are sick and tired of it on your feed at this point but I feel like I NEED to talk about it because I honestly loved it so much.

Let’s start off with the guests, I thought it was great that they had a nice range of guests and it was really fun trying to see how many of them I could recognize, not to mention I loved the clothing and seeing everyone dressed up in a way that wasn’t really typical of them. I also loved the flowers (so so pretty) and just the little touches which I will definitely be taking inspiration from for my own wedding.

Meghan’s wedding dress did disappoint me a little at first when she first came out because I thought it was plain but the more I looked at it and her in it, the more she really worked it and looked outstanding so she rocked it (although I have to add in that I loved her evening reception dress so much more.)

Meghan and Harry together were just the best thing, they honestly looked so in love and genuinely happy, you could see it in the way they looked at each other and held each other, it was so endearing.

I love love LOVED how they incorporated both Meghan’s culture and church into the ceremony, I have been listening to the Kingdom’s choir performance of “Stand By Me” over and over again, it was so beautiful. I also really appreciated the diversity; the violinist, the preacher at the wedding, the choir and can we talk about Meghan’s mom attire real quick? she AB-SO-LUTELY MURDERED IT, I loved the color on her, the hat, her hair, she looked graceful, she looked divine, she looked elegant, EVERYTHING!

I really enjoyed the wedding and it feels so weird now that it’s over because I feel like we’ve been talking about it FOREVER!

Hands up if you searched up young princes/princesses because same.

Thank you for reading this and if you’ve been supporting me by reading my blog posts, by commenting, by liking, I thank and appreciate you so much. Blogs have been coming on pretty slow for the past month or so just because I’ve been pretty busy, I’ve had exams, I’ve been applying for things over the summer, enjoying times in the sun with pals before everyone goes off for summer break but I’m home now which means a lot more time to blog and vlog and do things I want to do.

I’m going to love and leave you now because my head kinda hurts.

Thank you for reading! Get access to my social media by scrolling all the way down to the bottom (DO IT NOW!) Come back again next week for more gr8 content.

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Get to know me tag: 2017 version

Hey boos,
How are you? How is it going? Exam season is upon us and you know what that means..
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Dw, if God got us then we gon’ be alright. 
I wanted to throw it back to 2012,  the year of morning routines, night routines and sweet, sweet tags.
Today I’m gonna do the get to know me tag, I did it 2 years ago but I change every minute so I decided to do another one. I did 30 questions 2 years ago so this year I am going to do 60!
Sit back, relax and prepare to learn more about me than you probably care for.
What is your full name?
Ojoagedo Zainab Yamusa

Are you named after anyone?

Not that I know of

What does your name mean?

Ojoagedo means God judges not from your outward appearance but by what is inside your heart.

Where are you from?

Kogi state, Nigeria.

Where do you live?

Scotland.

Where were you born?

Zaria, Nigeria.

Which of your parents are you closest to?

Both, it just usually depends on who is location-ally closest to me, perhaps my mom but my dad and I get along very well.

Which of your parents are you more like?

My dad, I think,

What is your favorite drink?

At this very moment, a virgin shirley temple, or a diet pepsi.

What is your favorite food?

At this very moment, Nandos chicken thighs with peri salted chips, perri-tamer sauce and garlic bread.

What is your favorite holiday destination?

Spain.

What is your favorite childhood memory?

Holidays with the fam.

What is your favorite way to pass time?

Editing or watching youtube videos.

What is your favorite snack?

Sweet popcorn and wafers.

What is your favorite sport?

Lol. Does dance count as a sport?

What is your biggest regret?

My rebellious stage.

Are you a fan of any sports team?

HAH funny.

Are you a dog person or cat person?

floofers (dogs)

Are you scared of heights?

Not really.

At what age did you go on your first date?

Never been on one (oops..)

What is an ideal first date for you?

As long as I like the person and it’s thoughtful then any date is an ideal first date.

What is at the top of your bucket list?

Success.

What is something you are gifted at?

Probably writing.

What is something you look for in a partner?

Jesus’s nod of approval.

What is something you wish you were gifted at doing?

Painting.

What is the one item you can’t leave home without?

Clothes.

What is the best compliment you have ever received?

“You’re my favourite person.”

What is the first book you remember reading?

those ladybird books with my mom. (Thanks mom)

What is the first movie you remember seeing?

I don’t even know

What is the last book you read?

I don’t remember what it’s called, I didn’t get to finish it. In my defense, the book was in a library in Nigeria and I’m no longer there.

Do you like pets?

oh do I??????? (love ’em)

Do you have any pets?

No :(, I want a pig and a puppy.

What is the name of your first pet?

Her name was Lady, from Lady and the tramp.

What is your best physical feature?

Smile.

What is your biggest accomplishment?

Getting through this past year.

What is your eye color?

Brown.

What is your favorite color?

Pink.

What is your favorite fairytale?

Hercules or Pocahontas.

What is your favorite ice-cream flavor?

Salted Caramel.

What is your favorite music genre?

I don’t really know, it depends on the time you catch me but right now probably mainstream pop lol.

What is your favorite nickname?

Princess.

What is your favorite quote?

“And now these three remain, faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love” (1 corinthians 13:13 NIV)

What is your favorite type of clothing?

Culottes.

What is your most commonly used swear word?

I don’t swear.

What is your star sign?

Sagittarius but I dont believe in horoscopes and such.

Do you have a best friend, if so, then who?

Not a best friend, a soul sister, her name is Ehi.

Do you have a tattoo?

YeaA..a tattoo of Jesus’s love in my heart (LOOOooLLlllL) No I don’t have a tattoo.

Do you have any allergies?

No.

Do you have any birthmarks? If so, where?

Yea, on my arm, forehead, below my eye, I think there’s one next to my lip as well.

Do you hold any convictions that you would be willing to die for?

None that I say confidently.

Do you prefer kissing or cuddling?

Cuddling.

What piece of technology can you not live without?

Phone.

What was the first concert you ever attended?

I haven’t, but I had always hoped it’d be one direction.

What was your favorite subject in High School?

History.

What was your first job?

Paper girl, I hated it.

What was your least favorite subject in High School?

Chemistry.

What is the furthest you’ve ever been from home?

eh, probably America.

What is your biggest fear?

All the people I love dying.

When did you suffer your first heartbreak?

2016

When was the first time you were on a plane?

When I was a wee babe.

 

I hope you enjoyed getting to know more about me, comment down below what your favourite memory is and don’t forget to hit that follow button on the right to be updated when I post. Like and comment and share with your friends!

Have a blessed weekend,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

Questions gotten from https://www.tagquestions.net/get-to-know-me-tag/

Honestly tho: What they don’t tell you about University.

Hey boos,

Happy November! We’re at the last and most important “ember” months and you know what that means, winter, Christmas (and Christmas break) and my birthday! 3 things I am very passionate about.

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So as we all know, I am studying at University and honestly I love it but there are somethings that people don’t talk about but I’m gonna talk about them (so that’s what I am going to talk about…them, let’s get to talking….about..them.).

  1. Loneliness

Not everyone feels this but it’s definitely something that is there. I don’t think it gets talked about enough. Everyone likes to focus on the social aspect of University and freshers and socializing and making as many friends as humanly possible but nobody really talks about what happens when everyone goes back into their rooms. After it’s all done and you go back to your room, you just feel a certain emptiness. Not to mention sometimes it’s so quiet, you’re pretty much forced to face the reality that you’re by  yourself. I think the reason why this loneliness is so amplified in University is because you’re living next to people and you’re aware that they are there and you’re just closed off. How to combat this feeling? Keep yourself busy, do school work, watch funny videos (If anyone wants to notify Grayson and Ethan Dolan about my existence that would be cute), spend time with God, call your parents, read and just remember that it isn’t always going to be like that.

2.  You’re not as good as you thought.

I’ve talked to people about this (lol one person but you know) and I know we’re not the only people that feel like this, key word being feel. When you get to University, you start to feel like you’re not as good at things like you thought you were, and that can really affect self esteem. You’ll find that some people feel like they’re not as smart as they thought they were, not as organised or as pretty (me) or as sociable (me) or athletic (lol we all know I’ve never been athletic…or..organised). When I first came to University, I spent a good two weeks thinking I looked like unkempt; I thought my hair was a mess and I hated my glasses and this is all coming from me. Obviously your intelligence has not decreased whatsoever neither has your beauty or social skills it’s just that now you are surrounded by more people than you are used to and also people that you have never met so your personal scale distorts itself. How to combat this? Remind yourself that the presence of another person’s beauty, intelligence or whatever does not indicate the absence of your own. You got this.

3. Not belonging anywhere.

University is a big place. If High school was a pool, University is like a friggin’ ocean (did I just say friggin…..ok). There are so many people and common sense would have it that bigger body of water means it’ll be easier to find your own school (LOL I JUST MADE AN AQUARIUM JOKE, I LOVE BEING EDUCATED). However common sense is wrong, it isn’t and often times you’ll find yourself feeling like you don’t belong anywhere or feeling like you don’t belong with any group. You’ll be hanging with a group of people and still feel like an outsider, they’ll be sharing jokes and laughing between one another and you won’t get it. You might be on the groupchat and they’ll be making plans and even though you’re invited, you’re not really, no one would really notice if you didn’t come just like no one would really notice if you did. How to combat this? Depends on the person, you can either make yourself relevant in the group, go out of way to be a part until you find your own group or you can just chill, go with the flow, talk to everyone until you find your own people. I also suggest joining societies, clubs, sports and honestly just being your truest self because you want to attract people that like you for you and share some of the same interests as you. Making life long friends isn’t easy or fast but it’s worth it.

4. Peer pressure.

Personally, I haven’t really felt this because if I don’t want to do something, I’m just not going to do it but I would completely understand those that are affected by it. You don’t want to be an outsider and you want to beat the loneliness so you just go along with what your people are doing because you also don’t want to feel left out, I get it. What do I have to say about it? If they’re really your people and you express to them that you don’t want to do it and they should stop asking, they’ll listen to you and drop it, sure they might tease you a little bit about it but if you don’t like that either, communicate that to them as well and they should stop. However if they don’t, maybe you shouldn’t settle on them being your crew.

5.  Feeling misunderstood/judged

University is filled with all sorts of personalities and there are people, in fact a lot of people have grown up with the same friends and so have not been exposed to the other different personalities. They come to University and it’s filled with all sorts of personalities and mannerisms that they have never seen or experienced before and they just don’t know how to deal with it, which can very easily lead to misplaced judgement and feeling judged. I have a very interesting sense of humor and should rarely be taken seriously (except in cases like this, take me seriously now) and I will say things like “wow why am I the best thing that ever happened to this school” or “you’re so annoying please exit my life” or “Why does *insert name* hate me”. Obviously, I am joking, my friends know I am joking but people who aren’t used to my personality will think I am being serious and instantly label me as arrogant or rude or starting drama but I’m not, I’m just kidding (..for the most part 😉 ) and I don’t like explaining myself so I usually just let the person believe what they want (which probably isnt good lol). How to combat this? If you feel like you’re being misunderstood, it’s important for you to meet whoever it is that is making you feel the way you do and explain to them and if you’re like me and don’t like explaining yourself, don’t be like me.

6. Love in first semester. 

Don’t. Just stop. It’s not- focus on your degree.

So there are 6 things that people feel in Uni but nobody likes to talk about. If you feel like this and need someone to talk to, I got your back. If you’re new and liked what you saw make sure to tap that follow button on the right to get notified when I post and if you still can’t get enough of me, follow me on my social media.

Have a blessed weekend,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Disclaimer: I didn’t edit this over seriously so yea lol but you guys are my best friends, you’ll see me at my best and my worst, it’s still a great post though. You know it. 

10 things Nigeria taught me

Hey boos,

Okay I know, I know, I may or may not have been M.I.A but I have a reason okay? It’s a pretty good reason.

I am back in the UK and I have started University! (We thank God) I am so glad I am back, even though I was away for only a year I’ve missed everything and I feel so blessed to be back.

Now without further ado, here are 10 things I learn’t whilst I was in Nigeria.

  1. You can trade in newspapers for suya (however don’t expect much though!)

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2. How to be alone.

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3. How to say “no”

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4. Life goes on.

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5. Kids are cute.

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6. I’m not ready for a real relationship.

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7. Everything has an end.

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8. God has a sense of humor.

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9.  God answers prayers.

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10. There’s a wedding going on every Saturday.

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(Image from here)

So those are 10 things I learn’t whilst I was in Nigeria, would I do it again? On my own terms, yeah, probably but in the far, far, far, far future and again completely on my own terms. Was it necessary for my growth and who I will end up being? Yes, definitely.

I am very excited for the new content I will be able create now that I am back and very very excited about life! I have great Uni-related blog posts in the works and so much stuff that I want to do so definitely watch this space.

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Lots of love,

Have a blessed day,

Gedo xx

5 stages you’ve probably experienced on your fitness journey.

Hey boos,

How are you guys doing? How’s your week and your weekend? I didn’t  post on Wednesday and Friday because I just didn’t know what to post (good blogger) but I’ve got some ideas for this week so it’s lit, let’s go!

Today following my #humourMonday trend, I’m going to do the 5 stages of your fitness journey. I am not sure if I am the only that goes through this cycle but I figured I’d write a blog post about it so now you know what I go through when I decide to be “healthy”.

Stage 1: The Motivation.

So this stage is usually a day of two before you’re meant to start. You usually get motivated probably by seeing someone look really good on Instagram and you get really into it, you look up exercises to do and then you even try to set up a time to work out. You watch a ton of videos about people who have lost weight in months and their story including what they did and tips they have.

I’m so hyped to start and I tell myself “I can do it!” I even set myself a time limit so that it’s more doable, so I’ll be like “Yeah! I am going to do this for one month!” 

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Stage 2: The Uncertainty. 

This is usually a couple of minutes before your workout, this occurs before you put your gym gear on. You’re in a little bit of doubt Do I really want to do this? Can I really do this? Do I have to do this? 

Usually though, you get past it because you’re so motivated from the day before.

Me: Do I wanna do this? really though? 

Also me: You better. 

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Stage 3: The Realization.

This one occurs whilst you’re doing the workout you’ve decided for yourself and you realize you’re not as good at working out and being healthy as you thought. You can’t do half the exercises right and the other half, you have to take a break in between doing them.  It’s definitely a very eye-opening time.

The pain you feel after the workout too is another eye opener, like people really subject themselves to this? 

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Stage 4: Procrastination

This happens after some time, maybe a week or some weeks or even just a couple of days. The after-workout pain isn’t as bad anymore and you figure you deserve a break, or something happens and you don’t end up doing the workout for the day. You tell yourself you’ll do it tomorrow, which is often the deadly mistake.

The “tomorrow” comes and you manage to convince yourself that you’re just happy with the way you look and then another tomorrow goes by and another and another, before you know it you’ve stopped the exercises you were doing.

Workout? Who is she? I don’t know her. 

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This is usually where it stops for some (people like me) but then we have the determined ones amongst us who carry on to stage 5.

Stage 5: Success

This is the very last stage when you finally reach the goal you set for yourself and it’s now completely up to you what you want to do next. By this time, you’ve already accustomed yourself to this strange world that is fitness and officially become someone else’s motivation (#goals)

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So those are the 5 stages you’ll experience on your fitness journey!

Let me know if it’s something you relate to and comment if I’ve left out any other stages. Make sure you leave a like to let me know if you enjoyed it and don’t forget to click that follow button on the right to be updated whenever I post.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

How to look “cool”.

Hey boos,

How is your week going? How are you feeling? Pause this reading and let me know in the comments below.

In today’s blog we are going to talk about how to look “cool”. Obviously, everyone has different ideas of what looking cool is. The definition of cool, for the sake of this blog post is how to dress like those Instagram fashion models or bloggers or even youtubers that you see on your timeline everyday without busting your budget or losing your own personal style completely.

My first tip is a very typical tip but also a very important one.

The first step to looking “cool” is feeling it and the only way you can feel cool is if you are confident (or it’s winter and you’re without a jacket…..okay Gedo, bad joke but I’m not sorry). You have to be confident in yourself in order to rock whatever you wear. You can be wearing the nicest outfit in the world but without the confidence, it just won’t look right. Love yourself, be confident (you know the confidence I’m talking about, not the annoying over confidence one that everyone seems to be pushing but I digress) and you’re already 50% of the way there.

 

My second tip is to have statement, one of a kind pieces.

You don’t have to put in a lot of effort or too much money to look good. For example, a statement jacket with a nice white t shirt and jeans could look really good, or a one of a kind bag can transform a simple outfit in seconds. An interesting pair of sunglasses can change an outfit from regular to “Instagram worthy”. You’ll be able to find such pieces in places like thrift stores, yard sales and such. The items don’t even have to big (bags, shoes) they can be little things like scarves, sunglasses even earrings.

 

My third tip is to play with color.

Feel free to be free with color. You should never feel entrapped in your style. If you want to wear red for example but you’re not completely comfortable with that, I would suggest going for darker shades of red and then slowly making your way to the lighter shades or you could have small accessories in that color so earrings, rings, necklaces, maybe even a belt which leads me to my next tip.

 

My fourth tip is to remember that it’s all in the detail.

It is all in the detail. Just small tweaks and the way you accessorize can change the look of your outfit. A belt for example can bring shape to an outfit as well as accessorize it. A nice choker or even a bandana can go a long way.

 

My last tip is, I touched on it briefly in my first tip, and that is to shop at thrift stores. You can find really  amazing, authentic even designer clothes, bags, accessories even shoes at thrift stores for very affordable prices. Some of the things that are sold in there are one of a kind products that are still great quality.

That’s all I have for today, if you liked it because like and comment. Don’r forget to push the follow button on the right to stay updated on when I post!

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Honestly tho: The Internet has been lying to you.

Hey boos,

What’s up? How is your week going?

Mine has been pretty good, we thank God. The month is almost ending, like omg where is this year going? There is literally 5 more days till the month of July goes, and then we’ll be in August and then September and then I’ll be 19 and then we’ll be in 2018? Wow, I’m excited though, 2017 let’s go!

Anyway, I want to talk about something that I realized and since then I seem to see it everywhere and that’s this lowkey hatred for everything that the internet is hyping. Everything that we think is great, in reality kinda sucks. Let me show you.

Let’s take being petty for example, according to the internet; Petty is this “trendy” term and anyone who is being petty is immediately funny or cool or even goals. Girls, especially will be the first to call themselves petty, you’ll find “petty queens” and etc.

Shows of pettiness go viral instantly. When people are being “petty”, they are congratulated like as if they are doing something good but according to dictionary.com petty is defined as “mean and ungenerous in small or trifling issues”, Urban dictionary’s definition of petty isn’t nice either; it’s defined as “making things, events, or actions normal people dismiss as trivial or insignificant into excuses to be upset, uncooperative, childish, or stubborn”. Imagine? All this time that your friends have been calling you petty queen they’ve been insulting you.

I’m not trying to ruin anyone’s fun or anything (Lol I don’t care) but what happened to forgiveness? Why are people so afraid to forgive now? People are so afraid of being humans now because they feel like as if doing anything kind or nice or normal will be regarded as soft or look as though they are being walked over. Everyone wants to be “strong” but it’s like they’ve forgotten what being strong actually means.

Now everyone is seeking revenge, have we forgotten that it’s not our place to punish? Don’t you know that it takes a great person, a strong person to forgive?

Let’s take another term, Finesse, this is definitely girls’ favorite one.

According to the internet, Finessing is what strong, sexy, smart, clever people do to get what they want.  Sounds cool doesn’t it? Now let’s see what google dictionary (idk that dictionary that comes up when you google a definition) has to say about it, Finesse is “great subtlety and tact in handling or manipulating people or difficult situations”. Whilst Urban dictionary defines it as “persuading someone out of their belongings, or to do you a favor”. Sis, I’m sorry but if you’re a finesser then you’re just a glorified thief and dream seller. I don’t completely have an issue with finessing, like for example convincing your parents to get you pizza (without any corruption), I am completely for that but my problem with finesse is why it’s become viral; which is because people literally steal and are then proud of themselves. People who go on dates with people they have 0 interest in and want nothing to do with just to get a free meal (You will now be shouting MenareScum) or keeping a person around because you know they’ll splash money on you? (You will now be saying Women are the downfall of man)

Please wake up, don’t celebrate that kind of finessing.

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the #MenareScum (okay I’m raising my hands up, I say this sometimes but as a joke I’m going to try and stop, I’m sorry) I’m just so over that hashtag, men are not scum bruh. Sorry but I literally need to ask, is your father scum? I didn’t think so.

I agree, there are some really, really, really, really whack minded men out there but that doesn’t mean we should categorize all men as scum. Let’s not be blinded, the hashtag just gives us a blanket where we can all just lie under and hate guys. I know a lot of people say, no that’s not true, we’re just talking about the ones that actually but let’s think about it for a second.

You’re scrolling on twitter or Instagram, maybe even Facebook, you’ll see something about MenareScum once, or someone will say it, maybe you even start saying you continue to see and say such everyday or almost everyday.  It’s all fun and games till you repeat it so many times that you actually start believing it and one day wake up and realize you have an in depth hate for men and you don’t know how it started, then you’re in my office talking to me about how your relationships just aren’t working out for you and you don’t trust men and you think you might be lesbian which just isn’t the case.

See how easy it is to be misled? 

Not all men are scum okay? I’m tired. 

Another example of this repetition situation is the idea that women are the downfall of man, how many times have you watched a movie were the woman is the distraction or used as a distraction? Ever since Eve handed Adam that apple at the beginning, we just haven’t heard the end of it, giving men an excuse not to have real and good relationships. Do you know how many girls are out there in the “talking” stage because the guy believes she will be a distraction?

Do you want your children to grow up hating men? 

Another one, is the whole “Me and my 8 boyfriends” thing that just seems to be annoyingly everywhere (again, may or may not have joked about this sometimes, but that was before I deeped all of this okay? I’ve stopped, I am a changed woman). So cheating is the new rave isn’t it? And guys, what’s this cheating thing that my ear just can’t stop hearing? It’s like all I’m hearing is how someone cheated on another person.

What is so funny about not being able to commit? Why are we condoning such behavior? 

Why have we started treating things that are wrong as trivial matters? Have we just all lost our moral compasses?

So basically what does this all come down to?

Can we kill the year of the savage and change it into something that is actually cool? Like the year of self betterment?

Okay, well I hope you all have a great day/night and do something nice for someone. Let’s not be shouting spread love but be sharing things that undertone hate mmkay?

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

 

 

Bringing girly back

Hey boos,

I hope your week has been going really well, tomorrow is Friday, thank God it’s Friday!

Yesterday, my cousin and I did something that I have been needing to do for a while now, we had a mini photoshoot and in the pictures, I wore one of my absolute favourite dresses.

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Funny thing is I haven’t actually worn the dress anywhere, I have been waiting for the perfect event to showcase the dress.

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The dress is a perfect contrast (is that even correct?) I say this because the way the dress flows, as well as the cream colour and the bell sleeves give the girliness but then the black lace detailing brings the attitude. I think if I was a dress, I might be this one.

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The combination of edge-y and girly together is kind of a reminder that you don’t have to stick to a stereotype, you don’t have to stick to a “type”, you can mix and match, you can change, difference is good.

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I hope you enjoyed this, and this beautiful dress.

Lots of love,

Gedo xx