The year of me.

“And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force. Matthew 11:12 [KJV]

Hey boos,

Can you believe it? The year is coming to an end. The grand finale. I am so ready for 2018, you guys don’t know.  It’s especially refreshing and satisfying that the first day of a new year is on a Monday.

I just want to take a moment to thank God that I’m here and you’re here and we get to do this together, so much has happened this year and we really need to understand that the fact that we are here is no mere coincidence, so let’s thank God together and prepare to take this year by its horns.

I just want to explain the bible verse I put on the top real quick, I’m going to simplify it. To me, it means that whatever you want in this life, you can’t just sit down and expect it. You have to go out and get it aggressively because it’s not just you that want it, many, many other people want it as well. You need to get up and fight for what you deserve. When it says violence, it doesn’t mean literal violence.  It is whatever you need to fight to get what you want whether it be self-doubt, lack of self-control, procrastination, other people doubting you.

This post is actually a call to action to all my people out there who have goals that they’ve been setting for themselves since the age they could write them, for those who have wanted to do things every year but overthink it or procrastinate, for those ones that claim every year as their year but never doing anything about it.

It’s time for us to take what is ours this year. By force.

I used to be the queen of procrastination but I’ve decided it’s time to move on, the time for procrastination came and now needs to leave, I have things to do.

Nothing good comes easy, and it’s time for us to do the difficult things that we’ve been trying to avoid or escape for a long time. It’s time for us to make moves, serious moves. It’s time for us to finally check off our lists and feel pride at the end of the year instead the “comforting” feeling of “this year is just going to be the same.”

It’s time to stop being pessimistic with the easy statement that “Resolutions don’t work”. Stop blaming resolutions, resolutions have nothing to do with this, the only reason why resolutions don’t work is because you get too lazy to complete them. End of. Besides this isn’t a new years resolution anymore, this is a must do. This is no longer a goal, this is a necessity.

We can no longer sit on our phones and retweet, screenshot and share other people’s successes, it’s time to make our own.

This is the year of us.

For those that don’t think we can do it, it’s time for us to prove them wrong and prove ourselves right. We deserve better.

Make a list of goals you want to achieve this year (watch as I’m saying THIS year because for us, 2018 starts now) plan out how you want to achieve them, then stop planning and actually do it. Whenever you want to quit, shut up, re-read this post and keep going.

This is the year of not quitting.

People only ever see the glam but never the gruel. We’re going to gruel so we can get the glam. Nothing, nothing feels better than working hard and getting the results you want but how are you going to get those results if you give up before you can really see them?

This is the year of growth.

You want to quit alcohol? This is the year of quitting alcohol, you want to eat healthier? This is the year of healthy eating. You want to be more social? This is the year of social. You want to achieve great things? This is the year of achieving great things.

This is the year of you.

Have a blessed year,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Get to know me tag: 2017 version

Hey boos,
How are you? How is it going? Exam season is upon us and you know what that means..
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Dw, if God got us then we gon’ be alright. 
I wanted to throw it back to 2012,  the year of morning routines, night routines and sweet, sweet tags.
Today I’m gonna do the get to know me tag, I did it 2 years ago but I change every minute so I decided to do another one. I did 30 questions 2 years ago so this year I am going to do 60!
Sit back, relax and prepare to learn more about me than you probably care for.
What is your full name?
Ojoagedo Zainab Yamusa

Are you named after anyone?

Not that I know of

What does your name mean?

Ojoagedo means God judges not from your outward appearance but by what is inside your heart.

Where are you from?

Kogi state, Nigeria.

Where do you live?

Scotland.

Where were you born?

Zaria, Nigeria.

Which of your parents are you closest to?

Both, it just usually depends on who is location-ally closest to me, perhaps my mom but my dad and I get along very well.

Which of your parents are you more like?

My dad, I think,

What is your favorite drink?

At this very moment, a virgin shirley temple, or a diet pepsi.

What is your favorite food?

At this very moment, Nandos chicken thighs with peri salted chips, perri-tamer sauce and garlic bread.

What is your favorite holiday destination?

Spain.

What is your favorite childhood memory?

Holidays with the fam.

What is your favorite way to pass time?

Editing or watching youtube videos.

What is your favorite snack?

Sweet popcorn and wafers.

What is your favorite sport?

Lol. Does dance count as a sport?

What is your biggest regret?

My rebellious stage.

Are you a fan of any sports team?

HAH funny.

Are you a dog person or cat person?

floofers (dogs)

Are you scared of heights?

Not really.

At what age did you go on your first date?

Never been on one (oops..)

What is an ideal first date for you?

As long as I like the person and it’s thoughtful then any date is an ideal first date.

What is at the top of your bucket list?

Success.

What is something you are gifted at?

Probably writing.

What is something you look for in a partner?

Jesus’s nod of approval.

What is something you wish you were gifted at doing?

Painting.

What is the one item you can’t leave home without?

Clothes.

What is the best compliment you have ever received?

“You’re my favourite person.”

What is the first book you remember reading?

those ladybird books with my mom. (Thanks mom)

What is the first movie you remember seeing?

I don’t even know

What is the last book you read?

I don’t remember what it’s called, I didn’t get to finish it. In my defense, the book was in a library in Nigeria and I’m no longer there.

Do you like pets?

oh do I??????? (love ’em)

Do you have any pets?

No :(, I want a pig and a puppy.

What is the name of your first pet?

Her name was Lady, from Lady and the tramp.

What is your best physical feature?

Smile.

What is your biggest accomplishment?

Getting through this past year.

What is your eye color?

Brown.

What is your favorite color?

Pink.

What is your favorite fairytale?

Hercules or Pocahontas.

What is your favorite ice-cream flavor?

Salted Caramel.

What is your favorite music genre?

I don’t really know, it depends on the time you catch me but right now probably mainstream pop lol.

What is your favorite nickname?

Princess.

What is your favorite quote?

“And now these three remain, faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love” (1 corinthians 13:13 NIV)

What is your favorite type of clothing?

Culottes.

What is your most commonly used swear word?

I don’t swear.

What is your star sign?

Sagittarius but I dont believe in horoscopes and such.

Do you have a best friend, if so, then who?

Not a best friend, a soul sister, her name is Ehi.

Do you have a tattoo?

YeaA..a tattoo of Jesus’s love in my heart (LOOOooLLlllL) No I don’t have a tattoo.

Do you have any allergies?

No.

Do you have any birthmarks? If so, where?

Yea, on my arm, forehead, below my eye, I think there’s one next to my lip as well.

Do you hold any convictions that you would be willing to die for?

None that I say confidently.

Do you prefer kissing or cuddling?

Cuddling.

What piece of technology can you not live without?

Phone.

What was the first concert you ever attended?

I haven’t, but I had always hoped it’d be one direction.

What was your favorite subject in High School?

History.

What was your first job?

Paper girl, I hated it.

What was your least favorite subject in High School?

Chemistry.

What is the furthest you’ve ever been from home?

eh, probably America.

What is your biggest fear?

All the people I love dying.

When did you suffer your first heartbreak?

2016

When was the first time you were on a plane?

When I was a wee babe.

 

I hope you enjoyed getting to know more about me, comment down below what your favourite memory is and don’t forget to hit that follow button on the right to be updated when I post. Like and comment and share with your friends!

Have a blessed weekend,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

Questions gotten from https://www.tagquestions.net/get-to-know-me-tag/

4 struggles of a shopaholics

Hey boos,

I hope your Monday is going better than you expected and if it’s not, I hope this blog post cheers you up!

Here are 4 struggles of a shopaholic and of-course, I can’t relate

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Let’s begin!

  1. Lists don’t work.

So regular people usually have an idea of what they are going to get before going into a store or they make a list of things that they need before they go in, this doesn’t work for a shopaholic. A shopaholic might make a list but as soon as they get into the store, everything they had intended to buy will seem unimportant and they will walk out with goods completely different from what they had planned initially.

I can always buy a white shirt later, this is on sale and I have been wanting it since forever. 

I can’t just leave it here, it was made for me!

2. Window shopping doesn’t work either.

A shopaholic knows that window shopping doesn’t work so if they want to save money, they just don’t go out (literally ME). Window shopping just doesn’t happen, it’s like torture. A shopaholic can only window shop if they’re going somewhere where they absolutely cannot afford and even that would probably be one of the hardest and most painful feeling. If a shopaholic goes out to just look around not planning on getting anything, they will most likely get something.

Woah, this is so cute.

I’ve been looking at this for forever!

I don’t know if I’ll see it again..

NEED!

It’s on sale though….

3.  “Who took my money?”

A shopaholic NEVER knows where their money has gone. I’m not a shopaholic

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However I do find myself often wondering if there’s a little gnome that comes into my room every night to take my money only to realize that that gnome has taken the form of a new top I definitely didn’t need and food that I don’t even remember buying.

4. You can never find anything. 

I know I put it here or..maybe I didn’t..

“Have you seen my dark purple shirt? with the big sleeves?” 

I could have sworn it was here yesterday. 

Where.Is.It. 

You can never find anything because you have too much stuff and when you ask someone if they’ve seen what you’re looking for they never miss the opportunity to remind you that you have way too much stuff.

But at the end of the day, it’s not your fault you like good things.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post, make sure to tap that follow button on the right to know where I am going and if you really want to come, make sure you to follow me on my social media as well!

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Disclaimer: I am not condoning aimless spending of money. Budgeting and money management are very important skills. Learn them. 

 

5 stages you’ve probably experienced on your fitness journey.

Hey boos,

How are you guys doing? How’s your week and your weekend? I didn’t  post on Wednesday and Friday because I just didn’t know what to post (good blogger) but I’ve got some ideas for this week so it’s lit, let’s go!

Today following my #humourMonday trend, I’m going to do the 5 stages of your fitness journey. I am not sure if I am the only that goes through this cycle but I figured I’d write a blog post about it so now you know what I go through when I decide to be “healthy”.

Stage 1: The Motivation.

So this stage is usually a day of two before you’re meant to start. You usually get motivated probably by seeing someone look really good on Instagram and you get really into it, you look up exercises to do and then you even try to set up a time to work out. You watch a ton of videos about people who have lost weight in months and their story including what they did and tips they have.

I’m so hyped to start and I tell myself “I can do it!” I even set myself a time limit so that it’s more doable, so I’ll be like “Yeah! I am going to do this for one month!” 

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Stage 2: The Uncertainty. 

This is usually a couple of minutes before your workout, this occurs before you put your gym gear on. You’re in a little bit of doubt Do I really want to do this? Can I really do this? Do I have to do this? 

Usually though, you get past it because you’re so motivated from the day before.

Me: Do I wanna do this? really though? 

Also me: You better. 

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Stage 3: The Realization.

This one occurs whilst you’re doing the workout you’ve decided for yourself and you realize you’re not as good at working out and being healthy as you thought. You can’t do half the exercises right and the other half, you have to take a break in between doing them.  It’s definitely a very eye-opening time.

The pain you feel after the workout too is another eye opener, like people really subject themselves to this? 

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Stage 4: Procrastination

This happens after some time, maybe a week or some weeks or even just a couple of days. The after-workout pain isn’t as bad anymore and you figure you deserve a break, or something happens and you don’t end up doing the workout for the day. You tell yourself you’ll do it tomorrow, which is often the deadly mistake.

The “tomorrow” comes and you manage to convince yourself that you’re just happy with the way you look and then another tomorrow goes by and another and another, before you know it you’ve stopped the exercises you were doing.

Workout? Who is she? I don’t know her. 

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This is usually where it stops for some (people like me) but then we have the determined ones amongst us who carry on to stage 5.

Stage 5: Success

This is the very last stage when you finally reach the goal you set for yourself and it’s now completely up to you what you want to do next. By this time, you’ve already accustomed yourself to this strange world that is fitness and officially become someone else’s motivation (#goals)

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So those are the 5 stages you’ll experience on your fitness journey!

Let me know if it’s something you relate to and comment if I’ve left out any other stages. Make sure you leave a like to let me know if you enjoyed it and don’t forget to click that follow button on the right to be updated whenever I post.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

4 Blogger “Struggles”.

Hey boos,

How are you doing? How are you feeling? Pause this reading and let me know in the comments below.

So today we’re going to talk about the struggles of being a blogger. Everyone thinks that being at this point of perfection is easy (lol who am I kidding) so here are 4 “struggles” of being a blogger.

1.“Can you please help me take picture?”

I’m pretty sure my family and friends are annoyed at me at this point because every time I go out and I’m dressed nicely I’m always asking for help with my pictures. It’s not even like as if it’s going to be just one picture, there’s got to be a lot of options with different poses and different background.

A wise person once said, “out of every 50 pictures you take, one must be insta worthy.” (Then again, that could just be me)

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2. Not enough artistic pictures. 

I don’t think anyone understands how difficult it is to continuously churn out artistic looking pictures for the Instagram feed. You can only take so much pictures of flowers and skies before your Instagram feed starts looking like a botanical science class.

It got to a point where my mom had to send me pictures that she took because I just didn’t have artistic pictures (#GEDOEXPOSED, follow me on instagram if you haven’t datgedogirl😉)

 

3. Blog ideas.

The most annoying thing is when I’m feeling really motivated and I write a list of blog ideas that I want to do and then when it’s time for me to sit down and write them, I find that I no longer have any interest in the ideas.

Leaving me with no blog post and having to come up with a fresh new idea (This happens almost all the time)

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4. Distractions.

There are just too many distractions (most of them self made but who’s asking?) I sit down to write a blog post and next thing I know I’m watching a video or eating or checking my emails or mindlessly scrolling down Instagram.

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Alright so those are 4 blogger struggles that I face pretty often, let me know if you can relate to any of these or if you want to see more of these types of posts on my blog. Your comments, likes and follows are always really appreciated!

I haven’t done this type of post in a while so I thought why not bring it back, nothing like some memes and gifs to brighten up someone’s day.

Again, let me know if you enjoyed in the comments below. Make sure to press that follow button on the right to be updated whenever I post, thank you for your support.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Your Melting Makeup days are over!

Hey boos,

Hope your week is going super well? Mine has been pretty chill, not much happening, we thank God though.

So people have been asking me what makeup products I use because my makeup stays all day, it does not melt and I do not have to re-apply powder or anything. A disclaimer though is that I have good skin, my skin is neither oily nor dry so that’s also a factor that contributes to why my makeup does not melt.

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When I first came to Nigeria, I was really worried about what I would do in terms of makeup because if there is one thing that I am particular about, it’s the foundation I use on my face because I just feel like it’s going all over my face and I don’t want to put something that’ll mess up my skin.

My mom recommended Zaron products and I haven’t regretted it since.

Disclaimer: Please keep in mind that I am not a beauty guru, I am not a makeup expert, in fact the only reason I know the makeup terms I know is because I watch makeup tutorials and I don’t watch tutorials to learn how to do makeup, I just watch them because I think they are entertaining. Another disclaimer is, I’m doing this post so that my girls in Nigeria know what makeup products to use, the points raised in this post are quite generic and anybody who watches makeup tutorials will know them.

Now that that’s dealt with, on with the post.

So according to the website, Zaron cosmetics provides an assortment of cosmetic products carefully formulated to suit diverse women of colour living under different enviromental conditions (to learn more about Zaron)

1.Use a matte foundation.

  • I use the Zaron healthy glow liquid foundation with spf 30, it is a matte foundation and it’s great that it has sunscreen in it but I still apply sunscreen on my face before I apply my makeup. The foundation has pretty good coverage and it does actually kind of give you that glow it promises on the packet.  My problem with it is that it quickly gets oxidised, so something that was my shade in the store wasn’t my shade anymore after about a week.

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it might look like a small tube but the good thing about it is you really do not need much, I’ve been using that small tube for about a month or two and I’ve only used it half way (but then again we should probably keep in mind that I do not wear makeup frequently)

2.  Get a really good face powder 

  • For powder I use the Zaron maxi blend compact powder, and I love this stuff because it really sets and holds whatever makeup I put on so nothing melts, throughout the day. When I used to work at a store, we were required to stay outside to call in customers, I could put my makeup on from 2 pm till 9 pm and my makeup stayed nicely on my face without melting away. I used to use the Zaron mattifying powder before I started using this one and they both do the job. My only problem with this though is that it does make your makeup look a bit flat, you obviously lose the glow that the foundation gives you.

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3.  Use matte lipsticks 

  • If you’re for some reason afraid that your lipstick will just slide off during the day then I highly recommend matte lipsticks, but make sure you use moisturize your lips (lip balm or whatever it is that you use) before putting it on. Your worries are over!

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Hope you enjoyed this post,

Comment your all time favourite, go to makeup product. Tune in Friday, 4 pm for another blog post!

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

A trip down Peppercorn Avenue

Hey boos,

How is your week going? Mine has been really chill, so basically I have decided that I want to be serious again (with my blogging) kinda like I was last year and since I am not really doing anything,  I decided to bring back the blogging schedule. I will be posting three times a week now, Monday, Wednesdays and Sundays at 4 pm GMT and then “Sis say what” will be on Saturdays, only on Saturdays.

Just for clarification, I will be posting Monday, Wednesdays and Sundays and then on Saturdays “Sis say what” will be posted (that is if I have any to post)

Anyway back to the post at hand, so I know it is difficult finding a good place to eat or chill especially in Lagos where there are too many places to eat (and chill) and it can be so difficult to choose so as the helper of the people, I am making a guide to help you make better choices. Let us keep in mind that I literally know nothing about cuisine, I am not a food critic, I just like food and will try anything once (when it comes to food) so let’s just see how it goes.

Name: Peppercorn Avenue

Address: 6A Otunba Adedoyin Ogungbe Crescent, Lekki Phase 1, Lagos

Price range per plate: 2500 – 3000 Naira

I went to Peppercorn Avenue, two weeks ago I think and I actually had a really amazing time. Their parking wasn’t expansive, only enough space for about 10 cars.

The outward appearance of the place is not much to write home about, in fact I was a bit disappointed when I first laid my eyes on it. Just a big grey building with the words “Peppercorn” written on it, doesn’t sound very aesthetically pleasing does it? but the moment the nice security man opens the door for you, you begin to warm up the place.

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I didn’t like the interior at first but it began to grow on me, plus it has these lush booth chairs that are white and perfect for taking pictures.

The service was really great, the waiters were really nice and attentive and the one that attended to us knew how to pronounce the thai names which I thought was really impressive.

Oh my gosh I am terrible, I forgot to say, Peppercorn Avenue is a thai and indian food restaurant. It’s a weird combination but they make sure to specify which is thai and which is indian (the menu is colour coded so you don’t make any mistakes) 

My dad and I had a lot of food which I don’t remember the names of ( because I am terrible and didn’t write them down)

The culinary experience began (oohh fancy) with some complimentary lemongrass tea and these cracker things, that you dip in the sauce. The cracker things are kind of tasteless but they’re still somehow good without the dips. The green one tastes minty (which I didn’t like), the white one was sweet and so was the brown one but the brown was like a sticky kind of sweet, again I literally don’t know what they were made of, but they were good, that is, if you like sweet things. 19875757_757558904417228_1371817836_o

As for the Lemongrass, I think I will stick with my green tea (which I don’t even like but for the sake of health). It looked really pretty though, it had the color of prosecco so it was a perfect addition for a boujie styled picture.

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My dad and I ordered spring rolls as appetizers, he had vegetable and I had chicken, they were literally the biggest spring rolls I had ever seen. I don’t know about you but I’m used to thin crunchy spring rolls but these ones had a crunchy outer layer but the inside was soft (ah-may-zing), probably the best spring rolls I have ever tasted. But then it makes me wonder, are spring rolls supposed to be like this because I have never had spring rolls like those, but then again my experience with spring rolls are the ones that come from a box. 

For main course I had thai green curry with chicken and prawn noodles. 

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Not only was my food drop dead gorgeous, it also tasted drop dead gorgeous. So I had eaten the curry at another thai place called Thaikhun (not in Nigeria) and the curry was spicier there and thicker so that was a little bit disappointing (it says on the menu that it’s going to be spicy but it just isn’t), the noodles were really good too, definitely not indomie noodles.

We also had garlic naan bread which I didn’t take a picture of but the naan bread was really good too, it was warm, they had an interesting twist on the naan bread but it still tasted really nice.

My dad had fish that he didn’t like because he didn’t like the sauce.

For drinks I had a mocktail called cool cat, it was really sweet (again) I feel like everything I ate was really sweet and really good and I regret nothing.

We didn’t get any dessert but I was completely stuffed so I didnt mind (too much)

I would give the place a 4.5/5 all round, we were literally the only ones there so I don’t know how service is during busy hours.

Would I go back again? Yes, so I can try out their indian menu.

Let me know your favourite restaurant in the comments below.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

5 times your Nigerian parents made you want to move to the other side of the world.

Hey boos,

How was your weekend? How was your day?

You made it though, today is Wednesday and tomorrow is Thursday, already through the week!

Today I am doing a collaboration with Nigeria’s very own DammyDays, she’s doing another  video on Nigerian parents, definitely go and watch, like and comment and definitely don’t forget to subscribe. She’s amazing, she’s stunning, her hair is amazing, her makeup is amazing, there’s something for everyone so go and subscribe (Dammydays)

So moving on, I love Nigerian parents, they are so funny and so extra and I would not want any other type of parent raising me, but like all parents they can be a bit too much, Nigerian parents are a special breed of their own. Here are 5 things that they do that will make you tear your hair out.

  1. They somehow always call you to do something when you’re already preoccupied 

                                                                         How? who? Why? 

I have never felt the emotions the way I do when this happens, I don’t even know how to start crying. It’s worse when you’ve just started doing and you’re deeply engrossed in what you’re doing and then they call on you, it’s just so painful.

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2. When you confide in them and they use that same thing against you. 

Oh, my chwest. 

This used to hurt me on a deep level. How am I going to tell you something as a friend, we have fun and laugh about it and then because things have turned a little bit sour, you’re throwing it back in my face again? But why?
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3. When you forget to cover the pot and she draws up this story about how you just want to disobey her and don’t respect her

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Nigerian parents have the quickest brains because it is only someone with the quickest brain that can come up with that kind of story in such a short amount of time, I mean really, how do they do it.
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4. When they don’t understand that sometimes you don’t want to hang out at home.

                                                                        “Must you go out”

OKAY but are there chicken nuggets, burgers, a wide selection of clothes at my finger tips at home?

Sometimes Nigerian parents just don’t understand that there is more to life than staying at home. Man is just trying to hang out with friends outside the walls that is my home.

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5. When they won’t let go of the one wrong you did. 

                                                                     Has it not do-d? 

Okay so you broke the plate, your mom scolds you, it’s fine because it is your fault, instead of paying attention, you were on your phone but then 3 hours later she’s still lecturing you. Are you not tired?

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Again, I love Nigerian parents with all my heart and soul and I love my parents with everything in me. I hope you enjoyed this post, like, comment and follow me.

Have a blessed day,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Sis, say what??: “puppy love” by Ehi Ebodaghe

Hey boos, 

This is Gedo and I am starting this new segment called Sis, say what?? Where great women I know come and they get an opportunity to share their opinions on whatever they want, every Saturday, it’s finna be lit. Now let’s sit back and listen to my sis tell you what’s up. 

 

Yo kids, surprise surprise, it’s not Gedo, it’s Ehi. Now before you start panicking, no she’s not been kidnapped and no she hasn’t fallen off the face of the earth. We just changing things up a lil,
Soooooo I wanna talk about young people in relationships. Just real quick. And when I say young people I don’t mean like 13 and 14 year olds because that’s not a discussion I’m willing to have…anYWAYS. I mean people within my age bracket, so like 18-25.

This whole ting hit me the other day when I was talking to my mans when he got back from work. He sounded really triggered when he started talking about his day so I asked him what was up. Since he’s the youngest at his workplace, all man’s coworkers are like 23, 24 while he’s 19. Apparently they had been talking about relationships and he was like ‘oh yeah guys, BTW I have a girlfriend now’, and they all went ‘awwww that’s so cute too bad it’s not gonna last’. They asked if I had male friends to which Ja’shon responded ‘of course’. They then actually went on to tell him that he should be careful about letting me chill with my male friends because I would probably end up cheating on him. Their argument went along the lines of ‘girls our age aren’t ready to settle down, they’re not built for monogamous relationships. It’s just not gonna work. They’ll always end up cheating because being faithful is too difficult.’ Mans was actually confounded 😂 like he was genuinely trying to figure out whether or not they were joking.
Naturally, when he told me I was shook, shooked, shooketh, and shookington. Here are these people that don’t even know me and they’re already passing judgment on my character based on what? My age and my status? Nahhhh fam. Thank God mans is an actual decent human being and was there to defend my honour haha
There are two things that irritate me most about this situation. The first one kinda piggy backs on Gedo’s last post: Women against Women (go read it if you haven’t, it’s 👌). If it was even a group of broken-hearted, single dudes spouting this rubbish, I could maybe kind of sort of understand their mindset (not to excuse the nonsense that some boys say ehn, just saying that some boys are just bitter af once they get their hearts broken). But there were WOMEN there IN MY AGE BRACKET telling him the same thing?????? Like where is the support for ya girl? Maybe it was the peer pressure from the guys or maybe they actually held those opinions. Either way, I’m so h’annoyed, and not just for myself.

By implying that all women of our age are unfaithful, that’s generalizing their own characters and morals too, innit? I’m not asking you to vouch for my character, you don’t know me like dat. But if you’re not going to give me the benefit of the doubt, don’t assume that I’m a cheater either, feel me? Don’t paint me as some insatiable creature that can’t possibly survive without more than one man. Just for the record, I was single for a hot minute and thriving, thank you very much.
The second thing is that they just assumed that because we’re youngins in a relationship, it wasn’t going to last. Wawuu the cynicism is real. I feel like hope in our generation has hella deteriorated recently, and it’s a wee bit demoralizing. It makes you feel like ‘if nobody believes in you, why even bother to put in effort?’ But I feel like this attitude actually provides us with a wonderful opportunity. An opportunity to fight back and prove all these haters wrong 😌 Obvs don’t actually physically or verbally fight them for disagreeing with you, I dont endorse that lol. But if you fight back by making your relationship work and work well, isn’t that the best way to prove them wrong?

[Disclaimer: if you’re in a relationship just because people said you couldn’t make one work, please circumcise your thoughts and replenish your goals]
Sha, that’s all I have for today. Hope you guys enjoyed my wee takeover. Till next time 😋

Have a blessed day, stay hopeful x
-Ehi

A single girls guide to a Happy Valentine’s day

Hey boos,

So as we all know valentines day just passed

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It’s a time for showing love to loved ones but also a time to shove the fact that us single girls are, well single. It’s not easy, I get it but I’m here for you and here are some tips to help you get through the Valentines period.

 

1.Do NOT listen to your sad playlist on repeat whilst eating ice cream and watching chic-flicks

Sure you’ll see a lot of tweets and posts and even blogs condoning such behavior but honey we both know it’s only for retweets, you’re not actually supposed to spend the entire day feeling miserable.

2. GO out by yourself

People think going out by yourself is such a sad and depressing thing to do on Valentines day but honestly there is nothing more liberating than going out and doing something by yourself. And yea you’ll definitely see couples and romantic things but it is a little bit comforting watching cute couples, it reminds you there is still love in the world.

3. Have a Galentines day

Go out and have dinner with your friends! It can be as easy as asking everyone to bring a meal and having dinner together and then finishing the night with a movie marathons! Netflix binging is always best in threes!

4. Glam up

Dress up, do your makeup, anything that will make you feel like a boss-lady, even if it means walking around the house in your heels.

5. Pray

Show love to Jesus, spend time with him, nobody loves you more than him after all.

6 Call your family 

Spend time with your family, call them up, remind them you love them. The valentines period is all about love but that doesn’t restrict it to your significant other, it can and should be spread out to your family and people in need and just random people.

7. Treat yo’self

By treat yourself I dont mean go out and get yourself hopelessly drunk or having a one-night stand or anything close to that, when I say treat yourself I mean do something that you will love and will pretty much love you back. Go get some ice cream (not out of self-pity see point 1) , watch movies, have a lovely breakfast, take care of yourself, love yourself.

 

People like to say “ohhh Valentines day should be everyday, not just one day”

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and I agree, showing love should be done everyday but don’t be a Valentine’s day Grinch, have fun, show love, get it girl.

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Lots of love,

Have a blessed week,

Gedo xx