Gospel girltalk…or guy: Anxiety

Hey boos,

How are you? I’m supposed to be completing my business notes right now but instead, I’m by the window in the library writing this #iluvuni.

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Anyhow, I feel like I haven’t done a GGTG segment in a while but that’s because, just like you, I’m still on this walk with God and I still don’t really know what I’m doing (lol). Sometimes I feel like I know some stuff and sometimes, I feel like I know nothing and these days I’ve been feeling like I know nothing. I’m not perfect and neither is my relationship with God, which is what brings us into our topic for today.

I feel like a lot of people see Christians as beings that are incapable of feeling anything that is not synonymous with good (I wish it were true, I really do) but fortunately or unfortunately, that is not the case. They see Christians as these people that don’t face disappointment or confusion or even depression and anxiety, all we do is quote bible verses (please, I wish I could quote bible verses whenever I wanted toand attack and judge anyone else who is not Christian (false yet again, we’re actually nice people pls

If you’re reading this and going through something, I don’t  expect you to read this and be healed or feel better, I just want to assure you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can’t see it yet.

Anxiety according to Google dictionary is defined as a feeling of worry, nervousness or unease about something with an uncertain outcome, another definition is a nervous disorder marked by excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks. GAD, according to NHS, Generalised Anxiety Disorder is a common condition that is estimated to affect up to 5% of the UK population which doesn’t sound like a lot until you realize that GAD is only one type of anxiety disorder.

If anxiety or anything at all is physically stopping you from living your life, physically stopping you from performing tasks and LIVING please, please, please get help, it does not make you weak, it does not make you a bad christian, please get the help you need. 

What does the bible say about it? 

God loves us. Say it with me. 

One.

Two.

Three.

God. Loves. Me.

God loves us, and the last thing he wants to see us is in pain, the last thing he wants to see us do is suffer and go through rough times and be anxious and depressed, and honestly his heart breaks for us when he sees us sad, just like your heart breaks when you see your mother or father or siblings or someone really close to you depressed.

1 Peter 5: 6 says “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” and then in Matthew 11:28, it states “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest”. He understands that we all go through these rough times and he does not blame you for that, he genuinely just wants to take all the hurt away.

The problem is sometimes we’re so deep in our sorrow, like even when we try to push our head up against the water, the devil pushes our head right back into it again (which is why, when you first feel yourself going down that hole, you get out of it because the more you sink, the more you’re stuck)

In Matthew 6:26, the bible states “Look at the birds of the air, they do not sew or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” and it’s so encouraging because it reassures that everything is going to be alright eventually because if God takes care of the birds and the wild flowers, things that can be considered insignificant, he definitely has our back, I mean, this is the same God that sent his son, Jesus to die for you, he’s got this, this message is so important that it’s in the bible twice, there is an identical passage to this one in Luke 12: 24. In fact, Romans 8:38 to 39 even says “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels or demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our lord”. Not even your anxiety or your depression can separate you from God’s love, no matter what it tries to tell you, whether it be that he’s not listening, or that he doesn’t love you or that you’re not a good christian or that you’re not doing enough, he still loves you.

What do I do then?

  1. Go to church

I know it sounds like such a typical thing to say but I am serious. Going to church when you feel anxious is such a great thing, being in the house of God brings about some sort of comfort and there you can just lay all your worries and your sorrows and whatever it is that is weighing you down on the cross. My cousin once told me the story of a girl who got broken up with and used going to church as a way to cry without people judging her and it actually ended up helping her relationship with God. Now, I’m not saying you should go to church when you need a good cry but it is one of the first places you should go with a heavy heart because it is the Lord’s house. Where did Hannah go when she had a very heavy heart in the bible? She traveled to church and there she let down the troubles of her heart out so well that the priest there, who had probably seen so many people pray, thought she was drunk and what does the bible say at the end? “Then she went away and ate something and her face was no longer downcast” (1 Samuel 1:18). So go to church,get something to eat and let your face not be downcast. You might not get the answer you’re looking for but you will find comfort, and peace and people who you can confide in and can pray for you.

2. Get someone to pray for/with you.

Whenever I get sad, I find it a little bit difficult to pray and sometimes getting someone to pray for and with you can be so beneficial. Matthew 18: 19-20 says “Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am among them.” and James 5:14-15 says “is any amongst you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven”. It’s okay to ask for support, that’s what we are here for. If you don’t have someone to pray for or with you, feel free to message me anytime.

3. Listen to gospel.

Another typical thing to say but it does help. I recommend songs like “Live!” by Tye Tribbett, “Take me to the King” by Tamela Mann and Kirk Franklin and my favourite right now, “Road trip” by Kirk Franklin, that one always manages to put me in a good mood, also “Rescuer” by Rend Collective (issajam) but yes, I get it, sometimes you’re really just not up for it but putting on those gospel tunes really does help with the calm, comfort and peace.

When I get into times of need, I also try my best to watch preaching about God’s love for me, and faith and hope and just things that are really encouraging. Most importantly, pray, prayer is so important, even though it’s just a couple words, let God know, ask for help. He wants to help you just as much as you want to be helped. And if you feel like he’s not listening, he is, just not in the way that you think he is. Christianity can be difficult sometimes especially in times like this,  because you don’t get the direct answer or the direct feeling of being better, sometimes you have to wait. Ibuprofen and pain reliefs don’t work instantaneously, they take about 30 minutes before they start kicking in.

Listen to me darling, times like these are one of the times where it feels difficult to be a christian but these are also the times where you have to hold on to God the most, I promise you and I don’t promise a lot, but I promise you, hang on to God baby, you are going to make it.

It is going to be okay.

Have a blessed week,

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

Also here’s some more encouraging bible verses for ya..

Proverbs 3: 5-6

Philippians 4:6-7

John 14:27

Colossians 3:15

Psalms 55:22

Proverbs 12:25 (such a cute one this one)

1 Peters 5:6-8 (Important! do read)

Hebrews 13:5-6 (if material things are worrying you/people are scaring you)

Psalm 56:3 (A prayer to God)