I feel like I should stop doing the “Hey boos” thing but I have been doing it for so long now that I don’t really want to, it’s kinda like our thing.
Anyway today I wanted to talk about self-opinion (this isn’t a word is it?), it’s something every person with a blog talks about at some point in their blog life but it’s an important topic that people need to know. People have a low opinion of self these days I feel like, they look at what other people have or what other people have done and immediately see themselves as inferior. Especially since we’re at the age where literally anybody at any age can do and be anything. Of course, it’s great that an 8-year-old, a 12-year-old, a 90-year-old can be successful and run businesses and do great things with their life. However, there’s a dark side to that because it means everyone else who has not accomplished these things at that age or even in their lifetime have a low opinion of themselves and with social media, it is so easy to see the successes of other people and compare yourself.
One can argue that hard work is the answer which is true in a way but how do you know where to exert that hard work because everyone is trying to be successful. Everyone is trying to work hard, everyone is trying to do what they think will help them increase their opinion of themselves whether it be right (achieving goals) or wrong (chugging pints of beer). It’s a difficult conversation to have and it’s hard to give advice about it because I feel like it’s something we all struggle with and have different ways of dealing with. For me, it happens sporadically, one moment I’m alright and the next I am feeling extremely unaccomplished. These days, I wonder what my purpose is, what am I really here for? Where should I be putting my energy? As you all know, I am a Christian and I know God has a purpose for me but what is it? what am I doing here? Sometimes I wonder why I’m the way I am, why I’m so strange and not being able to do ANYTHING normally but sometimes I fear I’m too normal with nothing to set me apart.
I think acceptance is important when it comes self-opinion (I’m highly doubting this word) It’s important to accept yourself the way you are, no you’re not an extrovert and that’s alright, you aren’t good at singing and that’s fine, you’re not charming and extremely awkward and you know what, that’s absolutely okay.
See, because once you learn to accept the way you are, you can look at the things you don’t have and rationalize. You say okay I don’t have this and that’s okay and if it’s something you need or really want, you can make further steps to getting it instead of throwing yourself into panic or rage.
Acceptance isn’t the easy way out, acceptance doesn’t have to mean not pushing yourself or setting goals or trying to be a better you. It can be whatever and however you want it to be. I think it’s really important that as people we never lose sight of how good we really are, that’s why self-deprecating jokes are kind of the worst because you do start believing them at some point. They are so bad for self-opinion (okay this is definitely not a word).
Get healthy yea? Then let yourself be better.
Have a blessed week,
Lots of love,