HELP! How do I make friends

Hey boos,

So I understand that as many people are returning back to school or going to new schools, one of the things a lot of people worry about is making new friends and being social. Now I’m not saying I’m the most social person at the party but I think I’ve come a long way since back in the day and here are some tips that helped me, hopefully they can help you too.

Tip #1: Smile, always smile. 

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Especially if you’re like me where if you’re not smiling you look like you don’t want to be there or you want to kill somebody. I’ve just gotten used to smiling, even when I don’t want to. However the tricky thing about this is, you have to make the smile real (or atleast look real) because if the person you are talking to notices a fake smile, they will immediately think you don’t like them and will not want to continue conversation with you.

Tip #2: ask Questions

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If you don’t know what to say and you can feel the conversation slipping, ask questions. I tend to always go to questions about music or where they used to live and if they liked it there, questions that can keep them talking so they aren’t bored. Make sure you show them you’re listening, nodding your head is always a good way and saying your necessary “mhmnns” and “right” and “wow, I can only imagine”

You can also use questions to start a conversation with someone, even a simple “hey, do you know what time it is?” or “do you know where our next class is?” can lead to a conversation.

Tip #3: Talk about your night before 

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If you don’t want to go down the question route, just say “I’m so tired”, most of the time, the person will reply with “I’m so tired too” and from here you can either ask them what they were doing last night or proceed to tell them what you were doing the night before. If there’s a funny story to tell, by all means tell them!

Tip #4: Laugh at their funny stories

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Some people like to tell little stories to the people they meet, sometimes about something that happened to them or to their pet or even to their siblings. If it’s a funny story, try to laugh! Laughing will make the person feel good about their story which will make them feel more comfortable with you. However just like with the smiling, the laugh must be real or seem real otherwise the person you are talking to will notice and will not want to continue the conversation

Tip #5: Count to 3 and then Go

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This is a great tip especially if you feel like you don’t have the self confidence to just go up to people. What I tend to do is count to 3 and then blank out my mind and go for it. Immediately  I count “3”, I do it so that my mind has no time to give me reasons not to do it and 9 times out of 10, it works out and I have really good conversations with people. So just count to 3 and the moment you hit 3, just go, don’t think about it, just go.

Of-course you must remember that sometimes it wont work out but that does not mean you should spend the rest of the day thinking about it, instead just congratulate yourself for being confident enough to initiate conversation and move on to the next person. The more you practice approaching new people and talking to new people, the more confident you find yourself being and your social skills will improve.

Hopefully you found these tips helpful and will use them the next time you find yourself around new people. When was the last time you approached someone new? How did it go? Let me know in the comments below.

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

 

 

Clothing pieces you didn’t know you needed

Hey boos,

I hope your week has been magnificent, today I’m going to be on about something truly exciting! Clothes!

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Okay ladies, calm down, get it together. So clothing, I know there are many people out there who are like me, they want to look good and put together but they don’t have the time or are too lazy. Today, I tell you how you may eat your cake and have it. Here are 5 clothing pieces you didn’t know you needed until now.

  1. Dungarees: Some of you may be looking at me like seriously? Okay but hear me out, dungarees are such great pieces to have because they give such a 90s vibe which is what is currently in at the moment. Pairing black dungarees with a white or black top automatically gives you a minimalistic look whilst pairing your dungarees with a brightly patterned shirt gives you that 90s vibe you’re looking for. Not to mention, Dungarees look good with all types of shoes, boots, heels even slippers. 76e014c3f1288a4b1343392eb06139ef

overalls28  Look at how this woman wears her dungarees giving her an effortlessly clean and put together look when really if you look at it all she’s wearing is white dungarees and a white shirt, some heels and a clutch. Look at how comfortable she looks? You could legit wear that on an evening with the squad and look the best out of everyone (jokes but seriously)

2. Culottes– I myself am dreadfully in need of culottes. Culottes are EVERYTHING. Not only do they look comfortable, they are so versatile so you can wear them with just about anything and everything depending on the look you are trying to go for. Throw on a tight crop top for a great night out look,  a looser top for an office attire and a baggy blouse for just casual wear. You can never go wrong with Culottes, and just like dungarees, you can wear them with just about any pair of shoes.

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3. Fur coats: Do you want to look extra glamorous without actually trying? A Fur coat is the answer. Fur coats instantly glam up everything, is there a dress in your closet you so desperately want to wear but you feel like it looks too plain/ ordinary. What you need to do my darling, is invest in a fur coat however I must warn you, once you get one, you will get more. However make sure you get it in faux fur please!

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4. Crop top sets: Crop top sets are so grand because they give such a nice and put-together look and can be very flattering on the body. They are also so good because you don’t have to waste time thinking about what you should pair it with not to mention you get two pieces of clothing to do whatever you want with.

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5. Sunglasses: Okay so I know they aren’t clothing but sunglasses definitely give you that ultimate “ummphh” that your outfit needs. The moment you put those babies on, your outfit looks about 10x more chic.

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So I’ve helped your closet and wallet a bit with these my 5 simple clothing pieces, now you can look fabulous, anytime and anywhere without splashing a lot of cash and putting a lot of effort.

Which of these clothing items do you own and which are your favourites? Let me know in the comments below

Lots of love,

Gedo xx

I promise I’m not dying + What I listen to when I’m ignoring you.

Hey boos,

Okay so I know I’ve been very MIA currently but that’s because things have honestly been very hectic. Unfortunately I cant explain what is going on right now but once it is over, I promise I will sit down and tell the story as a testimony.

Another reason why I have been very lowkey lately is because I have no inspiration, I have absolutely no idea about what to write about like genuinely. The other day I actually searched up blog post ideas but I didn’t really like any of them so I bailed.

You know me, I can’t just leave you guys empty-handed so down below I have a list of my favourite songs/jams (I know sometimes you just need new music so you can thank me later *wink wink* also none of these songs are in order)

  1. Best thing I never had -Beyonce 

So I’m taking it back with a little old album Beyonce, but I absolutely love this song. For some reason when the chorus comes on, I feel so confident and powerful, you can legit feel the emotions in it and you just have to sing along I wont let you backkkk. 

2. Chief don’t run -Jidenna 

I love this song so much, it’s constantly on repeat. The beat when the song comes on legit drives me crazy guys you dont understand. Jidenna is an upcoming artist (I dont understand why he’s not famous yet) I just love Jidenna, he manages to incorporate Nigerian style into his Great Gatsby-esque fashion style. He’s genuinely like the Nigerian Jay Gatsby (except better). He also incorporates important topics like #BlackLivesMatter into his songs (and his rumoured girlfriend is so cute, I love her)

  3. Let me love you -Dj Snake, Justin Bieber 

4. Cold Water -Major Lazer, Justin Bieber, MO

Justin Bieber is really hitting it this days like I’ve never really been a Belieber (eyeroll) but Justin truly knows what I like now because all the current songs I have listened to from him are total jams (I love both the songs)

5. Only Girl -Kali Uchis, Steve Lacy, Vince Staples 

Would any of my song list be complete without Kali Uchis? I think not. I love Kali Uchis so much. Whenever I listen to her songs, I feel like riding a pink spray painted open top vintage car with cute sunglasses and fur (faux fur ofcourse). Her songs are quite slow and chill and perfect for evening settings.

6. Music to Watch Girls By -Studio Rio, Andy Williams 

I love the remix of the song so much, it reminds of palm trees and laying by the beach. It just has a very island-y vibe which is great for the summer, or even the autumn or winter when you want to reminisce about your summer.

7. Good Morning -Brymo 

I really like this song and I’m not even sure why, I just like the instrumental, it’s quite chill. Brymo is a Nigerian artist with the cutest smiles, the lyrics in the song are also really adorable, it just makes you wanna smile really hard.

8. Fada Fada -Phyno 

I love this song, I love the instrumentals, I love Phyno’s voice and the song just tops it because he’s thanking and praising God. Phyno is another Nigerian artist, I dont think he is as popular as Wizkid, Olamide and Davido but he features in a lot of songs with other Nigerian artists.

9. Wash -Tekno 

This song is so humorous which is why I love it so much. The lyrics are actually so funny, and when I listened to it the first time I was smiling so hard. Honestly go listen to this song right now and see what I mean.

10. Twale – Flo

This post would not be complete without my favourite gospel jams. This is one of my favourites, I love the lyrics and again the instrumentals. I feel like this song has a very unique sound to it which is why I like it so much.

11. Better -Hezekiah Walker 

This song makes me feel so much better (lol) about my life. It has such a positive vibe about it, it basically just speaks about how God is going to make everything better which is exactly what I need to be hearing, if you’re ever sad, LISTEN TO THIS SONG.

12. Worth – Anthony Brown & group therAPY

If you ever feel down or unloved or just not good enough, this is the song you need to be hearing. Whenever I listen to this, I tend to feel so loved and my heart feels full. One of the songs I really wanna sing when I get into the choir.

13. Every Moment -Forever Jones 

I really love this song, I feel like I’ve said this song for just about every song but honestly I really do love this song. Again, I love the lyrics in this song, I love the vocals, I love the instrumental, I love how simple and just innocent it sounds.

14. Spirit Break Out – William McDowell, Trinity Anderson 

I really like how this song starts out and when I listen to this song, I feel so passionate about God and worshipping him.

15. Brighter -Hillsong Young & Free

16. Alive -Hillsong Young & Free

I really like Hillsong Young & Free because I feel like the band manage to combine God and teenagery music  together so well. It’s like going to an awesome christian rave without the illegal drugs and actually praising God and having a good time.

17. Alright, Alright -Jules Bartholomew, & Judacamp, Latice Crawford

This song is so joyful and upbeat and has African American gospel choir vibe, it’ll be making you dance like David danced and I’ll be behind scream “GET IT, GET IT, GET IT”. The song is lit and it praises God, what else do you need?

18. In Christ Alone -Owl City 

This song is a slower worship-py type of song. I love how Owl City sang the song, I think his voice really suited it. This song used to be on repeat when I used to do worship sessions and even though I’ve listened to it often, I still love it.

19.  All the Way -Eben, Lord E

This is another Nigerian Praise song and it honestly sounds so good. The first time I heard it was on Mother’s day when the Mother’s put on a choreography (which was amazing if I may say so myself). The song is nice, and it has those nice Nigerian beats so you know you’ll be dancing whether you want or not.

20. Burial -Seinabo Sey 

This song always makes me feel like crying but it’s so good (this isnt gospel by the way). She’s quite different vocally, she has a deep-ish voice which think is really nice. Her instruments create a kind of dark/mysterious feel to her songs. One of her more “upbeat” song (it isnt really upbeat but it’s one of the “doesnt make me feel like crying” ones) is called Pistols at the dawn, which I also really like.

So here is the compiled list of my favourite songs, as you can see, I don’t really have 1 favorite genre, but I dabble around so it makes it easier for me to suggest songs. Hopefully you enjoy this little compilation I have made for you and if you want me to continue doing this, feel free to ask!

Have a blessed weekend,

Gedo xx

 

GeeSpeaks: how to deal with Afro-kinky weave especially if you don’t know what you’re doing

Hey boos,

Today we’re going to talk about something super exciting, weave!

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So I’m the type of person that sees something on someone and I’m like “wow, I need that” and I keep on going on and on and on about it until I finally get it which is how I ended up getting afro-kinky weave (this is what I used for prom and graduation)

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I watched a lot of videos about it and this is all the information I could gather about the hair put in simple terms, terms that you and I can understand.

So here it is, Afro kinky weave 101.

Before fixing the weave

  1. Taking care of Afro kinky weave is hard work,  it is not easy, if you’re the type of person that is lazy, procrastinates, doesn’t have time then stir clear of this hair type. I’m the type of person that just cannot be bothered so obviously I didn’t do the greatest job, don’t be like me, if you do the hair, commit to it.
  2. When you get the weave, some people prefer to co-wash it. But I decided against it however this is dependent on how tight you want your coils to be in the weave because when you co-wash it, it loosens the coils.
    1. co-wash: to wash your hair with just conditioner, click the link to learn how to do it if you’re interested (how to co-wash weave)

 

Whilst fixing the weave

  1. Having leave-out is something you have decide on before you go in to get your weave installed. If this is your first time doing this hairstyle, I advice you chill on the leave-out. Taking care of the weave is already stress enough, you don’t want to be worrying about the leave out also. However if you still wish to go on or if you’re interested ( Lay those edges gurl)
  2. If you don’t do the leave out, deciding on the type of parting you want is also important. I would advice no specific parting because that way you can do your own and change it up whenever you feel like it.

 

Night and day care

  1. Night care: Before I went to bed what I did was part my hair into four places and then tie it up, put a hair net over it and call it a night. What some people do is to part it into four and then braid it up however I suggest, unless you know that the hair you’re getting is top quality, don’t braid it out. I’m speaking from experience, because the night before my prom I decided to braid out the hair but then when I removed the braids the next day, the hair had tangled and just looked smaller and very un-neat. Instead of using a hairnet, you could use a satin scarf which I think is what most people use.
  2. Day care: You have to do this everyday, it doesn’t matter if you aren’t going anywhere. You’ll need a spray bottle, leave-in conditioner, water and some type of oil. Coconut oil is really good. So anyway what I did was, I took the hairnet off and then I’d spray each section making sure it was saturated with the fluid and then hand brush and de-tangle it and do my parting.

 

Other things 

  1. Shedding: mine shed a lot so be careful, but I think if you just get hair which is really good, shedding will be minimal. It was my first time using aliexpress so I didn’t really know what I was in for.
  2. Comb and brushes: try to avoid these as they could change the coiling pattern of the hair.
  3. Coiling pattern: Be aware that braiding, co-washing, twist outs could change the coiling pattern of your hair making it look different than what you started out with.
  4. Straightening: I’d advice for you, especially if it’s your first time and you don’t know what you’re doing then don’t do it.

 

Hope that was helpful, have a lovely weekend.

Gedo xx